Why You Are Not Getting Results And How To Influence Your Outcomes | 51

Why You Are Not Getting Results And How To Influence Your Outcomes | 51

Do you feel like no matter what you do, no matter how much you work and how patient you are, you are not getting the outcomes and results you have been working for? The money is not there. The relationship is not healed. The health is not shifting. The dream is still just a dream. Hello, my name is Betsy Guerra and I have never once been able to control my outcomes. And I have tried. Hard. I am the queen of working as hard as humanly possible for outcomes I never see through. I have so much resilience because of how many epic failures I have had. And I cannot wait to share with you today what I have learned, because the amount of effort I put into everything I do in life does not always match the results I get. And I now know exactly why. And so will you by the end of this episode. THE THREE KINDS OF PEOPLE AND WHY NONE OF US CAN CONTROL OUTCOMES: There are three kinds of people when it comes to taking action on an idea. The first kind is impulsive. They hear an idea and they get it done immediately. They are go getters who do not mess around. That was me. I was always that way and it worked, until it did not. Because what happened is I would commit to so many things, start so many open tabs, and then feel obligated to close every single one of them at any cost. And when I say any cost, I mean at the cost of my well-being and my sanity. I also learned that by going too fast, I sometimes arrived at the destination before the destination was ready for me. I can give you a perfect example. During the pandemic I built a program called Hurt to Hope to help people who were grieving. I invested an enormous amount of money, energy, and time. The value was absolutely there. But it was an epic failure in my business because I built it before the world, before my potential clients, were ready to receive it. I had not built the right audience yet. I was still known as the couples whisperer in Miami, not as the grief expert. I skipped the preparation. I ran the marathon the day before the race was set up. I arrived at the finish line before the balloons and the tape were there to receive me. The second kind of person is stuck in thinking energy. They process and overthink and wonder if it will work and by the time they are done thinking about it, they have convinced themselves it will not. Nothing gets executed. The outcome of that is usually no outcome. The third kind, and this is who I am working to become, is the person who is still first. They sit with the idea. They pray about it. They wait for guidance. They listen for the recurring nudge that comes up in different scenarios, touches them emotionally, and simply will not leave them alone. And then, when guided, they execute. These people tend to experience more positive outcomes percentage-wise. But even they cannot control the destination. They can only influence it. Because here is the truth: we have power over ourselves and over the process. We have no power over outcomes. And that is not a failure. That is a gift. Resources & Links:Ready to step into your purpose and answer God’s calling to do more? Learn about my programs at FaithAndGrowth.comIf you’re ready to take action, book a call at TalkToBetsy.comGrab my book, Hurt 2 Hope: Heal the Pain of Grief, Loss, and Adversity: https://a.co/d/awwbAgcDownload the Better with Betsy App and gain 24/7 access to Betsy through her Betsy Bot!Free Purpose Workshop! Go to https://faithbasedcoachingacademy.com/FW to secure your spot

