Casual Doesn't Have to Mean Careless with Billy Procida, Jr.

Casual Doesn't Have to Mean Careless with Billy Procida, Jr.

It's my goal to get as many of my comet lovers (and anchor lovers!) on the show as possible, and Billy Procida, Jr., is the first! Huzzah! I have such a crush. Billy is a comedian, writer, and podcaster out of New York City. He's been producing weekly episodes of the Manwhore Podcast for 12 years now, and his Naked Comedy Show - which is exactly what it sounds like - sells out every month in Brooklyn and is now expanding to Philadelphia, Los Angeles, and Chicago. He's been featured in the New York Times and writes about sex, dating, and gender for Mashable. I like Billy because he sounds like straight bro comedians like Joe Rogan could sound like if they weren't so deeply misogynistic. In this episode, we discuss: * Billy's post-breakup happy slut era! Yay! * Why casual doesn't have to mean careless * How to flirt with women without being weird * The surprising secret to getting laid more * Non-monogamy, comet lovers, and relationship freedom * Why nonsexualized nudity is important for sex positivity * Sex parties, gangbang etiquette, and consent-oriented communication that actually works * How to be emotionally available without rushing into commitment SUPPORT BILLY: Billy's Website: www.manwhorepod.com [http://www.manwhorepod.com/] Subscribe to the Manwhore Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-manwhore-podcast-sex-positive-conversations/id864068000 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-manwhore-podcast-sex-positive-conversations/id864068000] Billy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/billyprocidajr/ [https://www.instagram.com/billyprocidajr/] Billy on Threads: https://www.threads.com/@billyprocidajr [https://www.threads.com/@billyprocidajr] Naked Comedy Show NYC (June 25): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1989846095236 [https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1989846095236] Naked Comedy Show Chicago (July 10): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1989444027641 [https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1989444027641] Hear Me Overshare on the Manwhore Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/can-you-switch-from-polyamory-to-monogamy/id864068000?i=1000753133897 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/can-you-switch-from-polyamory-to-monogamy/id864068000?i=1000753133897] SUPPORT THE SHOW! Subscribe to My Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com [https://samiamounts.substack.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts [https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts] & http://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast [http://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast [https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcast [https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcast] Share this episode with a friend, a lover, or somebody who's trying to figure out the difference between casual and careless. Mrow! xoxo, Samia Mentioned in this episode: Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products! Use code CLOSETED at check-out. Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closeted

Great Sex Is Healing Me

I'm bringing you a delicious glimpse into my current sex and love life this week, pinecones, and it is JUICY. Basically, a woman my partner Daniel and I met at a sex party flew across the country to spend intimate time with us and IT. WAS. MAGICAL. And unexpectedly healing. In this episode: • Why I think great sex can be profoundly healing • How being deeply desired is changing my relationship with my body • The connection between body image and sexuality • What happens when attraction, safety, and chemistry all align • Why our real attractions often have very little to do with conventional beauty standards • The surprising creative benefits of a thriving sex life • The difference between being chosen and being truly seen • Why I don't believe one person can be everything for their partner • What compersion feels like in real life • How sexual freedom became a superpower Listen to my interview on the Manwhore Podcast with Billy Procida for additional context: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/can-you-switch-from-polyamory-to-monogamy/id864068000?i=1000753133897 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/can-you-switch-from-polyamory-to-monogamy/id864068000?i=1000753133897] SUPPORT THE SHOW! If you're enjoying Happy Slut, please subscribe, rate, review, and share the show with a friend. Word of mouth is still the best way for new listeners to find us. I appreciate your shares so much! For my most personal writing—and all the juicy details that didn't make it into this episode—become a paid subscriber on Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com [https://samiamounts.substack.com/] Follow Samia: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts/ [https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts/] Follow Happy Slut: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast/ [https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast/] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast [https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast] Email: happyslutcast@gmail.com [happyslutcast@gmail.com] See you next week, pinecones! xoxo, Samia Mentioned in this episode: Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products! Use code CLOSETED at check-out. Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closeted

