The Undoing

Stop Hiding

At 3:35 on a Thursday afternoon, an email landed in Jenny's inbox: stop hiding. Unmute your voice. Show up and be seen. Two hours later, she'd hit record. After months of quiet (Maycember, the end of the school year, and a grief that's been all over the place), Jenny is back behind the mic, solo, talking about the thing she hasn't been able to talk about: the two unreleased episodes she recorded with her dear friend and co-creator Cynthia, and why her gut keeps saying not yet. It's not hiding. It's stewardship of something sacred. This episode is unpolished on purpose, because grief is unpolished, and because the most honest sentences are the ones that make someone in their car feel a little less alone. If you've been playing small, scared, or sad: your light isn't for everyone. But the people your light is for? They need you. In this episode: * (00:01) Maycember and the season of being quiet * (01:46) "Maybe I was just pushing through to keep her here with me" * (02:22) Trusting the gut, even when it says wait * (04:21) Two things can be true at the same time * (06:00) The email that said stop hiding, and recording two hours later * (08:17) You're not late. You're right on time. * (09:30) Bitter or better: the choice we make every day * (11:12) Cynthia's episodes will come, when the time is right Quotable moments: * "Maybe I was just pushing through to keep her here with me." * "Two things can be true at the same time. It's all a matter of perspective." * "Your light's not for them. But the people that your light is for need you." * "You can be bitter or you can get better. Which one do you want to be?" A note from Jenny: If you're feeling lonely, sad, or like you don't have anybody, please reach out for help. The world needs you and your gifts. 💛

You Were Never Meant to Choose Just One

You Were Never Meant to Choose Just One What happens when a society tells kids to pick one sport, one path, one identity before they even know who they are yet? In this episode I'm fired up about something I watched during Masters week that I can't stop thinking about. Multi-sport athletes showing up to the Drive Chip and Putt finals, kids who do it all, and somehow we're still out here telling children to specialize at eight years old. But this goes way beyond sports. We talk about what Barbara Corcoran's mom got right that most of us get wrong, why your brain believes whatever you repeatedly tell it, and the second grade teacher who changed the trajectory of my entire life with one sentence. And somewhere in the middle of all of it I ask the question I keep coming back to lately: how is this working out for me? Because that one question changes everything. This one's a little all over the place. But it all ties back to one thing. You have a choice. ---------------------------------------- Episode Timestamps * 00:00 Welcome & batch recording confession * 01:15 Masters week and the Drive Chip and Putt finals * 03:00 Multi-sport athletes and what the commentators got right * 05:00 Bella's story, cheer, golf, track and the choice she wasn't given * 06:45 Two things can be true at the same time * 08:00 What are we doing to our kids with early specialization * 09:30 The Mel Robbins episode that stopped me in my tracks * 10:30 Barbara Corcoran, dyslexia, and a mom who saw her strengths first * 11:45 Your brain believes whatever you tell it * 12:30 The second grade teacher who changed everything for me * 13:45 Bitter or better, it becomes your choice * 15:00 How is this working out for me? * 16:30 The only thing you can control is how you respond ---------------------------------------- Resources & Links Mentioned * Mel Robbins Podcast featuring Barbara Corcoran * Work with Jenny: jenny@jennymckim.com [jenny@jennymckim.com] ---------------------------------------- Connect With Us * Instagram: / theundoingpod * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php]?... * YouTube: / @theundoingpod313 * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the.undoing.p [https://www.tiktok.com/@the.undoing.p]... * Email for guest inquiries: jenny@jennymckim.com [jenny@jennymckim.com] ---------------------------------------- Enjoyed This Episode? If this one hit home, share it with a parent, coach, or educator who needs to hear it. And if you haven't subscribed yet, do it so you never miss an episode. Every share helps us reach the families and athletes who need this message most. #ForCynthia #StayCurious

One Session. No Spot. A Personal Best. Bella's Story.

One session with Cynthia. The very next day, Bella walked into the gym and started throwing her tucks without a spot. No hesitation. No asking permission. Just doing the thing she had been blocked on for months. Then she went out and shot a 77. A personal best. In this episode, Jenny sits down with her daughter Bella to talk about what mental performance coaching actually looks like from the inside, what it feels like to have a block cleared, and what it meant to work with someone as gifted as Cynthia. This one is equal parts mental performance deep dive and a love letter to a woman who changed Bella's life in ways that are still unfolding. Stay Curious. WHAT YOU'LL TAKE AWAY - Mental blocks are real and they are also moveable. - The subconscious mind doesn't care how hard you're trying. It cares what it believes. - One session can shift something you've been carrying for years. - Performing for others and performing for yourself require two different kinds of confidence. - The people who believe in you before you believe in yourself matter more than you know. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE - Muscle Testing Techniques: [placeholder link] - Cynthia's Coaching: [placeholder link] - Yoda Quote (Star Wars): [placeholder link] CONNECT WITH BELLA Instagram: instagram.com/bellamckim [http://instagram.com/bellamckim] Facebook: facebook.com/bellamckim [http://facebook.com/bellamckim] CONNECT WITH JENNY The Undoing Podcast | Stay Curious | #ForCynthia #TheUndoing #StayCurious