The Fear of Not Knowing: Take the Next Step in Faith | 50

It was the last session of the semester inside the Faith Based Coaching Academy. My student Mighty was sharing her journey, where she had started, how far she had come, and all the possibilities that had opened up to her that she could not have imagined when she first arrived. And then she said this phrase, which I am convinced she borrowed from someone extraordinary, because it stopped me completely in my tracks. As I walk forward, the path appears. I asked her to say it again. And she did. And I knew immediately that it was the theme of this episode. Because most of us are not stuck because we are lazy. We are stuck because we are waiting. Waiting for certainty. Waiting for the full map. Waiting to know all the steps before we take the first one. And in the meantime, God is standing at the trailhead with his hand extended, saying, just take this step. I will show you the rest. THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF: You are in the middle of something and you have no idea how it is going to end. A marriage, a diagnosis, a legal case, a business, a calling you know is yours but do not know how to step into. A child going off to college. A season of your life where the road has run out and you are waiting for more to appear. It will. I promise. But only as you walk. WHAT I AM TEACHING IN THIS EPISODE: Why uncertainty is not a problem to be solved but a blessing to be welcomed. If you knew everything from the beginning, you would be limited to the wisdom and capacity you have right now. And if there is one thing I know for certain, it is that we are lifelong learners. The wisdom you have in your forties and fifties could not have lived in you at age five. You earned it by walking the path. You cannot know it before you walk it. Why not knowing everything is actually a protection. My first business coach ever, Luli, taught me that sometimes you build the plane while it is flying. The information you need is not always available yet because God is still working on it. If you plan all your steps from where you stand today, you will miss the college counselor you were going to meet at a basketball game three months from now. You will make decisions based on what you know instead of what God is still preparing. Why uncertainty equals limitless possibilities, not lack of power. If you know everything, nothing can surprise you. And if nothing can surprise you, you are closed to graces, growth, miracles, and the peace that surpasses all understanding. A person of faith must believe in mystery. God is mysterious. His ways are mysterious. And when you leave room for that mystery, you leave room for him. Why God only lives in the present moment. Wayne Dyer said that the only thing that is real is that which never changes. And I want to say it this way: the only thing that is permanent, significant, and eternal is that which never changes. Your body changes. Your emotions change. Your thoughts change. Your circumstances change. None of it is permanent. But the soul God created to his image and likeness, that center within you that is one with the indwelling Holy Spirit, that never changes. That is what matters. That is what is real. And God lives there, in you, right now, in this present moment. Not in the worry about tomorrow. Not in the regret about yesterday. Right here. Right now. Resources & Links:Ready to step into your purpose and answer God’s calling to do more? Learn about my programs at FaithAndGrowth.comIf you’re ready to take action, book a call at TalkToBetsy.comGrab my book, Hurt 2 Hope: Heal the Pain of Grief, Loss, and Adversity: https://a.co/d/awwbAgcDownload the Better with Betsy App and gain 24/7 access to Betsy through her Betsy Bot!Free Purpose Workshop! Go to https://faithbasedcoachingacademy.com/FW to secure your spot

How to Stop Looking for Evidence That You'll Fail | 49

My mom used to say, especially to the men in our family who could never find anything when you asked them to look for it, el que lo busca, lo encuentra. In English: the person who looks for it will find it.   There is a lifetime of wisdom in that little phrase. And today I want to give it to you.   Because here is the truth that psychology and Scripture both confirm. You will always find evidence for whatever you are looking for. If you look for proof that life is falling apart, that the universe is working against you, that you are not capable, not enough, not going to make it, you will find it. Every single time.   But if you look for evidence that miracles exist, that success is inevitable for you, that God is working on your behalf even when you cannot see it, you will find that too.   The question is not whether the evidence is out there. The question is what you are choosing to look for.   In May, I set the intention of magic. I called it Magic May. And I want to tell you what happened, because I believe that when you see the proof in real stories, the concept stops being a nice idea and becomes a practice you cannot wait to start.   This week, become a loving observer of your own mind. Notice the questions you are asking yourself. Notice what you are looking for evidence of. And then make a decision, a true decision, to shift your focus toward seeking proof that your success is inevitable, that miracles surround you, that God is rigging the universe in your favor.   Because seek and you shall find. That is not a motivational quote. That is a promise.   And you are amazing just the way you are.  Resources & Links: * Ready to step into your purpose and answer God’s calling to do more? Learn about my programs at FaithAndGrowth.com * If you’re ready to take action, book a call at TalkToBetsy.com * Grab my book, Hurt 2 Hope: Heal the Pain of Grief, Loss, and Adversity: https://a.co/d/awwbAgc [https://a.co/d/awwbAgc] * Download the Better with Betsy App and gain 24/7 access to Betsy through her Betsy Bot! * Free Purpose Workshop! Go to https://faithbasedcoachingacademy.com/purpose/https://faithbasedcoachingacademy.com/FW [https://faithbasedcoachingacademy.com/FW] to secure your spot

