#72: Not Good Enough: Where That Voice Came From and Why It Isn’t True [Summer of the Self Series]

#72: Not Good Enough: Where That Voice Came From and Why It Isn’t True [Summer of the Self Series]

Do you have a “not good enough” voice? Most of us do and most of us spend a lot more time listening to it than questioning it. In this episode of the Summer of the Self series, we’re looking at one of the most common ways the mind keeps us stuck: the story of not good enough. Where it came from, why it isn’t the whole truth, and what to do when you catch yourself in it. I’m sharing a simple tool called The Truth Is, a journaling and reflection activity that invites you to look at the other side of the story. Not to ignore the negative, but to build the habit of also seeing what’s actually true about you and what you’ve already accomplished. Because most of us are much better at noticing what we haven’t done than celebrating what we have and that imbalance is worth looking at. This week’s invitation: name your story, then ask yourself… what is another truth? Resources and Next Steps: Read Mind Body Connection Unlocked  [https://www.maryclavieres.com/book] Simple Mind-Body Techniques to Rewire Your Mind, Deepen Your Self-Connection, and Gently Transform the Way You Live [https://www.maryclavieres.com/book] Listen to Ep 48 and the Decision Making Series [https://www.maryclavieres.com/decision-making-podcast] to learn more about your unique decision making style Find Mary Here: Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-clavieres-19917a7/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-clavieres-19917a7/] Instagram: www.instagram.com/mary.clavieres [http://www.instagram.com/mary.clavieres] Voxer: @ maryclavieres Thanks for being here!

#71: Who Am I Really: The Self Beneath the Roles You Play Every Day [Summer of the Self Series]

Mother. Leader. Partner. Colleague. Caregiver. Friend. How many roles are you playing right now and when did you last check in on the person underneath all of them? In this episode of the Summer of the Self series, we’re exploring one of the biggest questions in any personal growth journey: who am I really? It’s easy to lose yourself in the roles you play. The identity of parent, the identity of leader, the identity of whatever role has felt most important lately and then one day you look up and ask: is this the life I really planned? Is this what I actually want? I’m sharing how conditioning shapes the roles we develop, why it’s so easy to mistake a role for your whole identity (especially as a parent), and two simple tools for self discovery. Plus this week’s reflection prompts: * What are the roles you play in your life? * Who are you separate from these roles? Resources and Next Steps: Read Mind Body Connection Unlocked  [https://www.maryclavieres.com/book] Simple Mind-Body Techniques to Rewire Your Mind, Deepen Your Self-Connection, and Gently Transform the Way You Live [https://www.maryclavieres.com/book] Listen to Ep 48 and the Decision Making Series [https://www.maryclavieres.com/decision-making-podcast] to learn more about your unique decision making style Find Mary Here: Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-clavieres-19917a7/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-clavieres-19917a7/] Instagram: www.instagram.com/mary.clavieres [http://www.instagram.com/mary.clavieres] Voxer: @ maryclavieres Thanks for being here!

#70: How to Be Yourself Beyond the Expectations and Stories You Inherited

Have you ever stopped and asked yourself: is this actually me, or was I taught this? Most of what we believe about ourselves including what we deserve, how we’re supposed to act, what’s possible for us, etc…  didn’t come from us. It came from family, school, workplaces, society, and a thousand small moments where we absorbed other people’s expectations without realizing it. It’s called conditioning. And in this episode, the second in the Summer of the Self series, we’re looking at where it comes from and how to start spotting it in your own life. From money beliefs passed down from parents, to workplace rules about emotions, to the pervasive idea that taking time for yourself as a mother is selfish, conditioning is everywhere. The good news is that awareness is the first step to moving beyond it. This week’s reflection prompt: pick one belief you’ve been carrying for a long time and ask yourself… where did it actually come from? Does it still serve you? Resources and Next Steps: Not sure what your decision-making style is? Get your free Human Design chart in 2 minutes. https://www.maryclavieres.com/getyourchart [https://www.maryclavieres.com/getyourchart] Ready to stop second-guessing yourself? Book a Decision Making Accelerator session and we’ll dive into YOUR specific style, with practical next steps you can use immediately. https://www.maryclavieres.com/decision-making-accelerator [https://www.maryclavieres.com/decision-making-accelerator] Find Mary Here: Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-clavieres-19917a7/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-clavieres-19917a7/] Instagram: www.instagram.com/mary.clavieres [http://www.instagram.com/mary.clavieres] Voxer: @ maryclavieres Additional Resources: Mind Body Connection Unlocked (Book) [https://www.maryclavieres.com/book]  Listen to Ep 48 and the Decision Making Series [https://www.maryclavieres.com/decision-making-podcast] to learn more about your unique decision making style Thanks for being here!

#69: How to Find Yourself Again: A Summer Series on Coming Back to You

Have you ever looked at your life and thought… this all looks great on paper, but something isn’t quite right? That feeling of having checked all the boxes, done all the things, and still feeling a disconnect inside is something a lot of us experience. We just don’t always have the words for it. And we usually don’t know how to handle it either. This episode kicks off the Summer of the Self. A new series of short, reflective episodes designed to help you come back to you.  In this first episode I’m sharing two stories from my own life where I found myself exactly here along with a reflection prompt to ge you started on the next step of your journey. Resources and Next Steps: Not sure what your decision-making style is? Get your free Human Design chart in 2 minutes. https://www.maryclavieres.com/getyourchart [https://www.maryclavieres.com/getyourchart] Ready to stop second-guessing yourself? Book a Decision Making Accelerator session and we’ll dive into YOUR specific style, with practical next steps you can use immediately. https://www.maryclavieres.com/decision-making-accelerator [https://www.maryclavieres.com/decision-making-accelerator] Find Mary Here: Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-clavieres-19917a7/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-clavieres-19917a7/] Instagram: www.instagram.com/mary.clavieres [http://www.instagram.com/mary.clavieres] Voxer: @ maryclavieres Additional Resources: Mind Body Connection Unlocked (Book) [https://www.maryclavieres.com/book]  Listen to Ep 48 and the Decision Making Series [https://www.maryclavieres.com/decision-making-podcast] to learn more about your unique decision making style Thanks for being here!

#68: Family Dynamics and Energy Types: How to Stop Expecting Everyone to Operate Like You Do

Why does one child wake up ready to go while the other needs the whole morning to ease in? Why does your partner have already run three errands before you’ve finished your first cup of tea? It might not be personality. It might be your energy type. In this episode I’m talking about family dynamics through the lens of Human Design energy types and what changes when you stop expecting everyone in your household to operate the same way you do. I’m sharing real examples from my own family of four (two energy types, four very different Saturday mornings), including what it looks like to have one sacral-defined child and one non-sacral child, and why understanding that difference has changed how we plan vacations, weekends, and pretty much everything else. If you’ve ever felt frustrated that someone in your house doesn’t operate on your schedule — or that you’re always the one who needs more rest — this episode will give you a new way to look at it. Resources and Next Steps: Not sure what your decision-making style is? Get your free Human Design chart in 2 minutes. https://www.maryclavieres.com/getyourchart Ready to stop second-guessing yourself? Book a Decision Making Accelerator session and we’ll dive into YOUR specific style, with practical next steps you can use immediately. https://www.maryclavieres.com/decision-making-accelerator Find Mary Here: Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-clavieres-19917a7/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/mary.clavieres Voxer: @ maryclavieres