Uncoupled & Unfiltered

Rethinking Divorce Mediation: A Better Way Forward with David Fein

Divorce can feel like a battlefield, but mediation can help turn conflict into a constructive path forward. In this episode, hear a mediator who experienced divorce firsthand explain how to create a sustainable, trust-based co-parenting plan. Episode Summary  On this episode of Uncoupled and Unfiltered, I sit down with David Fein, Certified Divorce and Family Law Mediator, founder of Fein Legal Solutions, and father of three. With training from Northwestern University and a law degree from DePaul University College of Law, David helps couples navigate divorce while reducing the financial and emotional strain of the process. We’re taking another deep dive into mediation, but this conversation is different. David’s approach focuses on relationship-building, trust, and creating a future-focused path for families—not just resolving the matter at hand. Tune in to learn how mediation works, why it isn’t limited by state lines, and how David’s approach can help families move through divorce with greater clarity, dignity, and control. Key Topics Covered: * Why relationship-building and trust are key to successful mediation * Taking a future-focused approach when negotiating agreements * How early trust in mediation can shape the entire outcome * Staying neutral when emotions run high, especially with children involved * How parenthood may influence a mediator and maintain professional objectivity * Managing power imbalances, including dominating or bullying behavior * Mediation considerations when abuse allegations are present * Addressing situations where a proposed settlement may be unfair or impractical * Ethical challenges of balancing neutrality with concern for the parties * What sets Fein Legal Solutions apart, and how David’s approach differs from traditional mediation "I believe my clients leave my mediation session with a clear understanding of what we talked about, a clear feeling that they were heard, and a clear picture on what the next steps are...” - David Fein ABOUT OUR GUEST: DAVID FEIN David Fein is a Certified Divorce and Family Law Mediator who guides spouses and families through divorce with a collaborative, respectful approach. As founder of Fein Legal Solutions, LLC, he uses an empathetic and holistic framework to foster constructive dialogue and mutual understanding. Focused on minimizing emotional and financial costs, David serves as a neutral third party, helping individuals reach sustainable agreements that prioritize the family’s well-being. WHO THIS EPISODE IS FOR: * You’re considering divorce and exploring mediation as a healthier alternative to litigation * You’re looking to reduce conflict and protect your family’s future when children are involved * You’re concerned about handling a controlling, intimidating, or high-conflict spouse * You want to understand how trust, communication, and relationships affect divorce outcomes * You’re seeking a process that prioritizes practical solutions, emotional well-being, and long-term stability over simply winning Connect with David Fein: Website: https://www.brauerlawcorp.com/ www.feinlegalsolutions.com [http://www.feinlegalsolutions.com]  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/fein-legal-solutions-llc-dba-the-law-office-of-david-fein/ [https://www.linkedin.com/company/fein-legal-solutions-llc-dba-the-law-office-of-david-fein/]  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585389850358 [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585389850358]  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/feindavid312/ [https://www.instagram.com/feindavid312/]  Connect with Ksenia Muench: Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ [https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/]  Website: https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/ [https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/]   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ [https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/]  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/]  Substack: https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc [https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc]  Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com  🎧 Listen, Subscribe & Share Follow Uncoupled and Unfiltered on Spotify, Prime, and Apple Podcasts for weekly conversations about divorce, relationships, dating, and self-discovery. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share to help others find the show.

Complex Shame: Can One Un-Shame It?