This Is What God Is with Rae Halder

Content warning: Mentions of sexual assault and child sexual abuse. We live within a system that allows sexual abuse of all kinds to flourish without much accountability, and because of that, a lot of us carry deep trauma around sex and intimacy. Rachel (Rae) Halder is one of those people, and she's also a certified trauma resolution and erotic embodiment coach with over a decade of experience helping others heal the same wounds she's been working to heal within herself. This episode deals with some heavy themes, buuuut we also talk about the Italian hippie who worshipped Rae like a sun goddess...so it's not all doom and gloom. Hehe! This is Happy Slut, after all! In this episode: * Rae's journey from childhood sexual abuse survivor to trauma resolution and erotic embodiment coach * Recovering a repressed memory years after the abuse occurred * Why our nervous systems dissociate, freeze, and fawn during sex * How unprocessed trauma gets stored in the body * The devastating gray area of consensual encounters that become traumatic experiences * Why some people intellectually want sex while their bodies experience it as unsafe * The surprising ways trauma can masquerade as asexuality * Growing up Mennonite and questioning patriarchal ideas about God, gender, and sexuality * Starting a groundbreaking blog about sexual violence before the #MeToo movement * The Italian hippie who accidentally sparked Rae's sexual awakening * Goddess worship, tantra, and discovering what truly safe erotic connection feels like * Chronic illness, interstitial cystitis, and the connection between trauma and the body * Why agency, autonomy, and choice are essential ingredients for healing * The difference between wanting sex and feeling safe enough to receive pleasure * How survivors can reclaim their sexuality without forcing themselves past their body's limits * What "erotic safety" actually means * Why healing often happens more slowly—and more gently—than we want it to FOLLOW RAE HALDER: Website: https://www.raehalder.com/ [https://www.raehalder.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rachel.rae.halder [https://www.instagram.com/rachel.rae.halder] Real Sex Substack: https://realsex.substack.com/ [https://realsex.substack.com/] FOLLOW SAMIA & HAPPY SLUT: Samia's Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts/ [https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts/] Happy Slut on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast/ [https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast/] Happy Slut on TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@happyslutcast [https://tiktok.com/@happyslutcast] SUPPORT THE SHOW: Become a paying Substack subscriber: https://samiamounts.substack.com [https://samiamounts.substack.com/] Venmo Samia: @Samia-Mounts / https://account.venmo.com/u/Samia-Mounts [https://account.venmo.com/u/Samia-Mounts] CashApp Samia: $SamiaMounts / https://cash.app/$SamiaMounts [https://cash.app/$SamiaMounts] Email me your thoughts or pitches at happyslutcast@gmail.com [happyslutcast@gmail.com]. I read every email! Thank you, pinecones! See ya next week. xoxo, Samia Mentioned in this episode: Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products! Use code CLOSETED at check-out. Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closeted

