You're Trying to Control the Wrong Things (And It's Costing You Everything)

You're Trying to Control the Wrong Things (And It's Costing You Everything)

Most of us spend our lives trying to control people, relationships, outcomes, finances, careers, and even our emotions. The harder we try, the more exhausted we become. In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason explore one of the biggest mindset shifts you can make: you control very little—but you influence almost everything. Together, they unpack: * Why trying to control life creates anxiety and frustration * The difference between control and influence * How your internal state shapes every relationship you have * Why accountability is the foundation of real freedom * How your nervous system affects the way you experience the world * Why the energy you bring into a room often determines what comes back to you * How to become the kind of person who naturally influences others without forcing change If you've been waiting for life, people, or circumstances to change before you can finally feel at peace, this conversation may completely change the way you think. The greatest influence you'll ever have isn't over other people—it's over the person you become. #MentalHealth #PersonalGrowth #SelfAwareness #EmotionalHealth #Mindset #Healing #Relationships #Influence #Accountability #MensMentalHealth #EmotionalIntelligence #SelfImprovement #GuysDealingsWithFeelings #Podcast #GrowthMindset

You Can't Change What Happened—But You Can Change What Happens Next

Life can change in an instant. One phone call. A divorce. A diagnosis. Losing someone you love. Losing the future you thought you were going to have. None of us chooses these moments. The real question is: What do we do after they happen? In this episode, Aaron shares the unimaginable loss of his son Joel and the journey that followed—not toward "getting over it," but toward finding meaning, acceptance, and eventually peace. Jason explains why our nervous system naturally resists change, why we become trapped in rumination, and why healing begins when we stop fighting reality and start learning how to work with it. In this conversation, you'll learn: • Why accepting reality is not the same as approving of it • The hidden reason we stay emotionally stuck after loss and trauma • How our thoughts keep us trapped in the past • Why healing isn't about forgetting—it's about changing your relationship with what happened • The role of the nervous system and vagus nerve in emotional recovery • Practical ways to begin moving forward after life changes overnight Whether you're grieving someone you lost, recovering from divorce, facing a career change, or simply struggling with a future you never imagined, this episode offers hope without pretending the pain isn't real. Sometimes healing doesn't begin when life changes. It begins when we stop fighting the fact that it already has. If this episode helped you, please Like, Subscribe, and Share. Every share helps us reach another man who may be silently carrying more than anyone realizes. Stay in the fight. The world is a better place with you in it. #GuysDealingsWithFeelings #MensMentalHealth #Healing #Acceptance #Grief #TraumaRecovery #MentalHealth #EmotionalHealing #PersonalGrowth #Resilience #Mindset #SelfImprovement #EmotionalAwareness #LifeAfterLoss #VagusNerve

Why You Can't Let Go (And the Mindset That Finally Sets You Free)

What if forgiveness has nothing to do with the person who hurt you? Most of us think forgiveness means excusing someone's behavior, pretending it didn't hurt, or allowing them back into our lives. It doesn't. In this episode, we challenge that belief and explore a different perspective: Forgiveness isn't about setting them free—it's about setting yourself free. Aaron shares how years of resentment, trauma, and the loss of his son shaped his understanding of forgiveness, while Jason explains why our nervous system keeps replaying old wounds and why letting go is less about thinking differently and more about learning to release what we're carrying. We discuss: • Why resentment feels like protection—but becomes a prison  • The difference between forgiveness, reconciliation, and healthy boundaries  • Why your nervous system keeps replaying painful memories  • How gratitude can help transform even life's hardest experiences  • Why "letting go" is a skill—not a personality trait  • The hidden emotional cost of carrying old pain  • How to stop reliving the past without pretending it never happened If you've been holding onto anger, betrayal, guilt, or regret, this conversation isn't asking you to excuse what happened. It's inviting you to stop carrying it. Because sometimes the greatest act of courage isn't getting even. It's deciding your peace matters more than your resentment. If this episode resonates with you, please Like, Subscribe, and Share. Every share helps us reach another man who may be silently carrying more than anyone realizes. Stay in the fight. The world is a better place with you in it. #GuysDealingsWithFeelings #MensMentalHealth #Forgiveness #Healing #TraumaRecovery #EmotionalHealth #Resentment #LettingGo #MentalHealth #SelfGrowth #Mindset #EmotionalAwareness #PersonalDevelopment #InnerPeace #Podcast

Self-Sabotage Isn't Real: Why You Keep Getting in Your Own Way

You keep getting in your own way. You know what you should do. You can even picture yourself doing it. But when the moment comes — the cold call, the hard conversation, the next step on the thing you actually want — something stops you. And then you spend the rest of the day calling yourself self-sabotaging, undisciplined, or lazy. In this episode, Jason (a licensed therapist with over 18 years of experience) and Aaron unpack why "self-sabotage" is the wrong word for what's actually happening — and why using it keeps you stuck. What you'll learn: * Why calling it "self-sabotage" is a form of gaslighting yourself — and what's really happening underneath * The difference between dodging a person, a task, or a conversation, versus what you're actually dodging: a sensation in your body you don't have capacity for yet * Why procrastination isn't laziness — it's a nervous system that's overwhelmed and can't take one more thing * Why "rejection" isn't real — and why naming it that way keeps you afraid of feelings instead of building capacity for them * Aaron opens up about his own block around cold sales: why he can walk into a vulnerable conversation with anyone but freezes at the basic ask * The paradox at the heart of moving forward — the fastest way to act is to sit down first * Why discipline isn't about willpower — it's about the capacity to be uncomfortable and move anyway * Practical entry points: how to sit with sensation, when to use the breath, and how this rebuilds your nervous system's capacity over time If you've been treating your stuck-ness like a character flaw, this is the episode that names it as something else entirely — and shows you the actual mechanism for changing it.  #SelfSabotage #MensMentalHealth #Procrastination #NervousSystem #EmotionalRegulation #MensWellness #Avoidance #PersonalGrowth #SelfAwareness #SomaticHealing #InnerWork #EmotionalIntelligence #Discipline #FearOfFailure #VagusNerve #BodyMind #MensPodcast #MentalHealthPodcast #PodcastForMen #GuysDealingsWithFeelings

You're Not Emotionless — You're Emotionally Disconnected

Have you ever looked at your life and wondered why you don't feel excited anymore? Why relationships seem distant, motivation is fading, or every day feels like you're just going through the motions? In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason explore emotional numbness—not as a personality trait or weakness, but as a disconnection from ourselves that often develops over years of pushing emotions aside. Together they discuss: * Why many men mistake thinking for feeling * How trauma and chronic stress disconnect us from our emotions * The hidden cost of constantly living in our heads * Why purpose isn't found in a paycheck or external achievement * How reconnecting with our bodies and emotions can transform every area of life * The role of presence, nature, awareness, and honest self-reflection in healing This conversation challenges the belief that we're simply "not emotional" and instead offers a different perspective: maybe we've just forgotten how to listen. If you've been feeling stuck, disconnected, isolated, or like you're surviving instead of living, this episode offers a path back toward yourself. #GuysDealingsWithFeelings #MensMentalHealth #EmotionalAwareness #EmotionalNumbness #TraumaRecovery #HealingJourney #MentalHealthPodcast #SelfAwareness #Presence #PersonalGrowth