In this episode, you’ll learn what complex shame really is, how it fuels codependent and toxic relationships, and what it actually takes to heal it so you can build healthier love and a stronger relationship with yourself. On this episode of Uncoupled and Unfiltered, I’m joined by Dr. Zoe Shaw—licensed psychotherapist, author, speaker, podcast host, relationship coach, and fitness enthusiast—for a powerful conversation about guilt and shame, how they impact our psyche, and the ways they shape our relationships. We dive deep into what Complex Shame really is, the red flags to watch for, and practical ways to manage it while rebuilding yourself from the inside out. Sit back, relax, and enjoy this honest, eye-opening conversation. Key Topics Covered: * What Complex Shame is and the impact it has on relationships * The difference between guilt and shame— which emotion motivates growth, and which makes us want to run and hide * The origins of shame and how it shapes who we become * How shame shows up in toxic and dysfunctional family dynamics and relationships * A common misconception: staying too long in a toxic relationship doesn’t mean you’re weak—often, it means the opposite * How Complex Shame and co-dependency can affect your dating life and influence partner selection * Tools and insights for learning how to be vulnerable with yourself and with a trusted partner * Tips for friends and family who want to support someone experiencing it “If you are not able to verbalize what your part was and the ending of it and the dysfunction that existed, then you're not ready to start a new relationship.” - Dr. Zoe Shaw About Our Guest: Dr. Zoe Shaw Dr. Zoe Shaw is a licensed psychotherapist, author, speaker, podcast host, relationships coach, and fitness lover. She is passionate about helping women who struggle in difficult relationships, especially those with sometimes difficult relationships with themselves, overcome complex shame and co-dependency.  Dr. Zoe is the author of the Ask Dr. Zoe Column in the Grit and Grace Project women’s magazine and the books, A Year Of Self Care and Stronger In The Difficult Places, released by Penguin Randomhouse Waterbrook. She has been featured in the OWN documentary series UNLOCKED,  and published in Oprahmag.com, Recovery Today magazine, Forbes, and Today.com. She writes about helping women overcome shame and co-dependency. You can find her in the media on Instagram: @Drzoeshaw [https://www.instagram.com/drzoeshaw/?hl=tl] and in most social places at the handle DrZoeShaw. Who This Episode Is For: * You’re ready to understand shame without letting it define you or your worth * You recognize that staying in difficult relationships was a survival response—not a personal failure * You want to break unhealthy relationship patterns with awareness, self-trust, and compassion * You’re learning how to practice vulnerability in ways that feel safe, grounded, and empowering * You’re committed to rebuilding self-connection and creating relationships that truly support who you are becoming Connect with Dr. Zoe Shaw: Website: https://www.brauerlawcorp.com/ https://drzoeshaw.com/ [https://drzoeshaw.com/]  Connect with Ksenia Muench: Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ [https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/]  Website: https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/ [https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/]   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ [https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/]  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/]  Substack: https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc [https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc]  Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com  🎧 Listen, Subscribe & Share Follow Uncoupled and Unfiltered on Spotify, Prime, and Apple Podcasts for weekly conversations about divorce, relationships, dating, and self-discovery. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share to help others find the show. Want to hear more podcasts like this one? Check out Dear Divorce Diary with Dawn Wiggins- https://mycoachdawn.com/divorce-podcast/ [https://mycoachdawn.com/divorce-podcast/] Get more info and sign up for the next cohort here- https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/ [https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/]

Objectified, Rejected, or Done? Healing Trust After Divorce, Abuse & Heartbreak

How do you trust again after betrayal, abuse, or feeling “not enough”? This episode explores rebuilding self-trust, breaking self-abandonment patterns, and opening your heart again. On this episode of Uncoupled & Unfiltered, Dr. Tasha Seiter, PhD, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of Heart of the Matter Therapy and Coaching, shares insights on navigating trust after divorce, breakups, and uncoupling, including rebuilding trust in ourselves and others, with a focus on the challenges faced by survivors of intimate partner abuse. Using evidence-based approaches like Emotionally Focused Therapy and the Gottman Method, she explores why “beautiful women” often experience loneliness due to objectification, the impact on emotional intimacy, and how to prioritize authenticity over appearance. This honest and nuanced conversation offers guidance for anyone healing from heartbreak and seeking secure, emotionally connected relationships. Key Topics Covered: * How breakups and divorce trigger deep feelings of rejection — whether you were the one who left or the one left behind * Why endings awaken core wounds around “not enough” and unworthiness — and how to begin healing them * The complexity of rebuilding trust, especially after abusive or toxic relationships * The link between abusive dynamics and self-abandonment — plus practical tools to stop abandoning yourself * People-pleasing patterns in unhealthy relationships and how they quietly erode self-trust * The “beautiful woman” syndrome: being perceived as intimidating, objectified, or used * How to avoid the mental trap of seeing yourself as an object — and how to discern genuine interest from someone operating with their own agenda * Practical ways to shift out of a mental funk, rebuild self-confidence, and become your own strongest advocate “The more that you practice taking care of yourself, the more that your nervous system learns it's safe to take care of myself.” - Dr. Tasha Seiter About Our Guest: Dr. Tasha Seiter Dr. Tasha Seiter, PhD, LMFT, is a scientist-practitioner, researcher, therapist, and founder of Heart of the Matter Therapy and Coaching, dedicated to helping people build healthier relationships through evidence-based care. Her work spans research on relationships, mindfulness, and stress physiology, clinical mentorship, EFT community-building, and writing featured in outlets like Forbes, Bustle, Healthline, and Psychology Today. Who This Episode Is For: * You’re navigating life after divorce, breakup, or uncoupling, and struggling with rejection or self-doubt * You left the relationship, but still feel grief, guilt, or confusion * You’re healing from an abusive or toxic relationship and rebuilding self-trust * You notice patterns of self-abandonment or people-pleasing * You question your worth despite success, attractiveness, or external validation * You’ve felt objectified or valued more for appearance than authenticity * You want to recognize genuine interest versus manipulation or hidden agendas * You’re ready to stop overthinking and become your own strongest advocate * You want psychology-backed tools for secure, emotionally healthy relationships Connect with Dr. Tasha Seiter: Website: https://marriage-counseling-fort-collins.com/ [https://marriage-counseling-fort-collins.com/]  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drtashaseiter/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/drtashaseiter/]  Connect with Ksenia Muench: Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ [https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/]  Website: https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/ [https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/]   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ [https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/]  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/]  Substack: https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc [https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc]  Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com  🎧 Listen, Subscribe & Share Follow Uncoupled and Unfiltered on Spotify, Prime, and Apple Podcasts for weekly conversations about divorce, relationships, dating, and self-discovery. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share to help others find the show. Want to hear more podcasts like this one? Check out Dear Divorce Diary with Dawn Wiggins- https://mycoachdawn.com/divorce-podcast/ [https://mycoachdawn.com/divorce-podcast/] Get more info and sign up for the next cohort here- https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/ [https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/]

