Stop Fighting Over Everything: How to Pick Your Battles & Protect Your Peace

Picking Your Battles with Adult & Married Children (Part 4) | Bringing Hope Home

They graduated. They moved out. They got married. And somewhere in there, your role as a parent completely changed — whether you were ready or not. In this heart-to-heart final episode of their Picking Your Battles series, Bryce and Colette Schaffer get honest about the hardest parenting season of all: letting go of your adult and married children. With three married kids and three grandkids of their own, they speak from real experience — including the tender moment Colette had to cut the "apron strings" with her son. It was the right call. And it still made her cry. In this episode, you'll hear practical, scripture-backed wisdom on: * How to transition from authority figure to trusted friend and encourager * Why unsolicited advice damages your relationship (and what to do instead) * The traps to avoid: control, guilt, money manipulation, and criticizing their spouse * How to "re-dedicate" your adult children to God and release them with faith * What it looks like to pray more and panic less — even when you don't like their choices * Why "leave and cleave" (Genesis 2:24) is a command for parents, too Whether your kids are heading to college, navigating early adulthood, or starting families of their own — this episode will anchor you in faith, give you practical tools, and remind you: you trained them up. Now trust the God who holds them. "Bring hope home to your life today." Resources: Schafferministries.com [http://Schafferministries.com] How Healthy Is Your Marriage? Take the Quiz [https://schafferministries.com/marriage-quiz] Follow us on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/coletteschaffer/] Join our monthly newsletter [https://schafferministries.com/newsletter] Check out our books and products [https://schafferministries.com/new-products]

Picking Battles with Your Teenager: Phones, Music, Friends & the Faith Foundation They Need

The teenage years don't have to be a war zone — but they do require wisdom. In this episode of Bringing Hope Home, Bryce and Colette Schaffer tackle the most common battles parents face with teenagers: phones and social media, music choices, friend groups, toxic relationships, drug and alcohol conversations, sexual boundaries, and keeping faith at the center of it all. As pastors, teachers, coaches, and parents of three grown children, Bryce and Colette bring a grounded, grace-filled perspective on what it means to guide your teen rather than control them. They share the practical rules that worked in their home, the "table talk" strategy for preparing your teen for hard situations, and why everything comes back to helping your teenager own their personal relationship with God. If you're in the thick of the teen years or trying to get ahead of them, this episode will equip and encourage you. You'll walk away with real tools — and real hope. Next week: Adult children and the college years. You won't want to miss it. Bring hope home to your life today. Resources: Schafferministries.com [http://Schafferministries.com] How Healthy Is Your Marriage? Take the Quiz [https://schafferministries.com/marriage-quiz] Follow us on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/coletteschaffer/] Join our monthly newsletter [https://schafferministries.com/newsletter] Check out our books and products [https://schafferministries.com/new-products]

Picking Your Battles: What's Worth the Fight With Your Kids (Toddlers to Tweens)

Every parent knows the feeling — you're tired, they're pushing every button, and you're not sure which hills are worth dying on. In this episode of Bringing Hope Home, Bryce and Colette Schaffer get practical and honest about how to pick your battles with your kids from the toddler years through elementary and middle school. Drawing on Scripture, 20 years of pastoral experience, and their own parenting journey, they break down which behaviors always need to be addressed — like lying, disrespect, and bullying — and which ones you can release with grace, like clothing choices, forgetfulness, and the beautiful mess of a kid just figuring out who they are. They dig into Ephesians 6:4, Proverbs 22:6, and Colossians 3:21, and share the wisdom that the foundation you lay in the toddler years shapes everything that follows — including your relationship with your teenagers. If you want a home marked by peace, trust, and kids who know they are deeply loved and held to a standard, this episode is for you. 🎧 Next week: Picking your battles with teenagers and young adults — don't miss it! "Bring hope home to your life today." Resources: Schafferministries.com [http://Schafferministries.com] How Healthy Is Your Marriage? Take the Quiz [https://schafferministries.com/marriage-quiz] Follow us on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/coletteschaffer/] Join our monthly newsletter [https://schafferministries.com/newsletter] Check out our books and products [https://schafferministries.com/new-products]

Stop Fighting Over Everything: How to Pick Your Battles & Protect Your Peace

Every couple fights. But are you fighting the right battles? In this episode of Bringing Hope Home, Bryce and Colette Schaffer get real about one of the most common and exhausting traps in marriage — fighting over everything and winning nothing. They walk you through how to step back, assess what's actually worth addressing, and approach conflict from a place of wisdom rather than raw emotion. You'll learn how emotional exhaustion is sabotaging your responses, why the pause is one of the most powerful tools in your marriage, and how to lean on the Holy Spirit before you ever open your mouth. They also tackle the difference between convictions and preferences (spoiler: most arguments are about preference), and why choosing compassion over winning actually does make you the winner. Grounded in Proverbs 19:11, James 1:19, and Ephesians 6:12, this episode will help you stop battling against your spouse and start building with them. Until next time — bring hope home to your life today. 💛 Resources: Schafferministries.com [http://Schafferministries.com] How Healthy Is Your Marriage? Take the Quiz [https://schafferministries.com/marriage-quiz] Follow us on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/coletteschaffer/] Join our monthly newsletter [https://schafferministries.com/newsletter] Check out our books and products [https://schafferministries.com/new-products]

Surviving Debt Together: 6 Christian Strategies to Stop Letting Money Control Your Marriage

Money fights. Sleepless nights. That invisible weight that never quite goes away. If debt is putting a strain on your marriage, this episode is for you. Bryce and Colette Schaffer of Bringing Hope Home open up about their own journey from seven credit cards and mounting debt to complete financial freedom — and they're sharing the exact strategies that got them there. In this episode, you'll learn:  ✅ How to get honest about where you really stand financially  ✅ Why a budget is "permission with boundaries" — not punishment  ✅ How to stop creating new debt (even when the pressure is on)  ✅ The debt snowball method that made paying off debt exciting  ✅ What the Bible actually says about money, debt, and generosity  ✅ How to invite God into your finances — and watch Him move  ✅ Why working together as a couple is the most powerful financial strategy you have Whether you're just starting out, deep in debt, or simply trying to get ahead — this episode meets you where you are with grace, truth, and a real plan forward. 📖 Galatians 6:9 | Matthew 6:24 | Malachi 3:10 Bring hope home to your life today. Resources: Schafferministries.com [http://Schafferministries.com] How Healthy Is Your Marriage? Take the Quiz [https://schafferministries.com/marriage-quiz] Follow us on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/coletteschaffer/] Join our monthly newsletter [https://schafferministries.com/newsletter] Check out our books and products [https://schafferministries.com/new-products]