How Do I Heal My Relationship With Money? | 48

We need to talk about money. Not in a financial planning kind of way. Not in a hustle harder kind of way. In a psycho-spiritual kind of way, because that is the only conversation about money that I believe actually gets to the root. Today I am going to help you diagnose your money problem, understand exactly why you have the relationship with abundance that you have, and then give you three practical tools to begin expanding your capacity to receive everything God created you to experience. Because John 10:10 says it clearly. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it abundantly. Not just enough. Not playing catch up. Not barely getting by. Abundantly. And if that is not your reality right now, I want to help you figure out why. THE THREE TOOLS TO EXPAND YOUR ABUNDANCE: Tool One, Reframe Your Mindset. All those sentences you grew up hearing, mo money mo problems, filthy rich, money does not grow on trees, we cannot afford that, we are going to reframe them all. Abundance is not a number. It is a state of being. And you start by watching your words. Replace I want with I desire. Replace I need with I am creating. Replace I wish with I will. Replace I can't with I have not learned how to yet. Language shapes the subconscious mind. Every word is a vote for your reality. Tool Two, Build the Gratitude Muscle. Gratitude is one of the highest frequency emotions there is. When you live in gratitude, you become attractive to abundance because like vibration attracts like vibration. Start viewing every payment you make as an expression of appreciation. Pay your electricity bill and say, thank you for keeping my home cool and my family comfortable. Pay your mortgage and say, thank you for the home where my family has built its most sacred memories. When a payment comes in, no matter how small, stop and receive it fully. Say thank you out loud. Feel it in your body. When you are grateful for the little, more is entrusted to you. That is not just a mindset concept. That is Scripture. Tool Three, Raise the Thermostat. Visualize yourself having already arrived. Use all of your senses. What does it feel like? What are you wearing? Who is with you? What do you smell? What do you hear? Then live with your hands open. Literally open the palms of your hands upward right now. That posture is the posture of a receiver. Many of us are asking God for more while living with our arms crossed and our fists clenched. Open up. Practice saying yes when people offer to help you. Practice receiving the small things so that you train yourself to receive the big ones. There is arrogance in only being a giver. Humility means being willing to receive too. I did my internship in New York. I was broke but abundant, as I like to say. I used to go to New York-style pizza places often because they were cheap and delicious. Every time I was in line and there was one slice of cheese pizza left and someone ordered it before me, instead of dreading the wait, I rejoiced. Because I knew that when the last slice was taken, a whole fresh new pie was coming. I wanted the fresh one. I wanted the replenished one. That is how God works. Every time a slice of abundance, of love, of opportunity, of peace, is given away, it replenishes back to 100 percent. Abundance minus two equals abundance. Always.Resources & Links:Ready to step into your purpose and answer God’s calling to do more? Learn about my programs at FaithAndGrowth.comIf you’re ready to take action, book a call at TalkToBetsy.comGrab my book, Hurt 2 Hope: Heal the Pain of Grief, Loss, and Adversity: https://a.co/d/awwbAgcDownload the Better with Betsy App and gain 24/7 access to Betsy through her Betsy Bot!Free Purpose Workshop! Go to https://faithbasedcoachingacademy.com/FW to secure your spot

The Power of Acceptance: How to Welcome What You Never Would Have Chosen | 47

The night after Fofi passed, I found myself on the bathroom floor in fetal position, rocking back and forth, wanting to rip my own head off. Wanting to disappear. Wanting to lose contact with reality because reality was too hard to bear. I want to be honest with you about that because you need to know that I know what it feels like to be in the pit. And I also need you to know that experiencing pain does not have to include that sensation permanently. I learned that within a month. And in this episode I want to teach you what I learned. One morning not long after losing Fofi, I was at Mass asking God, what do I do now? All I could hear from the scriptures being read was one single word. Accept. And I knew. I knew that was the answer to my prayer. Every day this week, or for as long as you need it, I invite you to pray the Welcoming Prayer of Thomas Keating. It goes like this. Welcome, welcome, welcome. I welcome everything that comes to me today because I know it is for my healing. I welcome all thoughts, feelings, emotions, persons, situations, and conditions. I let go of my desire for power and control. I let go of my desire for affection, esteem, approval, and pleasure. I let go of my desire for survival and security. I let go of my desire to change any situation, condition, person, or myself. I open to the love and presence of God and God's action within. Amen. The moment you welcome what is as is is the very moment you will begin to manifest the peace and the joy that surpasses all understanding. I promise you that. I love you like crazy.Resources & Links:Ready to step into your purpose and answer God’s calling to do more? Learn about my programs at FaithAndGrowth.comIf you’re ready to take action, book a call at TalkToBetsy.comGrab my book, Hurt 2 Hope: Heal the Pain of Grief, Loss, and Adversity: https://a.co/d/awwbAgcDownload the Better with Betsy App and gain 24/7 access to Betsy through her Betsy Bot!Free Purpose Workshop! Go to https://faithbasedcoachingacademy.com/FW to secure your spot