Addicted to the Wrong One

Logic doesn’t stand a chance when love feels like a drug. In this episode, Dr. Stephen Paul Edwards shows how trauma, low self-worth, and intense chemistry can turn a relationship into a full-blown addiction and what it really takes to finally walk away. Welcome back to Uncoupled and Unfiltered — where we talk about the things your therapist hints at and your best friend avoids saying out loud. I’m your host, Ksenia Muench, and today we’re diving into the messy line between love, obsession, and self-destruction with author and speaker Stephen Paul Edwards. Together, we unpack toxic attraction, attachment wounds, and why so many smart, self-aware people mistake intensity for intimacy and keep returning to relationships that hurt them. This episode is raw, provocative, and might completely change the way you see your past relationships. Key Topics Covered: * Why we're drawn to toxic and chaotic relationships — the psychological and neurological forces pulling us toward people who are bad for us * Why leaving is so hard — what keeps smart, capable people stuck in relationships they know are destroying them * How trauma and attachment styles shape who we choose — the childhood wounds quietly running your love life * Can intense, passionate relationships become stable and healthy? — the honest answer * Warning signs you're in a Venus Fly Trap relationship — and what it feels like when you're the fly * What Stephen learned about love, boundaries, and self-awareness — the hard-won insights from living through it “Trauma bonding is very powerful, that people are not even aware when it's happening.” - Stephen Paul Edwards About Our Guest: Stephen Paul Edwards Stephen Paul Edwards is the author of The Venus Fly Trap: Sex, Lies, and Repercussions, a memoir that dives into obsession, betrayal, and destructive passion with sharp honesty, dark humor, and emotional depth. Often described as part Fifty Shades, part Gone Girl, and part therapy session with the devil, the book explores the psychology of erotic obsession, toxic attraction, and the painful process of reclaiming yourself from a relationship built to consume you. Who This Episode Is For You If: * You’ve stayed in a relationship you knew was wrong, but couldn’t leave * You’re repeatedly drawn to unavailable or chaotic partners * You’ve mistaken intensity for love and suffered because of it * You want to understand the psychology behind toxic attraction and trauma bonds * You’re ready for an honest conversation about the darker side of love and desire Connect with Dr. Stephen Paul Edwards: Website: https://vft23.com/ [https://vft23.com/]  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@vft23_official [https://www.tiktok.com/@vft23_official?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/seemiracles/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/seemiracles/]  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61575468609762 [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61575468609762]  X: https://x.com/vftofficial23?s=21 [https://x.com/vftofficial23?s=21]  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephen_sapereaude/ [https://www.instagram.com/stephen_sapereaude/]   Free Resources From Dr. Stephen Paul Edwards:  First three chapters of his book, The Venus Fly Trap: https://bit.ly/4bsLZ7J [https://bit.ly/4bsLZ7J]  Exclusive coaching discount for listeners of the show: Coaching and Counseling https://vft23.com/coaching-and-counselling/?utm_source=Ksenia+Muench&utm_medium=Uncoupled+%26+Unfiltered&utm_campaign=Podcast+Interview+-++Ksenia+Muench [https://vft23.com/coaching-and-counselling/?utm_source=Ksenia+Muench&utm_medium=Uncoupled+%26+Unfiltered&utm_campaign=Podcast+Interview+-++Ksenia+Muench] Discount Code: VFT23! Connect with Ksenia Muench: Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ [https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/]  Website: https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/ [https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/]   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ [https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/]  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/]  Substack: https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc [https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc]  Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com  🎧 Listen, Subscribe & Share Follow Uncoupled and Unfiltered on Spotify, Prime, and Apple Podcasts for weekly conversations about divorce, relationships, dating, and self-discovery. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share to help others find the show. Want to hear more podcasts like this one? Check out Dear Divorce Diary with Dawn Wiggins- https://mycoachdawn.com/divorce-podcast/ [https://mycoachdawn.com/divorce-podcast/] Get more info and sign up for the next cohort here- https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/ [https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/]

