Tutum Talk with Cara Nance

Ep 34 | Ambition, Motherhood, and the Courage to Want More with Alicia Grantham

What happens when the version of success you worked so hard to build no longer feels aligned with the life you want to live? In this episode of Tutum Talk, Cara sits down with Alicia Grantham, founder of Lavender and Lemons Coaching, for an honest conversation about ambition, motherhood, identity, burnout, and redefining success on your own terms. After years of climbing the corporate ladder, Alicia began to realize that while she still desired meaningful work and financial freedom, she no longer wanted achievement at the expense of her well-being, family, or sense of self. Together, Cara and Alicia explore the quiet tension many ambitious women carry: wanting more while also longing for peace, flexibility, and alignment. This conversation is a gentle but powerful reminder that success can evolve alongside us — and that choosing a different path does not mean you’ve failed. It may simply mean you’re becoming more honest about what truly matters. Whether you’re navigating leadership, motherhood, career transition, burnout, or the pressure to “hold it all together,” this episode offers encouragement, reflection, and permission to redefine success in a way that feels sustainable and true. In this episode, Cara and Alicia discuss: • Redefining success beyond titles and external validation • The hidden emotional weight many ambitious mothers carry • Career pivots, identity shifts, and evolving priorities • Why self-care is essential, not selfish • Creating boundaries that support both ambition and well-being • Learning to trust yourself during seasons of change • Building a life and career that align with your values About Alicia Grantham: Alicia Grantham is the founder of Lavender and Lemons Coaching and a strategic coach for ambitious moms who feel successful on paper but internally exhausted. After a successful corporate career as a CPA and leader, Alicia now helps women build careers and lives that feel aligned with who they are becoming — without sacrificing themselves in the process. Connect with Alicia on Instagram: @a.s.grantham Listen to: The Mom’s Got This... Mostly Podcast [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-moms-got-this-mostly-podcast/id1823046248] If this episode resonated with you, please consider subscribing, sharing with someone who may need this conversation, or leaving a review. And if you’re navigating leadership, burnout, transition, or personal growth, Cara would love to connect with you for one-on-one coaching support. Connect with Cara: https://www.tutumleadershipcoaching.com/ About Tutum Talk: Tutum Talk with Cara Nance is a podcast for leaders who lead with heart - even when they doubt themselves. Through honest conversations about presence, intuition, courage, and connection, Cara helps listeners build leadership rooted in humanity, not perfection. Music provided by Music_Unlimited

Ep 33 | Unlearning Money Shame and Reclaiming Financial Confidence with Sarah Elder

What if your relationship with money didn’t actually begin with you? Many of us inherited unconscious beliefs about money through family dynamics, cultural conditioning, silence, stress, scarcity, or messages we absorbed long before we understood their impact. Over time, those beliefs can quietly shape our confidence, leadership, decision-making, self-worth, and relationship with success. In this episode of Tutum Talk, Cara sits down with Sarah Elder [https://www.sarahelder.com/] for a thoughtful and deeply honest conversation about money shame, leadership, and healing our relationship with money. Inspired in part by Sarah’s Substack release, “Taught Not to Talk About Money? It’s Time to Unlearn That One [https://open.substack.com/pub/imaketherules/p/taught-not-to-talk-money?utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=email],” this conversation explores the emotional and societal layers many people, especially women, carry around finances. Together, Cara and Sarah discuss: *  How subconscious money stories shape adulthood  *  Why money conversations can feel emotionally charged  *  The historical and cultural roots of money shame  *  Leadership, visibility, and financial self-trust  *  The importance of financial literacy and awareness  *  Healing inherited beliefs around worth and success  *  Creating healthier, more honest conversations about money  This episode is a compassionate reminder that awareness creates choice, and that healing our relationship with money can become part of healing our relationship with ourselves. Show Notes In this episode, Cara welcomes Sarah Elder for a meaningful conversation about money shame, inherited beliefs, leadership, and financial empowerment. Sarah shares insights from her work supporting women in business and reflects on how early experiences and societal conditioning often shape our emotional relationship with money long before adulthood. Together, Cara and Sarah explore how silence around finances can impact confidence, stress, leadership, and personal growth. Listeners will hear reflections on: *  Generational beliefs around money  *  Money shame and emotional conditioning  *  Leadership and financial confidence  *  Self-worth and visibility  *  Financial literacy and empowerment  *  Healing subconscious money patterns  *  Why open conversations around money matter  This episode was inspired in part by Sarah’s Substack release:  “Taught Not to Talk About Money? It’s Time to Unlearn That One [https://open.substack.com/pub/imaketherules/p/taught-not-to-talk-money?utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=email]” Learn more and subscribe to Sarah’s highly informative Substack:  I Make the Rules [https://imaketherules.substack.com/] substack About Tutum Talk: Tutum Talk with Cara Nance is a podcast for leaders who lead with heart - even when they doubt themselves. Through honest conversations about presence, intuition, courage, and connection, Cara helps listeners build leadership rooted in humanity, not perfection. Music provided by Music_Unlimited