She Broke the Mental Block, Shot Her Best Round Ever, and Fired Her Mom as Coach

She Broke the Mental Block, Shot Her Best Round Ever, and Fired Her Mom as Coach What happens when a mental performance coach's own kid won't let her coach them? You get this episode. Today I'm joined by my daughter Bella McKim, junior golfer, former cheerleader, Mid-Southern Conference hurdles champion, and the person most likely to roll her eyes at me on any given day, for a conversation I've been wanting to have since we lost Cynthia. Cynthia was my podcast co-host, my friend, and creator of the subconscious release and rewire program who worked with Bella on a tumbling mental block that we had been trying to crack for years. One session on Wednesday. Standing tucks by Thursday. A personal best 77 on the golf course shortly after. And zero credit given to her mom who set the whole thing up. (You're welcome, Bella!) We talk about how subconscious reprogramming actually works, what it felt like when the anxiety just... stopped, and what it's like growing up with a mom who knows exactly how to help you but is absolutely not allowed to. This one is real, a little funny, and a whole lot of love for Bella, and for Cynthia. #ForCynthia #StayCurious ---------------------------------------- Episode Timestamps * 00:00 Welcome & Meet Bella * 02:22 Who was Cynthia and how did they meet * 02:45 "There's My Sweet Bee," Cynthia's nickname for Bella * 03:00 The tumbling mental block and working with Cynthia * 04:31 Standing tucks by Thursday, the breakthrough * 06:42 She shot a 77 and didn't know why * 08:25 Panic attack before nationals, a clearing session with one hour to go * 10:18 What is subconscious reprogramming and how does it actually work * 11:54 Muscle testing 101, anyone can do this * 13:59 Bella's senior year plans and college golf dreams * 15:58 Why Bella loves to be pushed hard in training * 18:02 "I just want you to be my mom" * 18:17 The moment that will make every parent feel seen * 19:13 Yoda, Venmo requests, and the sendoff ---------------------------------------- Resources & Links Mentioned * Work with Jenny: jenny@jennymckim.com [jenny@jennymckim.com] ---------------------------------------- Connect With Us * Instagram: theundoingpod [https://www.instagram.com/theundoingpod/] * Facebook: The Undoing Pod [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585533177125] * YouTube: The Undoing Pod [http://www.youtube.com/@TheUndoingPod313] * TikTok: The Undoing Pod [https://www.tiktok.com/@the.undoing.pod?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] * Email for guest inquiries: jenny@jennymckim.com [jenny@jennymckim.com] ---------------------------------------- Enjoyed This Episode? If this episode resonated with you, share it with a parent or athlete who needs to hear it. And if you haven't already, subscribe so you never miss an episode. Every share helps us reach the athletes and families who need this message most. #ForCynthia #StayCurious

When Grief Shows Up Uninvited

Nobody warns you that grief lives in battery drawers. Or that it'll wait patiently for a completely ordinary moment to knock you flat. This episode is me getting honest about carrying loss while still trying to show up for your life, why self-care is not a buzzword when you're grieving, and how you can be the most powerful person in the room and still need a good cry in your car. Just me? Cool, come listen anyway. Stay Curious. WHAT YOU'LL TAKE AWAY - Grief doesn't follow a timeline. It shows up in the middle of a Tuesday. - You can check every box of "doing okay" and still get knocked sideways. - Funerals do something for us that we don't let ourselves name. - Checking on people isn't charity. It's just good humanity. - You're allowed to be powerful and tender at the same time. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE - Brene Brown's work on vulnerability: amazon.com/s?k=brene+brown [http://amazon.com/s?k=brene+brown] - Ted Lasso: apple.com/tv-prize/ted-lasso [http://apple.com/tv-prize/ted-lasso] - Scandal (Olivia Pope): abc.com/shows/scandal [http://abc.com/shows/scandal] - The Fort Lauderdale travel saga (bonus episode): https://youtu.be/ci2dRFBWgjk?si=4yBslMbUVigY6Xwh [https://youtu.be/ci2dRFBWgjk?si=4yBslMbUVigY6Xwh] CONNECT WITH JENNY The Undoing Podcast | Stay Curious | #ForCynthia #TheUndoing #StayCurious