Re-Release: Stop Spiraling: How to Catch the Thoughts That Stress You Out as a Parent

Re-Release: Stop Spiraling: How to Catch the Thoughts That Stress You Out as a Parent

We're re-releasing this episode because the topic keeps coming up — over and over again — in our work with parents. How we think matters. It shapes how we feel, how we act, and how we show up in our relationships with our teens. Parenting isn't only about our kids — our own well-being, our own thought patterns, and our own mental health matter too. If you caught this one when it first aired as Episode 13, we think it's worth a second listen. And if you're new here, this is a great place to start. Do you ever catch yourself thinking your teen "should" have done something differently — or spiral from one bad moment straight to imagining the worst? You might be stuck in a 'thinking trap.' In this episode, Dr. Suzanne Allen and Dr. Annalise Caron break down three of the most common thinking traps parents of tweens and teens fall into, and share simple, practical ways to shift your thinking so you can show up calmer, clearer, and more connected. What we cover: * "Should" thinking — why this one word quietly cranks up frustration and how to swap it out * Mental filter — when you zoom in on everything going wrong and tune out everything that's going right * Jumping to conclusions — how one moment with your teen can send your brain spiraling into worst-case scenarios * One powerful question — "What else could be true?" — that works for all three traps Whether you're navigating daily friction or a more serious situation with your teen, these tools will help you pause the spiral and respond with more patience and perspective. Timestamps:  00:00 – Are You Spiraling About Your Teen?  01:00 – What Are Thinking Traps & Why They Matter  03:00 – Dr. Allen's Checkout Line Moment  05:24 – Trap #1: "Should" Thinking  09:34 – Trap #2: Mental Filter  16:26 – Trap #3: Jumping to Conclusions  20:23 – One Question to Reframe Everything 👍 If you found this helpful, subscribe to The Parenting Pair Podcast and share this episode with another teen or tween parent. 🎙️ Hosted by Clinical Psychologists, Dr. Annalise Caron and Dr. Suzanne Allen. 🔔 New episodes every Wednesday — subscribe so you never miss one. ✉️ Newsletter: https://drscaronandallen.com [https://drscaronandallen.com/]  📱 Instagram: @theparentingpair  💬 Questions you want answered on future episodes or topic suggestions: hello@theparentingpair.com DISCLAIMER: The Parenting Pair Podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional psychological or medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you have concerns about your or a family member's wellbeing, please contact a licensed mental health professional or physician.

