She's Changing. Do You Still Fit? | Ep 63

She's Changing. Do You Still Fit? | Ep 63

Why Is Your Wife Suddenly Pulling Away or Changing in Midlife? If your wife has started saying no to things she used to just do, spending time in the other room, or making plans that don't run through you first, something real has shifted. This episode is about understanding what that shift actually means. We'll cover: * Why midlife brings real change for a lot of women, and why it usually has little to do with the marriage * Why her independence can feel like rejection even when it isn't * The quiet fear many men carry about being left behind, and why it isn't proof of anything * What it actually looks like to meet the woman she's becoming instead of holding onto who she used to be 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast [https://alisastoddard.com/podcast] 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in [https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in] Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page [https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page] Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/ [https://alisastoddard.com/]

Why Her Feedback Shuts You Down | Ep 62

Most men handle hard feedback at work without much trouble. But when their wife says something critical, a wall goes up almost instantly. This episode is about why that happens, what it costs, and what it quietly communicates to her over time. We cover: * Why her feedback feels like an attack even when it isn't * What she is actually saying underneath the surface complaint * How the defensive reflex trains her to stop being honest * The difference between being a partner and being a soft place to land * What it actually looks like to receive feedback without shutting down If you have ever walked away from a hard conversation feeling unfairly criticized while she walked away feeling more alone, this episode is for you. Join me for “What She Stopped Saying” - a free 30-minute webinar on July 8th. Register at Live Webinar | Open Call Registration [https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration] 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast [https://alisastoddard.com/podcast] 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in [https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in] Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page [https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page] Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/ [https://alisastoddard.com/]

Why Trying to Listen Harder Isn't Working | Ep 61

You've tried to listen better. You wait longer, stay calmer, stop interrupting. And she still says she doesn't feel heard. This episode names what's actually happening in that gap. Most men were taught that listening is about behavior. But behavior isn't what creates the experience of being heard. Until you understand the difference, you can keep improving your technique and still leave her feeling alone in the conversation. This isn't a how-to episode. No active listening steps. No reflective language techniques. Just an honest look at why the effort isn't landing, what's getting in the way, and why the gap between you has less to do with skill than with what stopped feeling safe a long time ago. In this episode: * Why listening harder and actually hearing her aren't the same thing * What she means when she says she doesn't feel heard * How problem-solving and self-protection interrupt real presence * Why men who've felt dismissed themselves often can't stay open enough to hear her * What changes when the experience of being heard finally shifts Join me for “What She Stopped Saying” - a free 30-minute webinar on July 8th. Register at Live Webinar | Open Call Registration [https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration] 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast [https://alisastoddard.com/podcast] 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in [https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in] Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page [https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page] Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/ [https://alisastoddard.com/]

She Noticed. She Still Didn’t Soften. Here’s Why. | Ep 60

When something finally breaks through, most men mobilize. They start doing more, handling more, showing up at a volume they’ve never sustained before. And then she doesn’t respond the way they expected. Or she tells them to slow down. And it makes no sense. This episode is about why flooding the zone with effort after a wake-up call often creates more confusion, not less - and what the difference actually is between performing change and becoming different. We’ll cover: * Why the scramble after a hard conversation isn’t the same as change * What she’s actually communicating when she says “do something for yourself” * Why her nervous system takes longer to update than his effort level * What genuine, sustainable change actually looks like from the inside   If you’re trying harder than you ever have and still feel like you’re missing something, this episode names what that something is. Join me for “What She Stopped Saying” - a free 30-minute webinar on June 24th. Register at Live Webinar | Open Call Registration [https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration] 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast [https://alisastoddard.com/podcast] 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in [https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in] Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page [https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page] Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/ [https://alisastoddard.com/]   [https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration]

It’s Not Just About Sex - You Want to Feel Wanted (Encore) | Ep 59

Before we get into today’s episode, I want to mention something happening next week. On Wednesday, June 18th at 12:30 PM Mountain Time, I’m hosting a free webinar called What She Stopped Saying. Thirty minutes, live on Zoom. Bring your real questions about your relationship and get honest answers. If you’ve been listening and wondering what this looks like applied to your specific situation, this is the place. Register here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration [https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration] In this short opening episode, I want to talk to the man who’s been carrying a quiet frustration. The one doing his best - but still feeling like the intimacy is gone. Maybe you’re barely having sex anymore. Maybe conversations feel distant, shallow, or nonexistent. Maybe you feel more like her roommate… or her employee… than her husband. You’re not crazy for wanting more. You’re not needy. You’re not broken. In this first episode, I’m laying the foundation for what this podcast is really here to help you do - and why it is possible to create more intimacy, trust, and connection, even if things have felt cold for a long time. 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast [https://alisastoddard.com/podcast] 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in [https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in] Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page [https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page] Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/ [https://alisastoddard.com/]