Change READINESS : what is your BOAT?

How to REScue YOURself from a dysfunctional, toxic or abusive situation

Welcome to the new Counselor On-call because "Your Mental Health matters" show by Shirvington Hannays, a Canadian Certified Addiction Counsellor; Clinical Supervisor; and Telemedicine professional. This new show theme replaces the change show themE and will feature his signature Brief Intervention "How to REScue yourSELF" series of Mental Wellness issues. IN THIS EPISODE HE EXPLORES HOW YOU CAN LEARN AND MASTER “HOW TO RESCUE YOURSELF FROM A DYSFUNCTIONAL, TOXIC OR ABUSIVE SITUATION”. BY RECOGNIZING THE MANIPULATIVE AND ABUSIVE STAGES IN THE CYCLE OF AN ABUSIVE SITUATION THAT IS ENACTED AND CONTROLLED  BY THE ABUSIVE PERSON.

How to make the change "To REScue yourSELF from an Abusive relationship or Toxic situation"?

How do you make the Change to REScue yourSELF from an Abusive person or Toxic situation? You first need to identify and determine that you are in an abusive or dysfunctional and toxic situation or relationship. This usually is not easy to determine if the cycle of abuse is consciously and carefully controlled by the abusive person. Which often is skillfully manipulated consciously (with narcissistic behavioural traits) or unconsciously as a result of a (self-serving personality disorders). However, if you know the stages of the abusive cycle, you may be able to take back some control you were manipulated to give up (especially you self confidence and self-esteem). Which when compromised and diminished, would enable your learnt-helplessness, and explain why you stay in an abusive relationship or situation.

Change READINESS : what is your BOAT?

Lots of people talk about changing, wanting sincerely to do so but despite their best efforts to change their behaviours, they are still stuck in the Pre-contemplation stage of change readiness and commitment to changing.

Wanting to Change is not enough to commit to Change.

It takes the alignment of several key ingredients and self intrinsic motivational factor coming together for a person to move from wanting to change to commitment and motivation to undertake starting the process of behavioural change.

The Stages in the Stages of Change process

This episode takes a look into why "Change is always a process, never an event". Exploring a step by step guide to understand and undertake deliberate behavioral change.