Screens All Summer? How to Avoid Constant Fights With Your Tween or Teen

Summer break is supposed to be relaxing—but for many parents of tweens and teens, it quickly turns into a battle over screens, video games, YouTube, and endless hours indoors. In this episode of The Parenting Pair Podcast, clinical psychologists Dr. Annalise Caron and Dr. Suzanne Allen tackle a question many parents are asking right now: "What do I do if my teen wants to spend the entire summer gaming or watching TV?" Whether your child is too old for traditional summer camps, too young for a job, or simply facing weeks of unstructured time, it can be incredibly stressful to watch screens become the default activity. Parents often find themselves worrying that they're failing, arguing constantly about technology, or wondering if their child is missing out on important developmental experiences. In this practical and compassionate conversation, Annalise and Suzanne discuss how parents can approach summer differently—moving away from power struggles and toward collaboration, curiosity, and realistic expectations. You'll learn: ✔️ Why many parents feel guilty about summer screen time ✔️ How anxiety and catastrophizing can make screen conflicts worse ✔️ Ways to collaborate with your tween or teen when planning summer activities ✔️ How to shift from pessimism to possibility-focused thinking ✔️ Why video games don't have to be the enemy ✔️ The concept of creating a balanced "summer diet" of activities ✔️ How to encourage independence, social connection, and exploration without constant battles ✔️ Practical resources and ideas for families navigating long, unstructured summer days Chapters: 00:00 -  Introduction: Expanding Your Teen's Summer Possibilities 00:44 - Summer Break & Screen Time: Helping Teens Balance Free Time 02:36 - Four Key Areas to Consider This Summer 03:05 - 1. Common Parenting Thinking Traps Around Summer Screen Time 07:42 - 2. How to Collaborate With Your Teen Instead of Fighting Them 09:57 - 3. Questions That Help Teens Explore New Summer Opportunities 13:53 - 4. Resources for Evaluating Games, Apps & Media Content If you're worried your teen will spend the entire summer on YouTube, Xbox, TikTok, or their phone, this episode offers guidance to help you reduce conflict and create a more balanced summer experience. Useful resources discussed in this episode: Common Sense Media: https://www.commonsensemedia.org/ [https://www.commonsensemedia.org/] Family Media Plan:  https://www.healthychildren.org/english/fmp/pages/mediaplan.aspx?_gl=1*cx15ma*_ga*MTcxNzk0OTc3MC4xNzgxNzk3NzUw*_ga_FD9D3XZVQQ*czE3ODE3OTc3NTAkbzEkZzEkdDE3ODE3OTc4MzEkajQ2JGwwJGgw [https://www.healthychildren.org/english/fmp/pages/mediaplan.aspx?_gl=1*cx15ma*_ga*MTcxNzk0OTc3MC4xNzgxNzk3NzUw*_ga_FD9D3XZVQQ*czE3ODE3OTc3NTAkbzEkZzEkdDE3ODE3OTc4MzEkajQ2JGwwJGgw] 💡 Remember: the goal isn't perfection. It's helping your child build a summer that includes connection, growth, rest, and fun. 👍 If you found this helpful, subscribe to The Parenting Pair Podcast and share this episode with another teen or tween parent. 🎙️ Hosted by Clinical Psychologists, Dr. Annalise Caron and Dr. Suzanne Allen. 🔔 New episodes every Wednesday — subscribe so you never miss one. ✉️ Newsletter: https://drscaronandallen.com [https://drscaronandallen.com/]  📱 Instagram: @theparentingpair  💬 Questions or topic suggestions: hello@theparentingpair.com DISCLAIMER: The Parenting Pair Podcast is designed for informational and educational purposes only. Do not rely on the information presented in this podcast as a substitute or replacement for professional -- psychological or medical -- advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you have concerns about you or a family member's well being, please contact a licensed mental health professional or physician.

The Real College Conversation: What Every Parent Needs to Know Before (and After) Freshman Year

Starting college is exciting—but it can also be overwhelming for both young people and parents. In this episode of The Parenting Pair Podcast, clinical psychologists Dr. Annalise Caron and Dr. Suzanne Allen are joined by clinical psychologists and college transition experts, Dr. Liz Seidler and Dr. Sarah Olivo to discuss what really happens when teens leave home and begin living on their own. From homesickness and making friends to executive functioning, self-advocacy, managing emotions, and navigating newfound independence, they share practical, evidence-based strategies to help families prepare for one of life's biggest transitions. Whether your child is heading off to a dorm, moving away for the first time, or simply preparing for college life, this conversation offers actionable advice that can reduce stress and set both parents and students up for success. In this episode, you'll learn: 🎓 How to prepare teens for the transition to college 🏠 Common challenges students face when living independently 💬 Why self-advocacy is one of the most important college skills 🧠 How executive functioning impacts college success ❤️ Ways parents can support without becoming overinvolved 📚 Practical tips for fostering resilience and confidence Highlights from this episode: 00:00 Why Meaningful Connection Is All Your College Student Needs 01:05 Meet Dr. Liz Seidler & Dr. Sarah Olivo 01:42 Helping Teens Transition to College Independence 04:44 The Biggest Challenges Students Face During Freshman Year 08:44 How Parents Can Best Support Teens Starting College 10:07 4 Ways Parents Can Help: Mind the Story You Tell About College 12:13 4 Ways Parents Can Help: Ask Better Questions & Invite Conversation 15:39 4 Ways Parents Can Help: Create an Emotional Plan Before Move-In 18:42 4 Ways Parents Can Help: Listen Before You Problem-Solve 22:12 Parent Group Chats: Helpful Resource or Hidden Pitfall? 26:35 What College Students Actually Find Most Helpful 28:46 Why Meaningful Campus Connections Matter for Student Success 31:44 Listen to the “College Is Fine, Everything's Fine" Podcast If you're getting ready to send your child to college or you have a college student who has just returned home, this episode is one you won't want to miss. To learn more about Dr. Liz Seidler and Dr. Sarah Olivo, please visit their “College is Fine, Everything’s Fine” podcast website, YouTube channel or individual practice websites: Listen to “College Is Fine, Everything's Fine” Podcast here: https://www.collegeisfinepodcast.com/ [https://www.collegeisfinepodcast.com/] “College is Fine, Everything's Fine” YouTube Channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@CollegeIsFinePodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@CollegeIsFinePodcast] Dr. Liz Seidler’s website:  https://www.cbtridgefield.com/ [https://www.cbtridgefield.com/] Dr. Sarah Olivio’s website: https://www.drsaraholivo.com/ [https://www.drsaraholivo.com/] Additional Resources Discussed in this episode: Mental Health in College: What Research Tells Us About Supporting Students by Alexis Redding https://www.amazon.com/Mental-Health-College-Research-Supporting/dp/B0FQ9HXNB6 👍 If you found this helpful, subscribe to The Parenting Pair Podcast and share this episode with another parent preparing for college season. 🎙️ Hosted by Clinical Psychologists Annalise Caron and Suzanne Allen. 🔔 New episodes every Wednesday — subscribe so you never miss one. ✉️ Newsletter: https://drscaronandallen.com [https://drscaronandallen.com/]  📱 Instagram: @theparentingpair  💬 Questions or topic suggestions: hello@theparentingpair.com DISCLAIMER: The Parenting Pair Podcast is designed for informational and educational purposes only. Do not rely on the information presented in this podcast as a substitute or replacement for professional -- psychological or medical -- advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you have concerns about you or a family member's well being, please contact a licensed mental health professional or physician.

