Be-Good vs. Get-Better: What Succeed by Heidi Grant Halvorson Teaches About Goals

Be-Good vs. Get-Better: What Succeed by Heidi Grant Halvorson Teaches About Goals

Are you setting goals to prove you're good enough — or to actually get better? In this episode of Brave Moves, Julie DeLucca-Collins breaks down a key distinction from Heidi Grant Halvorson's book Succeed: How We Can Reach Our Goals: the difference between "be-good" goals and "get-better" goals, and why that one choice quietly determines whether you give up the moment things get hard. Julie unpacks Halvorson's research on goal setting and motivation, showing how proving-yourself goals collapse under pressure while growth-focused goals hold steady — and connects this to Carol Dweck's research on fixed versus growth mindset. This episode offers a practical, research-backed reframing for anyone stuck chasing external validation rather than real progress. In this episode: * The difference between be-good goals and get-better goals * What happens to each mindset when obstacles show up * Why proving-yourself goals are exhausting and unstable * The link to Carol Dweck's fixed vs. growth mindset research * How to set specific, achievable goals that actually motivate you * This week's Brave Move + free Thought Leadership Assessment Get the book: SUCCEED: HOW WE CAN REACH OUR GOALS [https://a.co/d/0dkrIOAk] If you loved this episode, text me and let me know what you though. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/fan_mail/new] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/support] Join the Community [https://www.skool.com/confident-you-rawconversations-4533/about] Brave Moves is a daily confidence and personal growth podcast for ambitious women, women entrepreneurs, and leaders who are ready to overcome self-doubt, build resilience, and take bold action in business and life. Each short, practical episode blends mindset science, decision-making psychology, and real-life stories to help you strengthen your confidence, rewire negative thought patterns, and create meaningful forward momentum. If you are navigating career pivots, burnout, reinvention, or leadership growth, Brave Moves gives you the tools to think differently, act bravely, and design a future aligned with your values and vision. Because confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you build, one brave move at a time. Liked this episode? Share it with your midlife woman, entrepreneur friends! Love this show? Let us know how we helped you increase your confidence by leaving a review. For more about me and what I do, check out my website [https://goconfidentlycoaching.com/]. If you’re looking for support to grow your business faster, be positioned as an authority in your industry, and impact the masses, schedule a call [https://calendly.com/goconfidentlycoaching/coaching-call] to explore if you’d be a good fit for one of my coaching programs. Fo...

My Dear Friend, Sister Lucilla | She Would Not Believe My Life Now

In this deeply personal episode of Brave Moves, Julie DeLucca-Collins honors the memory of her dear friend, Sister Lucilla, a nun who passed away in 2009 after a life devoted to faith, service, and joy, and reflects on everything Sister Lucilla never got to see. Julie shares how their friendship began when she was newly 30 and new to New York, and how Sister Lucilla, nurse, teacher, gardener, seamstress, and pre-Vatican II nun — became one of the most treasured relationships of her life. Seventeen years later, Julie reflects on what Sister Lucilla would think of the life she's built since: the book, the TEDx stage, this very podcast. This episode is a celebration of a friendship that still quietly shapes everything Julie does. In this episode: * Julie's friendship with Sister Lucilla, who passed in 2009 * A life of faith, service, and joyful defiance of age * What Sister Lucilla would think of Julie's life today * This week's Brave Move: naming the people who shaped you, even years later If you loved this episode, text me and let me know what you though. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/fan_mail/new] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/support] Join the Community [https://www.skool.com/confident-you-rawconversations-4533/about] Brave Moves is a daily confidence and personal growth podcast for ambitious women, women entrepreneurs, and leaders who are ready to overcome self-doubt, build resilience, and take bold action in business and life. Each short, practical episode blends mindset science, decision-making psychology, and real-life stories to help you strengthen your confidence, rewire negative thought patterns, and create meaningful forward momentum. If you are navigating career pivots, burnout, reinvention, or leadership growth, Brave Moves gives you the tools to think differently, act bravely, and design a future aligned with your values and vision. Because confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you build, one brave move at a time. Liked this episode? Share it with your midlife woman, entrepreneur friends! Love this show? Let us know how we helped you increase your confidence by leaving a review. For more about me and what I do, check out my website [https://goconfidentlycoaching.com/]. If you’re looking for support to grow your business faster, be positioned as an authority in your industry, and impact the masses, schedule a call [https://calendly.com/goconfidentlycoaching/coaching-call] to explore if you’d be a good fit for one of my coaching programs. Fo...

