The Moving On Method® Podcast

What happens when parents sacrifice happiness for the illusion of stability? Kristy Dyer joins Michelle to reflect on her experience growing up in a high-conflict household, and how that shaped her decision to leave a marriage that mirrored those same emotional patterns. Together, they explore how generational healing begins with honest parenting, and why children need emotionally safe environments more than they need traditional structures. What You’ll Learn • The unintended harm of “staying for the kids” • How emotional labor and perfectionism show up in parenting • Why transparency and repair matter more than perfection • Tools for raising emotionally safe children after separation • The importance of healing generational trauma through co-parenting Episode Highlights 03:02 – Kristy’s childhood: blended family, absent father 07:40 – The burden of perfectionism and emotional labor 12:15 – Repeating childhood patterns in adult relationships 15:50 – Reframing “starter marriages” and shame 22:12 – Building trust through repair after separation Meet Kristy Dyer Kristy is a co-parenting mom of three raising her children with honesty, healing, and courage. Her journey of breaking generational cycles offers insight for parents navigating divorce and reparenting themselves in the process. Final Thought “Your kids don’t need you to stay. They need you to heal.” Want to learn more? Explore Michelle's courses on kids & divorce: How to Talk to Kids About Divorce [https://community.momsmovingon.com/checkout/how-to-talk-to-kids-about-divorce] Building Resilience: Helping Children to Adapt and Thrive After Divorce [https://community.momsmovingon.com/checkout/building-resilience-helping-children-adapt-and-thrive-after-divorce] Keep In Touch: Subscribe to our YouTube Channel [https://www.youtube.com/@TheMichelleDempsey%E2%81%A0] Website [https://michelledempsey.com/%E2%81%A0] Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/michelle645%E2%81%A0] TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@themichelledempsey1%E2%81%A0] LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/mldempsey/%E2%81%A0] Read the full transcript [https://michelledempsey.com/should-i-stay-married-for-the-kids-full-transcript-guest-kristy-dyer/] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

In this empowering episode of The Moving On Method®, Michelle sits down with Rachel Kass from Worthy to discuss a topic many navigating divorce face: what to do with their jewelry. Far more than just a transaction, this conversation delves into how selling your jewelry post-divorce can be a powerful step towards financial empowerment and finding the positives amidst change. Rachel sheds light on how Worthy provides a secure and transparent way to sell pre-owned luxury items, offering a tangible opportunity to reclaim your financial independence. She explains the seamless process Worthy offers, from initial consultation to receiving an offer for your pieces, demystifying what can feel like an overwhelming task. * How selling your post-divorce jewelry can be a positive step towards healing and financial freedom. * Understanding how Worthy helps individuals turn unused assets into cash, with a focus on trust and transparency. * How taking control of your assets can contribute to your overall sense of empowerment during and after divorce. * AND MORE Worthy: Learn more about selling your jewelry and other luxury items at, www.worthy.com [https://www.worthy.com] Connect with Worthy: @wearesoworthy Worthy is dedicated to providing sellers and buyers with that ultimate win-win. Everyday we bring together buyers and sellers with our luxury auction marketplace. Worthy is led by the very best in the luxury goods market and we work together to bring you the fairest market value for your valuable items while providing stellar service. Rachel has been working with Worthy for 6 plus years now. She is an expert in her field of diamonds and precious gems. The aspect of her job she loves the most is being able to help her clients and getting to know them and their stories. She a friend to animals and understands how important family is. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