Why Women Struggle With Sleep: From Adolescence to Menopause | Dr. Shelby Harris

Sleep problems are incredibly common among women—but they're often misunderstood. In this episode of The Parenting Pair Podcast, clinical psychologists Annalise Caron and Suzanne Allen sit down with renowned sleep expert and board certified behavior sleep medicine specialist Dr. Shelby Harris to explore why women experience unique sleep challenges throughout their lives, from adolescence and parenthood to perimenopause and menopause. Together, they unpack the biological, hormonal, emotional, and lifestyle factors that contribute to insomnia and sleep disruption, while offering practical, evidence-based strategies to improve sleep quality and overall well-being. Whether you're a parent struggling with sleep, supporting a teen with sleep challenges, navigating midlife hormonal changes, or simply wondering why a good night's rest feels so elusive, this conversation is filled with actionable insights and hope. In this episode, we discuss: ✔️ Why insomnia is more common in women ✔️ Hormones, sleep, and life transitions ✔️ The impact of stress, anxiety, and caregiving responsibilities ✔️ Sleep challenges during pregnancy, parenthood, perimenopause, and menopause ✔️ Common misconceptions about insomnia ✔️ Evidence-based strategies for improving sleep ✔️ When to seek professional support Highlights from this episode: 00:00 Introduction: Why Women Struggle With Sleep 00:46 Meet Dr. Shelby Harris, clinical psychologist and Diplomate in Behavioral Sleep Medicine 03:10 Book Recommendation: The Women's Guide to Overcoming Insomnia 03:52 How Women's Sleep Changes Across the Lifespan 07:31 How Sleep Differs Between Women and Men 09:04 Trouble Sleeping? Why You Should Get Evaluated 09:39 What Insomnia Really Is (And What It Looks Like) 13:56 Why Women Often Delay Seeking Help for Sleep Problems 14:56 When and Where to Get Your Sleep Evaluated 20:53 CBT-I Explained: The Gold Standard for Insomnia Treatment 24:47 Sleep Apnea and Weight: Are They Related? 27:02 Sleep Apnea in Women: What the Research Shows 32:20 Revenge Bedtime Procrastination or "Momsomnia" 38:15 Follow Dr. Shelby Harris for More Sleep Tips 40:26 Dr. Shelby Harris's Top Recommendations for Better Sleep Sleep affects every aspect of our lives—from emotional regulation and mental health to parenting, relationships, and physical health. Understanding how sleep changes across the lifespan can help you make informed decisions and develop healthier habits. Resources discussed in this episode: Where to find Dr. Shelby Harris: https://www.drshelbyharris.com/ @sleepdocshelby The Women's Guide to Overcoming Insomnia, Dr. Shelby Harris https://wwnorton.com/books/9780393711615 The Essential Guide To Children's Sleep: A Tired Caregiver's Workbook for Every Age and Stage, Dr. Andrea Roth, Dr. Allison Shele & Dr. Shelby Harris https://www.apa.org/pubs/books/essential-guide-childrens-sleep The Parenting Pair Podcast: Why Teens Don't Sleep (and What Parents Can Do About It) https://drscaronandallen.com/podcast/episode/why-teens-dont-sleep-and-what-parents-can-do-about-it/ The Parenting Pair Podcast: Sleep Struggles in Tweens and Teens: Insomnia, Nightmares and When Parents Should Seek Help https://drscaronandallen.com/podcast/episode/sleep-struggles-in-tweens-and-teens-insomnia-nightmares-and-when-parents-should-seek-help/   If you found this episode helpful, please like, subscribe, and share it with someone who could benefit from this conversation. 🎙️ Hosted by Clinical Psychologists Annalise Caron and Suzanne Allen. 🔔 New episodes every Wednesday — subscribe so you never miss one. ✉️ Newsletter: https://drscaronandallen.com [https://drscaronandallen.com/]  📱 Instagram: @theparentingpair  💬 Questions or topic suggestions: hello@theparentingpair.com DISCLAIMER: The Parenting Pair Podcast is designed for informational and educational purposes only. Do not rely on the information presented in this podcast as a substitute or replacement for professional -- psychological or medical -- advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you have concerns about you or a family member's well being, please contact a licensed mental health professional or physician.

