S3E7 - The Hidden Life of a Father: Spiritual Disciplines That Surround and Inform Your Work Life

S3E7 - The Hidden Life of a Father: Spiritual Disciplines That Surround and Inform Your Work Life

Many fathers carry a deep sense of responsibility to provide, achieve, and work hard, yet often wonder how their faith should shape both their work and their family life. In this episode, we explore the spiritual disciplines that surround and inform the life of work: before you leave for work, while you're at work, and when you return home. We discuss the hidden life of a father and why spiritual formation matters when much of your most important work goes unseen. Drawing from poetry, teachings, and our own lived experience, we examine how spiritual disciplines reorder our loves, expose what is driving us, create space for God to interrupt our patterns, and quietly shape the kind of fathers we are becoming. Key Disciplines of Fathers (Which Also Apply to the Workplace): 1. Presence. 2. Blessing. 3. Repair. 4. Attention. 5. Slowing down. 6. Play. 7. Emotional awareness. 8. Saying no. We also talk about the transformative impact of prayer, Scripture, fasting, Sabbath, and generosity, as well as two practical rhythms for the workday: making prayer part of your work rhythm and making rest and reflection part of your work rhythm. Along the way, we explore why Sabbath is designed to help us work from rest rather than simply recover from exhaustion, and why our limits are a feature of God’s design, not a flaw. This episode is not a call to legalism or adding more to your to-do list. It is an invitation to start somewhere. Spiritual disciplines are a gift that help us live, work, and lead our families from a place of being deeply loved by our Father. Intentional Fatherhood Retreat [http://intentionalfatherhood.org/retreat]: November 12-14, 2026 in Austin, TX Scripture Mentioned: Mark 1:9-11 + Matthew 11:30 Previous Episode Mentioned: S1E3 - Habits, Rhythms, and Spiritual Disciplines for Intentional Fatherhood (YouTube [https://youtu.be/_LPhaFCDtwI?si=QGPJy0UiQzb_buT6], Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/5D6Lc5mKetruzeNDLpOqFx?si=509a09dff9fc4743] + Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/s1e3-habits-rhythms-and-spiritual-disciplines-for/id1818945136?i=1000714315300]) Poem Mentioned: Those Winter Sundays by Robert Hayden Submit Questions: Send a voice recording to hello@intentionalfatherhood.org [hello@intentionalfatherhood.org], mentioning your name and where you’re from. Intentional Fatherhood Website [https://www.intentionalfatherhood.org/] Follow @intentionalfatherhood_ [https://www.instagram.com/intentionalfatherhood_/] on Instagram Watch + Subscribe on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@intentional_parents] Intentional: Website [https://www.intentionalparents.org/] + Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/intentional_parents/] Justin Whitmel Earley: Website [https://www.justinwhitmelearley.com/] + Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/justinwhitmelearley/]

S3E6 - What Makes Healthy and Unhealthy Leaders: Hard Conversations, Character + Servant Leadership

This week, we dive into leadership and why it matters for every man. Most people think of leadership as something reserved for business owners, managers, or people with authority, but the reality is that we're all leading somewhere. As fathers and husbands, the way we show up influences the people around us and shapes the culture of our homes, workplaces, and communities. In this conversation, we unpack what healthy leadership actually looks like and why so many leaders get it wrong. We explore why leadership is less about competency and more about character, why servant leadership creates healthy cultures, and how many of the same qualities that make someone a good leader also make them a good father. We also discuss some of the common reasons people struggle in leadership, including insecurity, performance-based identity, a need for control, and the tendency to avoid hard conversations. Along the way, we talk about the responsibility leaders have to bring calm in moments of chaos, make difficult decisions when necessary, communicate clearly, and put the needs of others ahead of their own. Ultimately, we look to Jesus as the model for healthy leadership. By paying attention to how He lived, served, spoke, and led in the Gospels, we find a perfect example of leadership rooted in humility, courage, conviction, and care for others. Whether at home, at work, or in the community, His example challenges us to lead in a way that helps others flourish. 7 Practices of a Healthy Leader: 1. Practice daily self-leadership by managing yourself well before leading others. 2. Clarify and repeat the vision consistently so people know where they are headed. 3. Have hard conversations early, addressing issues with both kindness and honesty. 4. Create healthy feedback loops and invite others to speak openly. 5. Serve in unseen ways, looking for opportunities to put others first. 6. Filter complaints wisely, discerning which concerns need action and which do not. 7. Be available and present with the people you lead, investing time in relationships. Intentional Fatherhood Retreat [http://intentionalfatherhood.org/retreat]: November 12-14, 2026 in Austin, TX Scripture Mentioned: Proverbs 29:18 + Proverbs 11:10 Previous Episode Mentioned: S3E3: The Dangerous Lie About Calling and Success (YouTube [https://youtu.be/eUWQmSL8IrA?si=Ga9LafiDum3mzQpO], Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/4mjtwxeXGIYrYEpMQK51S1?si=6d20bdfe952f4a08] + Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/s3e3-the-dangerous-lie-about-calling-and-success/id1818945136?i=1000768519680]) Submit Questions: Send a voice recording to hello@intentionalfatherhood.org [hello@intentionalfatherhood.org], mentioning your name and where you’re from. Intentional Fatherhood Website [https://www.intentionalfatherhood.org/] Follow @intentionalfatherhood_ [https://www.instagram.com/intentionalfatherhood_/] on Instagram Watch + Subscribe on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@intentional_parents] Intentional: Website [https://www.intentionalparents.org/] + Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/intentional_parents/] Justin Whitmel Earley: Website [https://www.justinwhitmelearley.com/] + Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/justinwhitmelearley/]