Ep 32 | Reclaiming Beauty on Your Own Terms with Tiffaney Webb

What if beauty was never something you had to chase… but something you defined for yourself? In this heartfelt conversation, Cara sits down with Tiffaney Webb, founder of Stillness & Skin, to explore aging, self-care, hormonal wellness, and the quiet courage it takes to go against the grain in a culture constantly telling women they are not enough. Together, they unpack the pressure of “anti-aging” culture, the importance of human touch and nervous system regulation, and the growing concern around beauty marketing aimed at children. Tiffaney also shares how leadership sometimes means creating what you wish existed, even when it feels unconventional or difficult. This conversation is an invitation to slow down, reconnect with yourself, and reclaim beauty on your own terms. Show Notes In this episode of Tutum Talk, Cara Nance welcomes Tiffaney Webb [https://www.stillnessandskin.com/about], founder of Stillness & Skin [https://www.stillnessandskin.com/], for a thoughtful conversation about beauty, aging, leadership, and self-trust. With more than 15 years of experience in holistic skincare and wellness, Tiffaney supports women navigating hormonal shifts from postpartum through menopause. Her work centers around helping women reconnect with themselves beyond the noise of media messaging and unrealistic beauty standards. Together, Cara and Tiffaney discuss: *  The emotional weight of anti-aging culture  *  Why aging is something to honor, not fear  *  The connection between nervous system regulation and self-care  *  The healing power of touch and human connection  *  Mindful skincare for children and the impact of early beauty marketing  *  How leadership sometimes means creating a different path  *  Reclaiming beauty, wellness, and self-worth on your own terms  This episode offers a gentle but powerful reminder that self-care is not about perfection. It’s about presence, awareness, and learning to trust yourself again. Learn more about Tiffaney’s work: stillnessandskin.com [https://www.stillnessandskin.com/] If this conversation resonates and you’re local to the Triangle, Tiffaney and her team at Stillness & Skin are offering a Mother’s Day special for the month of May: The Stillness Essential facial with a complementary LED add on, all for $150. A beautiful way to care for yourself… or someone you love. About Tutum Talk: Tutum Talk with Cara Nance is a podcast for leaders who lead with heart - even when they doubt themselves. Through honest conversations about presence, intuition, courage, and connection, Cara helps listeners build leadership rooted in humanity, not perfection. Music provided by Music_Unlimited

Ep 31 | When Leadership Changes the Relationship — Navigating Friendship, Distance, and What Still Remains