This week on The Moving On Method®, Michelle Dempsey-Multack and Dr. Cassie Bowles delve into the complexities of detachment, particularly in the context of trauma and mental health. They explore how detachment can serve as a coping mechanism, its spectrum from mild to severe, and its implications on relationships and emotional well-being. Their conversation emphasizes the importance of awareness, compassionate curiosity, and the journey towards healing and reconnection with oneself. They also touch on the challenges of navigating relationships post-trauma and the significance of seeking help when needed. Together they will cover: * How detachment is a coping mechanism against overwhelming emotions * Self-Awareness is the first step towards change and healing * There is a spectrum of trauma levels * AND MORE Dr. Cassie Bowles graduated with honors from the University of California, Berkeley, earning a Bachelor’s Degree in American Studies. Following a few years working in health care consulting and the non-profit world, she returned to graduate school in 2014 to complete a Doctorate of Psychology at the California School of Professional Psychology. Dr. Cassie has trained in academic medical centers, schools, and private practice settings, working with a wide range of clinical presentations from depression and anxiety to complex medical diagnoses. She completed training in psychodiagnostic testing and assessment in the Infant and Preschool Clinic at UCLA’s Semel Institute of Neuroscience and Human Behavior, working with families of young children to address developmental and behavioral concerns. As an intern at Children’s Hospital Los Angeles, she received training in neuropsychological assessment and cognitive behavioral therapy at the Children’s Orthopaedic Center. While at CHLA, she worked primarily with adolescents diagnosed with post-concussive syndrome and other neurological disorders such as epilepsy. Finding herself drawn to depth work and interested in deepening her clinical skills as a therapist, she completed an internship and post graduate fellowship in psychodynamic psychotherapy at the Wright Institute Los Angeles, working with adults on an ongoing basis. While she considers herself a generalist in clinical practice, she takes special interest in working with parents, survivors of sexual and gender-based trauma, and phase-of-life/personal identity issues. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

In this conversation, Dr. Zoe Shaw and Michelle Dempsey-Multack explore the complexities of shame, codependency, and the dynamics of feminine and masculine energy in relationships. They discuss the impact of trauma on personal growth and relationships, the importance of vulnerability, and the need for emotional safety. Dr. Zoe shares her insights on how high-achieving women often struggle with their feminine energy and the societal pressures that contribute to this. The discussion also touches on the changing landscape of marriage and divorce, and Dr. Zoe's personal journey through her own divorce, emphasizing the importance of self-care and emotional health. Dr. Zoe specializes in helping women with complex shame and codependency. This was a great conversation on the complexities of how the feminine vs masculine energy shows up in modern relationships. Some other key takeaways from this conversation include: * Complex shame can stem from early trauma and societal marginalization. * Healing from shame requires vulnerability and empathy. * High-achieving women often mask their femininity to succeed. * Self-sabotage is common among those with complex shame. * Healthy relationships require both partners to be intentional. * Feminine energy is powerful and nurturing, not weak. * Men need to feel needed to operate in their masculine energy. * Self-care is essential for teaching future generations. * Divorce can be a catalyst for personal growth and change. Dr. Zoe Shaw is a licensed psychotherapist with a doctorate in Clinical Psychology. For over 20 years she has worked to help women overcome Complex Shame™ and co-dependency in order to experience the healthy love you deserve. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

In this conversation, Michelle Dempsey-Multack is joined by popular internet personality, Scarlett Longstreet. Together, they discuss the complexities of divorce, co-parenting, and the emotional journey of self-discovery that often accompanies the end of a marriage. They explore the societal stigma surrounding divorce, the importance of personal growth, and the challenges of integrating new partners into family life. The discussion emphasizes the need for empathy, understanding, and patience as individuals navigate their new realities post-divorce, while also prioritizing the well-being of their children. Key Takeaways: * Divorce is often a long and painful process of self-discovery. * Women often feel the need to hide their divorce-related content due to societal stigma. * Leaving a marriage is rarely a flippant decision; it often involves years of contemplation. * The emotional weight of divorce can be heavy, especially when children are involved. * It's important to recognize that a loveless marriage can be just as damaging as an abusive one. * Co-parenting requires alignment on core values, not just day-to-day decisions. * The loss of control after divorce can be one of the hardest aspects to navigate. * Healthy relationships post-divorce require personal growth and self-awareness. * Integrating new partners into family life should be done with care and patience. * It's essential to prioritize children's well-being over adult emotions during and after divorce. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]