Ep. 6 - Follow the YES: The Mindset Shift (and Audition) That Launched My Singing Career After Six Years of Hearing No
Have you ever felt like you were beating your fist against closed doors… over and over… and nothing was opening? Like you keep trying and hearing no for the umpteenth time? Maybe it's in your vocal technique, maybe it's in your performing career pursuits...
I've been there too, my friend.
For years.
Six years to be exact.
Six years of trying. Hearing no nonstop. Wondering if I was just beating my fist against closed doors that were never going to open… and wondering if I should quit singing and give up on my dreams.
And then, after six years, one audition opened the door for me and launched my career.
Not because I forced the door open, but because I finally started walking through the open ones.
In this episode of The Aligned Singer, I'm sharing a three-word mantra I came up with in my 20s, right when things started to shift in my singing career.
The mantra is this: Follow the YES.
I take you back to my early years in New York City, where I spent six years working multiple jobs to make ends meet, applying to young artist programs that wouldn't even hear me, and feeling like I was behind a pane of glass, looking at the career I wanted but having no idea how to get through.
Then one door opened. Just one.
And that one door led me to the New York Philharmonic, the Salzburg Festival, the Verbier Festival, and a performing life I'm still kind of pinching myself over.
When I started looking backwards and figuring out what worked, I realized something important:
It wasn't the closed doors that got me there. It was the open ones I walked through.
There's more:
I realized there wasn't just one open door — there were many. And once I started to follow the YES, it connected me with more and more dream performing opportunities. The YESes started to multiply.
This episode is about learning how to spot the YES in your own singing life, trust your inner knowing, and stop spending your precious energy on doors that are closed (at least in this moment).
You'll also hear about the Two-Minute Detective Exercise, a simple written exercise I still use today to help connect the dots and recognize where momentum is already building.
In this episode you'll learn:
• what to do when you feel like you're beating yourself against closed doors
• how to discern a closed door and an open one in your singing career
• what it actually feels like in your body when something is a true yes (expansion versus contraction)
• how following the YES creates more opportunities, more connections, more momentum, and somehow more YES
• how to use the 2-Minute Detective Exercise to recognize where momentum is already building
• a simple written exercise to help you connect the dots and follow the yes in your own life and career
• why your inner knowing matters just as much as the outer work of technique and career-building
I also share the mindset that helped me stop feeling like a failure over the doors that wouldn’t open and start accepting opportunities where they were already waiting for me.
Because here's what I've learned:
There isn't just one door.There isn't just one opportunity for you.
There are many.
When you start following the YES, more doors begin to appear. Following the YES leads to more and more YESses.
Episode Chapters:
0:00 Welcome to The Aligned Singer
1:39 How “Follow the YES” was born
2:40 How to get clear on your inner YES when there’s a lot of external noise around you
10:21 Six years of closed doors and what that felt like
14:52 The one audition that opened the door and launched my career after six years of trying
18:42 When the phrase “Follow the YES” appeared
21:26 Applying Follow the YES to your singing life
26:21 Yes is expansion versus contraction
28:10 The Two-Minute Detective Exercise
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