The Perfectionism Trap | Why "Perfect" Is Never Actually About You

Are you trying to behave in a certain way to maximize outside approval? In this episode of Brave Moves, Julie DeLucca-Collins unpacks why perfectionism isn't a high standard — it's a rejection of your true self, and a symptom of chasing an outside standard instead of trusting the inner perfection that already exists within you. Julie breaks down the difference between the perfectionist voice, obsessed with how things look to others, and the self-trusting voice, guided by inner authenticity and self-worth. She explores why striving for outer perfection is a recipe for misery and powerlessness, how perfectionism quietly spreads to our expectations of those around us, and what it actually looks like to live a self-directed life rather than an approval-driven one. If you've ever felt like nothing you do is ever quite enough, this episode offers a research-informed, deeply practical reframe on perfectionism, self-worth, and authenticity,  plus a free tool to help you find where outer-approval perfectionism might be shrinking your voice. In this episode: * Why perfectionism is an outside standard, not a high standard * The link between perfectionism and authenticity * Two internal voices: outer approval vs. inner trust * Why perfectionism leads to misery and powerlessness * How perfectionism spreads to the people around you * Moving from approval-driven to self-directed living * This week's Brave Move + free Thought Leadership Assessment [https://goconfidentlyservices.myflodesk.com/tlvagapaudit] If you loved this episode, text me and let me know what you though. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/fan_mail/new] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/support] Join the Community [https://www.skool.com/confident-you-rawconversations-4533/about] Brave Moves is a daily confidence and personal growth podcast for ambitious women, women entrepreneurs, and leaders who are ready to overcome self-doubt, build resilience, and take bold action in business and life. Each short, practical episode blends mindset science, decision-making psychology, and real-life stories to help you strengthen your confidence, rewire negative thought patterns, and create meaningful forward momentum. If you are navigating career pivots, burnout, reinvention, or leadership growth, Brave Moves gives you the tools to think differently, act bravely, and design a future aligned with your values and vision. Because confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you build, one brave move at a time. Liked this episode? Share it with your midlife woman, entrepreneur friends! Love this show? Let us know how we helped you increase your confidence by leaving a review. For more about me and what I do, check out my website [https://goconfidentlycoaching.com/]. If you’re looking for support to grow your business faster, be positioned as an authority in your industry, and impact the masses, schedule a call [https://calendly.com/goconfidentlycoaching/coaching-call] to explore if you’d be a good fit for one of my coaching programs. Fo...

