The Self-Healing School Podcast

Women Were Never Meant to Live This Disconnected

“I feel like a stranger in my own skin, disconnected from my thoughts and emotions. I don’t know what I want or where I’m going.” When I read that, it made my heart ache a little because I know that feeling. Before I started my healing journey, my relationship with myself and my body wasn’t great. I felt uncomfortable in my own skin. And honestly, it’s one of the reasons why I started drinking at such a young age. I was at a party and I didn’t feel like I belonged, and the drinking helped me escape. And even if it was fake and it wasn’t real, I felt like I fit in. I’m sure I’ve told you before that I felt so damaged that when I started making jewelry years ago, I literally created a collection called Damaged Goods because that’s how I saw myself. Disconnected and out of place. Like everyone else got the handbook for living and being human, but God skipped over me. Women Are Living With This Pain Every Day And what made me feel emotional wasn’t just remembering my own pain. A lot of it is knowing how many women are still living with this pain today. There are so many women who feel disconnected from themselves, and they don’t feel safe in their bodies. The one thing that’s truly ours, truly yours, and you don’t feel safe in it. So many women have become strangers to themselves without even realizing it. And for us, it starts at such a young age. We carry it into adulthood. Then we numb out, scroll, stay busy, consume every podcast, overthink, drink, all to avoid things getting quiet. When Things Get Quiet Because when you’re alone, and there’s no noise, you can feel the disconnection and loneliness. And when you live with that long enough, it starts to feel permanent, like it’s never going to change. Like it’s just who you are and you’ll always feel disconnected so another 3 years pass and you still haven’t started the business, which means another 3 years of doubting yourself, and watching other people live their purpose while telling yourself “maybe someday.” Like you don’t fit in with the world or even with yourself, and you never fully relax around other people because part of you is always performing, and shape-shifting, trying to avoid rejection. Like you’re always just on the outside looking in, trying to figure out how to get in, but staying on the sidelines just reinforces the belief that you don’t belong and you’re not worthy enough to fully go after what you want. But I Need You to Know Something You are not damaged, and there’s nothing wrong with you. You are worthy and you belong. It may not feel like that because your body has learned to protect you, and disconnection is one of the ways it’s been doing so. The Three Protective Patterns Over the past few months, I’ve started noticing three protective patterns women tend to fall into when they no longer feel safe being fully connected to themselves and their bodies. I call them: ~The Stranger. ~The Intellectual. ~The Performer. I created a short Archetype Quiz to help you discover which protective pattern your body may be living in right now. You can take it here. No sign-up necessary. You’ll get a brief snapshot of your archetype. Then if you reply back to this email with your archetype, I’ll send you the full, deeper breakdown of: * why this pattern formed * what your body has been trying to protect you from * and what it actually needs to finally feel safe enough to reconnect to yourself again Because this work is my real work in the world. Helping women come home to themselves again because when a woman feels truly connected to herself again, she starts actually moving toward the life, purpose, relationships, and work she knows she is here for. Much love, Essence Get full access to The Self-Healing School at www.theselfhealingschool.com/subscribe [https://www.theselfhealingschool.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

I used to feel like a stranger to myself

What calling have you been sleeping on? I really want you to sit with that question for a second. What do you know in your heart you are meant to do, create, say, share, or become… but you keep letting fear, overthinking, distractions, excuses, or self-doubt stop you from fully stepping into it? Because I feel like I have finally gotten to the place where I’m letting myself fully do what I know in my heart I’m here to do and I want that for you too. The work I’m really here to do For a long time, I’ve worked with women around forgiveness, relationships, visibility fears, healing what comes up in business and marketing, and all of that work matters to me. I love it. But my deeper calling is… Helping women love themselves and feel safe in their bodies again. Helping women stop living almost entirely from the mind and start building a deeper relationship with themselves through the body.And through learning how to actually be with themselves again. The Stranger When you come home to your body and to yourself, you can take action toward your purpose with so much more ease instead of fighting against yourself. And I know “coming home to yourself” gets said a lot now, but honestly… that really is the work. Because so many women are strangers to themselves. A lot of women treat themselves the way they treat the neighbor three doors down. You know they’re there, but you barely really connect with them. You hope you don’t accidentally run into them while taking the garbage out because then you’ll have to stop and talk.But you’d rather keep your distance. And that is how so many women live with themselves…distant Barely checking in, rarely listening, won’t sit with themselves long enough to really feel what’s there.Always in their heads or staying busy. And I’m here to change that! I understand why women are strangers to themselves. Because for a lot of women, the body does not feel safe to be in. It’s holding heartbreak, shame, fear, and old pain. So being fully present with yourself can feel like too much sometimes. I get that because I was there too. I didn’t like myself.I’d purposely get up and walk into the bathroom, look in the mirror and say the meanest things to myself. I also used to drink to avoid my feelings and the heaviness in my heart. But drinking daily wasn’t just drowning out my feelings, it was drowning out my soul’s calling as well. It’s hard to hear your intuition when you’re numbing, running away and avoiding yourself. Learning how to stay It took work but I learned how to stay with myself no matter what. How to love myself even with dark circles, patchy skin, anger, moodiness, tenderness, peace, the full range of emotions that come to visit me. I quit running to alcohol when things felt heavy or I made a mistake that I wanted to forget about. I stopped making myself wrong for being fully human. And that’s changed my life. This journey, the good and the bad led me to my purpose. That is my magic. Helping women stop hiding and being strangers to themselves. Helping women trust their bodies and intuition again.And trust the feminine wisdom inside of them that has been trying to guide them to their purpose the whole time. So I’ll ask you again What calling have you been sleeping on? What are you here to do & how’s the journey going? Reply and share, I want to hear from you. Much love, Essence Get full access to The Self-Healing School at www.theselfhealingschool.com/subscribe [https://www.theselfhealingschool.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

Making more money felt unsafe to my body...here's why

Podcast Show Notes For years, I chose the quieter role.The safer role.The lower-paying role. Not because I wasn’t capable… but because deep down, my body did not feel safe being fully seen. In this episode, I share a personal story about how nervous system regulation, somatic work, and self-trust completely changed the way I move through leadership, visibility, money, and uncertainty. I talk about: Why anxious thinking can quietly keep you playing small How fear of judgment impacts opportunities and income The hidden connection between self-trust and the body What shifted after years of somatic healing and Kundalini training The moment I realized I no longer needed to know everything to feel safe in leadership Why nervous system safety matters more than “confidence” How becoming anchored in yourself changes the way you handle uncertainty This episode is for anyone who knows they’re capable of more… but feels themselves shrinking, hesitating, overthinking, or avoiding visibility when bigger opportunities appear. Because often, it’s not a lack of intelligence, talent, or potential. It’s a lack of safety in the body around being seen, imperfect, challenged, or uncertain. And when that begins to change, your entire life can change with it. Key Takeaways Your anxious thoughts may be costing you opportunities you’re fully capable of handling. Self-trust is built through learning how to stay connected to yourself during uncertainty. Fear around money and visibility is often fear of how you’ll feel about yourself if something goes wrong. Nervous system regulation changes how you experience leadership, pressure, and responsibility. You do not need to know everything to be capable, respected, or worthy of taking up space. There is a version of you that can hold more more money, visibility, leadership, and responsibility when your body feels safe enough to receive it. Get full access to The Self-Healing School at www.theselfhealingschool.com/subscribe [https://www.theselfhealingschool.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

Spring Attunement Self-Healing Sunday

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Spring Attunement Live (Self-Healing Sunday)

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