Inside the World of a Professional Orgy Organizer with Ali Bravo

Ali Bravo is a professional orgy organizer, a sex positive educator, a kinky leather artist, and a powerhouse force for destigmatizing kink, pleasure, and desire. When I met her in person a couple of weeks ago at Dixie De La Tour's Birthday Forgy (Friend Orgy), she was freshly resourced from her pre-party kink scene with one of her partners, a man who goes by the moniker Pleasure Wizard (and apparently REALLY lives up to that name!), and she was leading a group of 75 excited attendees through a consent and STI disclosure demo, capping it off with a proud announcement of her own positive herpes status. WHAT. A. BOSS. In this episode: * What it actually takes to organize a 75-person orgy * Why Ali uses kinky “pre-care” scenes as a leadership tool before big events * Growing up fat, horny, and desperate for validation * The heartbreaking origins of Ali’s pleasure journey * Discovering orgasm, restraint, and kink later in life * Why so many women struggle to stay connected to their bodies during sex * How patriarchy disconnects us from pleasure * STI disclosure, herpes stigma, and why “all the hotties have herpes” * The hilariously absurd logistics of glory holes, Grope-a-Clown boxes, pussy pageants and cockstume contests * Why whimsy, play, and crafts belong at sex parties * Ali’s philosophy on polyamory, metamours, and “aurora partnerships” * The difference between “platonic erotic” and “erotic platonic” relationships * Why getting railed is, apparently, a public health necessity * Building chosen family through kink and sex-positive community * Why everything you desire might actually be on the other side of fear READ ALI's COMPREHENSIVE STI DISCLOSURE ARTICLE: https://momotaroapotheca.com/blogs/vaginal-wellness/talking-about-stis-how-to-have-clear-amp-caring-conversations-about-sexual-health?srsltid=AfmBOopWdLDADnQIP53Y-kY3VIm3_wZuU3z4BICMcfa2c6Fqp6lVOMAE [https://momotaroapotheca.com/blogs/vaginal-wellness/talking-about-stis-how-to-have-clear-amp-caring-conversations-about-sexual-health?srsltid=AfmBOopWdLDADnQIP53Y-kY3VIm3_wZuU3z4BICMcfa2c6Fqp6lVOMAE] FOLLOW ALI BRAVO: Ali's Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raptorbravo/ [https://www.instagram.com/raptorbravo/] Ali's Leather Working Instragram: https://www.instagram.com/raptrix/ [https://www.instagram.com/raptrix/] FOLLOW SAMIA & HAPPY SLUT: Samia's Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts/ Happy Slut on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast/ [https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast/] Happy Slut on TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@happyslutcast [https://tiktok.com/@happyslutcast] SUPPORT THE SHOW: Become a paying Substack subscriber: https://samiamounts.substack.com [https://samiamounts.substack.com] Venmo Samia: @Samia-Mounts / https://account.venmo.com/u/Samia-Mounts [https://account.venmo.com/u/Samia-Mounts] CashApp Samia: $SamiaMounts / https://cash.app/$SamiaMounts [https://cash.app/$SamiaMounts] Email me your thoughts or pitches at happyslutcast@gmail.com. I read every email! Thank you, pinecones! See ya next week. xoxo, Samia Mentioned in this episode: Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products! Use code CLOSETED at check-out. Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closeted

Women Have Out-Menned Men with Mila Jam

Mila Jam is an international pop sensation, an artivist (activist + artist), a trans icon, a rising star, and somehow magically also my friend?!?!? How did life get so cool? Mila and I go deep in this conversation. We talk about gender, womanhood, dating, celibacy, the “boyfriend show,” patriarchal conditioning, trans visibility, intimacy, emotional labor, and why so many modern women are just…tired. Also: men will apparently fuck couches. In this episode: * Mila’s journey from Southern Baptist kid to trans icon * How “the boyfriend show” can last years * The surprising freedom of celibacy * Why modern women are exhausted by men * Dating while trans in pre-social media NYC * The difference between being desired and being valued * Ghosting, emotional cowardice, and modern dating culture * How “women have out-menned men” * Patriarchy, power, and emotional labor * What women actually want from men * How to stop accepting breadcrumb relationships * Trans womanhood, safety, intimacy, and visibility * The healing power of women supporting women * Why good treatment matters more than chemistry alone For ALL THINGS Mila: https://www.milajam.com/ [https://www.milajam.com/] Listen to Mila's music: https://open.spotify.com/artist/6m7wJXzvVyE0j6eef6pj1a?si=li_LtmpJSHaHoC99v78yIQ&nd=1&dlsi=8ce32e81b47b4973 [https://open.spotify.com/artist/6m7wJXzvVyE0j6eef6pj1a?si=li_LtmpJSHaHoC99v78yIQ&nd=1&dlsi=8ce32e81b47b4973] Watch Mila's iconic music videos: https://www.youtube.com/user/milajammusic [https://www.youtube.com/user/milajammusic] FOLLOW MILA ON SOCIALS: https://www.instagram.com/themilajam/ [https://www.instagram.com/themilajam/] https://www.tiktok.com/@themilajam [https://www.tiktok.com/@themilajam] SUPPORT THE SHOW! Become a paying Substack subscriber: https://samiamounts.substack.com [https://samiamounts.substack.com] Venmo Samia: @Samia-Mounts / https://account.venmo.com/u/Samia-Mounts [https://account.venmo.com/u/Samia-Mounts] CashApp Samia: $SamiaMounts / https://cash.app/$SamiaMounts [https://cash.app/$SamiaMounts] Email me your thoughts or pitches at happyslutcast@gmail.com. I read every email! Thank you, pinecones! See ya next week. xoxo, Samia Mentioned in this episode: Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closeted Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products! Use code CLOSETED at check-out.