88: How to Remain Creative in Motherhood

88: How to Remain Creative in Motherhood

In this episode, Hannah sits down with Andrea Bombino - motherhood and career coach, matrescence expert, and longtime friend - to unpack the developmental transition into motherhood that almost no one talks about: matrescence. Coined in the 1970s and only recently brought back into the mainstream, matrescence describes the profound physical, psychological, and identity-level transformation that happens when a woman becomes a mother. Andrea breaks down why Western culture fails to recognize this transition the way it recognizes adolescence, and why high-achieving women in particular struggle to accept a season of life that doesn't match their old definition of success. This conversation goes deep into ambition after motherhood, the guilt of slowing down, burnout recovery, values-based decision making, and why creative hobbies — even five minutes of painting or journaling — are non-negotiable for staying grounded. If you're a working mother, an executive navigating parental leave, or simply someone redefining what success looks like in this season of your life, this episode is essential listening. Connect with Andrea Bombino: www.andreabombino.com www.LinkedIn.com/in/andreabombino/ Instagram: @andreabombino_ https://open.substack.com/pub/andreabombino 📩 Got a Big Fucking Dreams topic you want covered? Email hello@hannahkissel.com #matrescence #motherhoodjourney #identitymothers #workingmama #workingmom #workingwomen #maternityleave #womenintransition #parentingsupport Timestamps: 00:30 — Welcome Andrea Bombino to Big Fucking Dreams 01:30 — What is matrescence? Definition and origins of the term 03:00 — Why matrescence was rediscovered through postpartum depression research 04:00 — The different domains of matrescence: physical, relational, career, identity 05:30 — Why society treats teenage development with grace but not motherhood 06:30 — Western capitalist culture vs. how other cultures honor postpartum recovery 08:00 — Hyper-independence and the resistance to accepting support 09:30 — The shift in ambition: why some high-achieving women want to pause their careers 10:30 — Andrea's personal panic when she found out she was pregnant after a promotion 11:30 — "Pregnancy is the shortest ramp-up time for a career change" 12:30 — How ambition shifts and sharpens instead of disappearing 16:00 — Acceptance, impatience, and burnout recovery 18:00 — The invisible labor of motherhood and lack of recognition 20:30 — A constant practice in acceptance: choosing values over old definitions of success 25:00 — Behind the curtain: what "having it all together" actually requires 28:30 — Andrea's hobbies and the prioritization of fun in motherhood 30:00 — How career achievement became Andrea's sole measure of self-worth 33:30 — Finding healing through watercolor painting with her daughter 36:00 — The neuroscience of making things with your hands and lowering cortisol 39:00 — "Life is meant to be lived" — redefining what brings you joy 41:00 — The eighth-grade memory that shaped Andrea's relationship with happiness 43:00 — Why prioritizing hobbies as a mom is not selfish — bringing kids into the joy 46:00 — Moving to Italy, taking risks, and living life on your own terms 48:00 — "Do it your own way" — permission to change your mind 49:30 — Becoming more confident in who you are, the longer you're a mother 50:00 — Where to find Andrea Bombino + final thoughts

87: Fired for Being Honest: How to Handle Injustice at Work

"I told the CEO the truth, and then I was fired." If you have a strong sense of justice and integrity, you've likely felt the sting of corporate politics. You see a problem, you fix it, and instead of being rewarded, you're sidelined or pushed out. In this episode, Hannah breaks down the high-performer's "Integrity Trap." She explains how to navigate these environments without sacrificing your soul, and when to realise that the system you are fighting isn't just broken - it's designed to exclude people like you. The bottom line: Integrity is your greatest asset. Don't waste it on an organisation that doesn't deserve it. 🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline Email: hello@hannahkissel.com If you've been burned by corporate politics, you're not the problem—the system is. If you're ready to stop being 'the inconvenient one' and start building a career that actually values your integrity, grab my free Career Confidence Course at www.hannahkissel.com [https://www.hannahkissel.com] and let's get you aligned. Timestamps: 01:30 — The "Good Operator" fallacy: Why honesty is sometimes a liability 03:00 — Why power trumps competence in corporate environments 04:30 — "Inconvenient to power": Recognising the dynamic 06:00 — Tactical advice: Presenting data without being confrontational 07:30 — Self-preservation vs. Selfishness 09:00 — When to stop trying to fix a broken ship 11:00 — If you're always getting fired for honesty, consider a different model Hannah Hotline is sponsored by dominiquejingles — where quirky, clever, and corporate branding is reimagined. A client says, 'We just want something different.' Dominique turns that into a jingle that sticks in your head all day. DM Dominique on Instagram @dominiquejingles or email dominiqueenglish04@gmail.com [dominiqueenglish04@gmail.com]