From Mom to Multi-Million Dollar CEO

When your marriage implodes, and the kids leave home, do you spiral or build something bigger than the life you just lost? In this episode, a multi‑exit CEO and mom of four breaks down how entrepreneurship can become your lifeline, your power move, and your path to seven‑figure freedom after divorce. In this episode, I sit down with Beth Mazza, co-founder of Female Mavericks, a powerhouse community dedicated to helping women launch and scale thriving businesses—without sacrificing their roles as parents, partners, and whole humans. We dive into what it truly takes to be a female entrepreneur today: navigating the realities of motherhood while building a business, redefining success on your own terms, and embracing the empowerment and healing that can come from starting over—especially after divorce. Beth shares practical insights and honest reflections on building a sustainable, scalable company while creating a life that feels aligned, fulfilling, and fully your own. Key Topics Covered: * Overcoming fear and self-doubt to confidently launch your own business * Why confident women entrepreneurs often outperform their male counterparts—and the mindset shift that makes the difference * How building a business can make you a stronger, more intentional mom—and the powerful life lessons your children learn by watching you lead * The real challenges of balancing entrepreneurship and motherhood (and how to navigate them) * How starting a business can become a powerful antidote to depression during and after divorce * The 9–5 corporate path vs. entrepreneurship—and the mental and emotional benefits of building your own venture during divorce recovery * The three biggest mistakes that keep women-owned businesses small—and what it takes to break into the multi-million-dollar range * Why separating personal and business finances is essential for growth, clarity, and long-term success * The one thing you absolutely must understand to build a thriving, sustainable business “You’re only able to become an entrepreneur if you have hope, if you have a dream. You're aspiring, you can do it." - Beth Mazza About Our Guest: Beth Mazza Beth Mazza is a seasoned entrepreneur, speaker, and co-founder of Female Mavericks, a community that helps women build scalable businesses while balancing motherhood and life. With over 30 years of experience, she has founded and exited multiple companies worth tens of millions and has helped women break the seven-figure ceiling. Beth has advised leading brands and has been featured in publications like Forbes and Crain’s 40 Under 40. Her work focuses on empowering women to embrace entrepreneurship, build confidence, and achieve financial freedom through business ownership. Who This Episode Is For: * Women who want to start or scale a business but feel held back by fear, self-doubt, or uncertainty * Moms and professionals seeking a way to build financial independence without sacrificing family life * Women navigating divorce or major life transitions who are ready to reclaim confidence and purpose * Female entrepreneurs who are ready to think bigger, break past revenue plateaus, and build lasting wealth Connect with Beth Mazza: Website: https://www.brauerlawcorp.com/ https://femalemavericks.com/ [https://femalemavericks.com/]  Connect with Ksenia Muench: Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ [https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/]  Website: https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/ [https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/]   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ [https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/]  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/]  Substack: https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc [https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc]  Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com  🎧 Listen, Subscribe & Share Follow Uncoupled and Unfiltered on Spotify, Prime, and Apple Podcasts for weekly conversations about divorce, relationships, dating, and self-discovery. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share to help others find the show. Want to hear more podcasts like this one? Check out Dear Divorce Diary with Dawn Wiggins- https://mycoachdawn.com/divorce-podcast/ [https://mycoachdawn.com/divorce-podcast/] Get more info and sign up for the next cohort here- https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/ [https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/]