The Power of Attention: How Complaining Keeps You Stuck (and How to Shift It)

The Power of Attention: How Complaining Keeps You Stuck (and How to Shift It)

Principle: Where we put our attention determines the life we create. In this episode, I explore a simple but powerful idea: complaining isn't the problem—it's a signal. It reveals where your attention has been resting. Most of us don't realize how often we rehearse what's wrong, especially in quiet, internal ways. But where our attention goes, our experience of life follows. Complaining can feel relieving in the moment, but it doesn't create change. It keeps our attention fixed on what we can't control, which limits our ability to see solutions or possibilities. In this conversation, I explore the difference between noticing a problem and staying stuck in it, and how shifting our attention can completely change our experience of the same circumstances. This isn't about forcing positivity or ignoring what's hard. It's about learning to notice where your attention is going—and choosing to direct it more intentionally. Because when attention shifts, perception shifts. And when perception shifts, new possibilities begin to show up.

Why I Can't Quit

For a while I've wondered why I keep showing up to this podcast when I don't have a business to promote or offers to sell. In this episode, I share the realization that changed everything. I explore why I believe our greatest work is becoming who we were created to be, how ordinary experiences can teach us profound principles, and why learning to see our lives differently may be the beginning of real transformation. If you've ever questioned your purpose or wondered whether what you're creating really matters, I hope this conversation invites you to see your own journey with fresh eyes. Follow me over on Substack [https://substack.com/@aliciahowardbecoming] for more of my thoughts.

The Shift From I Can't to Maybe I Can

In this episode, I walk through three simple but powerful principles that helped me regain momentum when fear, doubt, and hesitation showed up. These principles are not about forcing change, but about learning how to move with greater awareness, trust, and intention when life is calling you forward. This episode is for anyone in a transition season—career change, identity shift, relationships, personal growth, or simply feeling the tension of "something needs to change, but I don't know how." Get more info on the group experience I talked about here: Return & Rise [https://www.returnandrise.org/home-1]

What Awareness Reveals

How does awareness restore agency? In this episode, I explore the connection between self-awareness, personal growth, intentional living, and creating meaningful change. When we become aware of the thoughts, beliefs, and patterns influencing our choices, we gain the power to respond intentionally rather than react automatically. Awareness isn't the destination—it's the doorway to greater agency, growth, and becoming. For more of my thoughts, find me on Substack [https://substack.com/@aliciahowardbecoming]. Scriptures I referenced: 1 Corinthians 13:12 [https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/nt/1-cor/13?lang=eng]: looking through a glass darkly D&C 93: 23-24 [https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/dc-testament/dc/93?lang=eng]: things as they really are Alma 32: 27 [https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/bofm/alma/32?lang=eng]: awake and arouse your faculties Info for the Personal Development Bootcamp hosted by my friend Angie Episode with the backstory [https://theelephant.libsyn.com/what-is-the-grm-bootcamp-334] Register here [https://www.angiesoptiongrm.org/bootcamp-2026]

Turning 52: 3 Blessings, 3 Lessons, and 3 Questions

In this special birthday episode, I'm reflecting on what 52 years of life have taught me so far. I'm keeping it simple: 3 gifts, 3 lessons, and 3 questions I'm carrying into the year ahead. Join me as I look back with gratitude, inward with reflection, and forward with curiosity. Whether you're celebrating a birthday, navigating a season of change, or simply thinking about the person you're becoming, I hope this conversation inspires you to pause and consider your own gifts, lessons, and questions. In this episode: * Three gifts that have shaped my journey * Three lessons life continues to teach me * Three questions guiding my next season of growth If this episode resonates with you, I'd love for you to share it with a friend and leave a review to help others discover the podcast. Join me over on Substack [https://substack.com/@aliciahowardbecoming] where I occasionally share my written thoughts.