86: The Truth About Identity Shifts: Moving From Burnout to Metamorphosis

You've achieved everything you set out to achieve. So why do you feel like you're losing your edge? For high performers and executives, we are wired to believe that more work, more hustle, and more sacrifice is the answer to every problem. But what happens when the very mechanism that built your success — your relentless drive, starts to feel like a cage? In this episode, Hannah gets vulnerable about a recent shift in her own ambition. After years of building, growing, and hustling, she's found herself in the "mush" — that uncomfortable, transitional space where the old identity has dissolved, but the new one hasn't quite arrived yet. Using Martha Beck's "Change Cycle," Hannah explains why you might be experiencing a loss of drive, why your ambition might actually be a lingering trauma response, and why the most productive thing you can do right now is "go gentle." The bottom line: If you're changing identities right now, you don't need to force a solution. You need to surrender to the cycle. Timestamps: 01:30 — Why identity shift is the ultimate high-performer struggle 03:30 — Healing PTSD and the death of "trauma-response" ambition 04:30 — It's not just business: Why identity shifts are universal for women 05:00 — Martha Beck's Change Cycle: The framework you need 05:30 — Stage One: The "Mush" (Death and Rebirth) 07:00 — The danger of hustling through the "Mush" 07:30 — A quick overview of Stages Two, Three, and Four 08:00 — The invitation to "go gentle" and surrender Key Takeaways: 1. Metamorphosis is not comfortable. 2. Ambition is often a trauma response. 3. Surrender is not giving up. 4. Natural cycles exist for women. 5. Your drive will change. #identityshift #careertransition #changecycle #careeradvice #highperformer #workplaceadvice #createyourownfuture #hannahkissel 📩 Got a question for the Hannah Hotline? Email hello@hannahkissel.com Free Career Confidence Course: www.hannahkissel.com

85: Is It Wrong to Take a New Job When I Know I Want a Baby Soon?

In this episode, Hannah tackles a deeply relatable dilemma sent in by a listener who hates her job, wants to switch roles, but feels guilty about joining a new company while planning to get pregnant. Hannah cuts through the noise with her signature no-BS approach, reminding us that company loyalty is a two-way street, and more often than not, it only runs one way. From anti-discrimination laws to fertility timelines to the reality of mass redundancies, Hannah lays out exactly why you should never put your personal goals on hold for an organization that wouldn't think twice about making you redundant. If you're a high-performing woman navigating career transitions, family planning, or both — this one's for you. 📩 Have a dilemma? Send your letter to hello@hannahkissel.com to be featured on this podcast or the Daily Telegraph. ✅ Key Takeaways • Company loyalty is not a marriage contract. • Stop asking for permission to live your life. • Pregnancy is not a professional failure. • "Dishonesty" is a control tactic. • Black-and-white thinking is keeping you stuck. • Prioritise the career you actually want. • The risk is not starting a family. The risk is staying in a job you hate. • Look for the employer who expects women to have lives. Timestamps: 01:15 — The listener's dilemma: hated job, family planning, and the guilt trap 02:30 — Why high performers think being "dishonest" is a personality trait 03:45 — Corporate loyalty: why it's a one-way street (and why that's okay) 05:00 — The "last in, first out" myth and the reality of redundancies 06:30 — Pregnancy is not a "debilitating" factor — debunking the bias 08:00 — You don't owe them your life plan — privacy vs. dishonesty 09:30 — Stop falling into black-and-white thinking: finding your middle ground 11:00 — Why you should quit the job you hate now 12:30 — How to identify a supportive company during the interview process 14:00 — Final advice: Prioritise yourself, or you will be trapped by their priorities 🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: hello@hannahkissel.com Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com ------- Hannah Hotline is sponsored by dominiquejingles — where quirky, clever, and corporate branding is reimagined. A client says, 'We just want something different.' Dominique turns that into a jingle that sticks in your head all day. DM Dominique on Instagram @dominiquejingles or email dominiqueenglish04@gmail.com

84: Rigid vs Flexible: The Power of a Flexible Mental Model For High Performers

The most dangerous thing a high performer can do? Stick to a bad plan just because they "said they would." We are taught that consistency is a virtue. We are taught that changing our minds is a weakness, a sign of indecision, or a failure of control. In corporate environments, being "Rule Book" (as Hannah was affectionately nicknamed at LinkedIn) is a badge of honour. But there is a massive difference between commitment and rigidity. In this episode, Hannah gets brutally honest about a massive U-turn she just made in her business. She'd announced one thing, put the plan in motion, and then, after looking at the data, her personal capacity, she chose to change her mind. If you're a high-performing executive who uses rigidity as a trauma response to feel "safe," this episode is for you. The bottom line: The strength of your leadership is not measured by your ability to stay the course — it's measured by your ability to pivot when the course is no longer serving you or your business. Key Takeaways: - Rigidity is often a control mechanism. - Flexible mental models are your biggest competitive advantage. - "Rule Book" is a limiting identity. - The "cost of entry" for high growth is flexibility. - Re-evaluation is data-driven, not impulsive. --- If this episode resonates with you, please leave a rating. It's the biggest way you can support what we're building here, and every single review helps us reach someone who needs this. Big love, dreamers. Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence The Truth About Imposter Syndrome: https://open.spotify.com/episode/129YgMPuJWGLQK5VB9CncR?si=a352646dfec6411a Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Quiz: Discover Your Career Alignment Score: https://hannahkisselcareerquiz.scoreapp.com #mentalmodels #flexibility #adaptable #highperformer #careertransitions #careeradvice #decisionsmatter #workplaceadvice #growthmindset #businessinsight 📩 Got a question for the Hannah Hotline? Email hello@hannahkissel.com