Why Your Teen Is Always Late: Time Blindness, ADHD, and What Helps

Does your teen constantly run late, underestimate how long tasks will take, or seem completely unaware of how much time has passed? It might be time blindness. In this episode of The Parenting Pair Podcast, clinical psychologists Dr. Annalise Caron and Dr. Suzanne Allen explore time blindness — a common but often misunderstood executive functioning challenge that affects tweens, teens, and young adults. Many parents interpret these struggles as laziness, avoidance, or irresponsibility. But for many teens, time blindness is connected to real differences in brain functioning, ADHD, and executive functioning. In this episode, we cover: * What time blindness actually is * Why some teens genuinely struggle to "feel" time passing * How ADHD and executive functioning are connected to time blindness * Why lateness triggers panic, frustration, and family conflict * "Waiting mode" and why teens get stuck before tasks * Why shame and punishment often backfire * Practical strategies parents can use at home — timers, visual calendars, clocks, task chunking, and more Highlights from this episode: 00:00 — What Time Blindness Really Feels Like 01:36 — What Is Time Blindness? Signs Parents Should Know 06:06 — How Time Blindness Impacts Family Life 06:14 — Why Teens With Time Blindness Are Often Late 08:14 — The Big Emotions Behind Time Blindness: Panic, Stress & Frustration 09:36 — “Waiting Mode” and Why Teens Get Stuck 13:07 — Time Blindness Is a Brain-Based Challenge, Not a Character Flaw 14:48 — Practical Strategies That Help With Time Blindness 15:04 — Strategy 1- Building Understanding and Compassion at Home 16:01 — Strategy 2- How Alarms Can Support Teens With Time Blindness 17:28 — Strategy 3- Why Visible Clocks Matter More Than You Think 18:11 — Strategy 4- Using Countdown Timers to Improve Time Awareness 18:23 — Strategy 5- Visual Calendars That Actually Help Teens Stay Organized 19:22 — Strategy 6- Why Start Timers Help Teens Begin Tasks 19:54 — Strategy 7- Time Tracking and “Backing Out” of Time Explained 21:28 — Strategy 8- Why Teens Need Scheduled “Free Brain Time” 23:32 — Strategy 9- Breaking Big Tasks Into Smaller Daily Steps 24:12 — Can ADHD Medication Help With Time Blindness? 25:03 — Final Thoughts: Supporting Teens With Time Blindness Whether you're parenting a tween, teen, or college student, this conversation offers practical, compassionate guidance grounded in adolescent psychology. 🔔 New episodes every Wednesday — subscribe so you never miss one. ✉️ Newsletter: https://drscaronandallen.com [https://drscaronandallen.com/]  📱 Instagram: @theparentingpair  💬 Questions or topic suggestions: hello@theparentingpair.com DISCLAIMER: The Parenting Pair Podcast is designed for informational and educational purposes only. Do not rely on the information presented in this podcast as a substitute or replacement for professional -- psychological or medical -- advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you have concerns about you or a family member's well being, please contact a licensed mental health professional or physician.