What happens when a friendship changes… because leadership entered the picture? In this solo episode of Tutum Talk, Cara reflects on a question that emerged from her Spring 2026 6 in 6 Mastermind [https://www.tutumleadershipcoaching.com/mastermind-registration]—one that many leaders and team members quietly carry: How do you navigate a relationship that once felt close and easy… when that person steps into a leadership role and suddenly feels distant? This conversation explores the emotional and relational shifts that can happen when roles change inside an organization. Cara offers a compassionate lens for understanding both sides of the experience—honoring the hurt of feeling left out, while also acknowledging the unseen weight that leadership can bring. If you’ve ever felt like you “lost” a friend to leadership… or if you’ve stepped into a role and sensed relationships shifting around you… this episode offers language, perspective, and grounded ways to move forward with care. Because sometimes, the relationship isn’t gone. It’s just changing shape. Show Notes In this episode, Cara explores the often unspoken impact leadership transitions can have on relationships—especially when a trusted colleague becomes less accessible after stepping into a leadership role. This reflection was inspired by a real question from a participant in the 6 in 6 Mastermind [https://www.tutumleadershipcoaching.com/mastermind-registration], and speaks to the emotional complexity of navigating connection, distance, and evolving roles within a workplace. In this episode, you’ll hear: *  Why relationship shifts in leadership are more common than we talk about  *  How to process feelings of hurt, loss, or disconnection without dismissing them  *  What may be happening beneath the surface for someone stepping into leadership  *  How to approach a conversation with honesty, care, and grounded intention  *  Ways to expand your support system during seasons of change  *  A gentle reframe: is the relationship gone, or is it evolving?  This episode also offers an important reminder for leaders: Even as your role grows, your relationships still matter—and small moments of intentional connection can make a meaningful difference. Call to Action If this episode resonated with you, especially if you're navigating a shift in your own relationships or leadership role, you don’t have to hold it alone. Cara offers one-on-one coaching [https://www.tutumleadershipcoaching.com/leadership-private-coaching] as a steady, supportive space to reflect, process, and lead with clarity and intention. You can schedule time through the Let’s Connect link here [https://calendly.com/tutumleadershipcoaching/let-s-connect] (hyperlinked text) to explore what support might look like for you. About Tutum Talk: Tutum Talk with Cara Nance is a podcast for leaders who lead with heart - even when they doubt themselves. Through honest conversations about presence, intuition, courage, and connection, Cara helps listeners build leadership rooted in humanity, not perfection. Music provided by Music_Unlimited

Ep 30 | The Myth of Motivation: How to Engineer Your Drive with Zoë Dehmer, MPS, ACC & Jesse Erdheim, Ph.D.

What if motivation isn’t something you have… or don’t have? What if it’s something that can be intentionally built? In Episode 30 of Tutum Talk, Cara is joined by returning guests Zoë Dehmer and Dr. Jesse Erdheim for a thoughtful and practical conversation about the myth of motivation—and what leaders often misunderstand about it. Together, they explore what’s really happening when individuals or teams feel “unmotivated,” and why the answer isn’t more pressure, incentives, or pushing harder. Instead, this conversation invites a different perspective: motivation is something that can be designed. Through the lenses of leadership, psychology, and real-world experience, Zoë and Jesse share how factors like growth, autonomy, and purpose shape engagement in lasting ways. If you’ve been feeling stuck, burnt out, or unsure how to re-engage yourself or your team, this episode offers both a reframe and a way forward. 🎧 Tune in to explore how motivation is not found—it’s engineered. If this conversation resonates, you don’t have to navigate it alone. You’re always welcome to connect 1:1 through the Let’s Connect link to explore what support could look like for you. 📝 Show Notes In this episode, Cara sits down with returning guests Zoë Dehmer and Dr. Jesse Erdheim to explore one of the most common—and often misunderstood—topics in leadership: motivation. Rather than viewing motivation as something people either have or lack, this conversation reframes it as something shaped by environment, leadership, and access to growth. Together, they unpack the difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation, and why so many organizations unintentionally focus on the wrong drivers. Zoë and Jesse share practical insights for leaders who want to create conditions where motivation can actually take root and sustain itself over time. In this episode, we explore: *  Why “lack of motivation” is often a signal, not the root problem  *  The difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation  *  How mastery, autonomy, and purpose influence engagement  *  The role of learning and development in sustaining motivation  *  Why personalized growth matters more than one-size-fits-all approaches  *  How leaders can more clearly communicate purpose and connection  *  The real cost of disengagement, including burnout and turnover  This episode offers both a mindset shift and practical strategies for leaders who want to move from frustration to intentional design. Connect with Zoë Dehmer, MPS, ACC at https://www.zoedehmer.com/ [https://www.zoedehmer.com/] Connect with Jesse Erdheim, Ph.D. at https://www.jesseerdheim.com/ [https://www.jesseerdheim.com/] Connect with Cara Nance, M.Ed. at https://www.tutumleadershipcoaching.com/ [https://www.tutumleadershipcoaching.com/] * 6 in 6 Mastermind info here [https://www.tutumleadershipcoaching.com/mastermind-registration] About Tutum Talk: Tutum Talk with Cara Nance is a podcast for leaders who lead with heart - even when they doubt themselves. Through honest conversations about presence, intuition, courage, and connection, Cara helps listeners build leadership rooted in humanity, not perfection. Music provided by Music_Unlimited