What Your Posture Is Really Telling You

Have you ever noticed how your posture changes depending on who's in the room? In this episode of Brave Moves, Julie DeLucca-Collins breaks down why posture is one of the most honest indicators of self-worth, self-trust, and confidence — and why it has almost nothing to do with how you look. Julie explores how body language shifts across different relationships and circumstances, why the posture we hold when no one's watching reveals our true relationship with ourselves, and how shrinking physically often mirrors shrinking in our voice, visibility, and thought leadership. She connects the dots between body language, self-worth, and personal branding, showing how the same nervous-system pattern that makes us slouch around an intimidating boss also makes us downplay our expertise, hedge our message, and give away our authority. This episode is a practical, research-informed look at nonverbal confidence cues and how to reclaim your presence — starting with your body. In this episode: * Why posture shifts depending on who's in the room * Posture as a mirror of your relationship with yourself * The link between body language and self-worth * How physical "shrinking" shows up in your visibility and voice * Why the body leads, and confidence follows * This week's Brave Move + free Thought Leadership Assessment [https://goconfidentlyservices.myflodesk.com/tlvagapaudit] If you loved this episode, text me and let me know what you though. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/fan_mail/new] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/support] Join the Community [https://www.skool.com/confident-you-rawconversations-4533/about] Brave Moves is a daily confidence and personal growth podcast for ambitious women, women entrepreneurs, and leaders who are ready to overcome self-doubt, build resilience, and take bold action in business and life. Each short, practical episode blends mindset science, decision-making psychology, and real-life stories to help you strengthen your confidence, rewire negative thought patterns, and create meaningful forward momentum. If you are navigating career pivots, burnout, reinvention, or leadership growth, Brave Moves gives you the tools to think differently, act bravely, and design a future aligned with your values and vision. Because confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you build, one brave move at a time. Liked this episode? Share it with your midlife woman, entrepreneur friends! Love this show? Let us know how we helped you increase your confidence by leaving a review. For more about me and what I do, check out my website [https://goconfidentlycoaching.com/]. If you’re looking for support to grow your business faster, be positioned as an authority in your industry, and impact the masses, schedule a call [https://calendly.com/goconfidentlycoaching/coaching-call] to explore if you’d be a good fit for one of my coaching programs. Fo...

Confidence Isn't Waiting on the Other Side of Success

Most people believe confidence is something waiting for them on the other side of success: after the launch, the sale, the promotion, the win. In this episode of Brave Moves, Julie DeLucca-Collins breaks down why that belief is backward, using Albert Bandura's landmark research in psychology on fear and self-efficacy to show how confidence is actually built, not found. Julie unpacks the real difference between confidence and self-trust, and shares the three specific things that build lasting self-trust: keeping small promises, developing proof of integrity, and learning proof of recovery, a concept rooted in Martin Seligman's research on resilience and learned optimism. She also breaks down why taking risks only works when they're sized, limited, and diversified, and why selling is never about tactics; it's about credibility. If you've ever felt like confidence is just out of reach, this episode gives you a practical, research-backed path to build it starting today, plus a free assessment to help you find your own credibility gap and next brave move. In this episode: * Why confidence isn't a feeling you wait for * The Bandura fear study and what it reveals about self-efficacy * Confidence vs. self-trust — the critical difference * The 3 pillars of self-trust: kept promises, proof of integrity, proof of recovery * How to size, limit, and diversify risk * Why selling is about credibility, not tactics * This week's Brave Move + free Thought Leadership Assessment Take the Free Thought Leadership Assessment Here [https://goconfidentlyservices.myflodesk.com/tlvagapaudit] If you loved this episode, text me and let me know what you though. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/fan_mail/new] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/support] Join the Community [https://www.skool.com/confident-you-rawconversations-4533/about] Brave Moves is a daily confidence and personal growth podcast for ambitious women, women entrepreneurs, and leaders who are ready to overcome self-doubt, build resilience, and take bold action in business and life. Each short, practical episode blends mindset science, decision-making psychology, and real-life stories to help you strengthen your confidence, rewire negative thought patterns, and create meaningful forward momentum. If you are navigating career pivots, burnout, reinvention, or leadership growth, Brave Moves gives you the tools to think differently, act bravely, and design a future aligned with your values and vision. Because confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you build, one brave move at a time. Liked this episode? Share it with your midlife woman, entrepreneur friends! Love this show? Let us know how we helped you increase your confidence by leaving a review. For more about me and what I do, check out my website [https://goconfidentlycoaching.com/]. If you’re looking for support to grow your business faster, be positioned as an authority in your industry, and impact the masses, schedule a call [https://calendly.com/goconfidentlycoaching/coaching-call] to explore if you’d be a good fit for one of my coaching programs. Fo...