S3E5 - You Have Enough Time for the Life God Actually Called You To

In this episode, we continue our conversation on stewardship by looking at one of our most valuable and limited resources: time. Time is the currency of our purpose, and stewarding it well means finding the balance between laziness and anxiety. While some of us need to embrace greater ambition and intentionality, others need to embrace the gift of limitation. Rest, sleep, Sabbath, and slower rhythms are not flaws in our design, they are part of it. Drawing from Ephesians 5:15-16, we discuss what it means to “redeem the time.” The goal is not perfect productivity but faithful stewardship. You may not have enough time to do everything you want to do, but you do have enough time to do the things God is calling you to do. Wisdom helps us release unrealistic expectations, trust God with the future, and use our days with greater purpose. We also explore the importance of using mornings and evenings well, building life-giving rituals, and developing habits that shape a sustainable rhythm of life. Because in the end, we redeem time not to become more productive, but to become the people God has called us to be. Practical ways to steward your time: 1. Structure important blocks of your day. 2. Track where your time goes. 3. Put your phone out of sight when working. 4. Sit with difficult problems instead of escaping them. 5. Write by hand to improve focus and clarity. 6. Create intentional phone settings for work, home, and Sabbath. Intentional Fatherhood Retreat [http://intentionalfatherhood.org/retreat]: November 12-14, 2026 in Austin, TX Scripture Mentioned: Ephesians 5:15-16, Psalm 90:12 + Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 Book Mentioned: The Writing Life [https://www.amazon.com/Writing-Life-Annie-Dillard/dp/0060919884] by Annie Dillard Submit Questions: Send a voice recording to hello@intentionalfatherhood.org [hello@intentionalfatherhood.org], mentioning your name and where you’re from. Intentional Fatherhood Website [https://www.intentionalfatherhood.org/] Follow @intentionalfatherhood_ [https://www.instagram.com/intentionalfatherhood_/] on Instagram Watch + Subscribe on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@intentional_parents] Intentional: Website [https://www.intentionalparents.org/] + Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/intentional_parents/] Justin Whitmel Earley: Website [https://www.justinwhitmelearley.com/] + Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/justinwhitmelearley/]

S3E4 - Stewardship of Your Money, Radical Generosity + Purposeful Simplicity

This week, we talk about money, work, providing, and vocation through the lens of biblical stewardship. Stewardship is the faithful management of what belongs to God, and Scripture reminds us that our money, time, relationships, influence, families, and opportunities are ultimately His, not ours. Jesus speaks often about greed and warns against living with an ownership mindset instead of a steward’s heart. We explore what it looks like to faithfully steward not only finances, but also our wives, children, organizations, and responsibilities. Seeing ourselves as stewards kills entitlement and reshapes how we use our resources for the good of our families, neighbors, churches, and communities. The conversation also highlights the importance of simplicity and generosity, which means living with intentional limits instead of unnecessary excess, while cultivating a lifestyle of open-handed giving with our money, time, and energy. We also discuss practical ways to build habits and structures around generosity, including the idea of capping your lifestyle while leaving your generosity uncapped. Rather than drifting financially, families should decide ahead of time what “enough” looks like and create a plan for giving radically and intentionally. Practical Steps: * As you anticipate or plan for an increase in finances, discuss with your spouse what your capped lifestyle looks like. * Create a plan for generosity, including specific categories, the timing, how much, etc. 3 Questions to Ask Yourself: 1. What have you been given? 2. What does faithfulness look like in those areas? 3. What needs to change in how you’re handling it? Intentional Fatherhood Retreat [http://intentionalfatherhood.org/retreat]: November 12-14, 2026 in Austin, TX Scripture Mentioned: 1 Timothy 6:10, Luke 12:13-21, Luke 12:48, 1 Corinthians 4:2, Matthew 6:19-24 + Matthew 6:1-8 Submit Questions: Send a voice recording to hello@intentionalfatherhood.org, mentioning your name and where you’re from. Intentional Fatherhood Website [https://www.intentionalfatherhood.org/] Follow @intentionalfatherhood_ [https://www.instagram.com/intentionalfatherhood_/] on Instagram Watch + Subscribe on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@intentional_parents] Intentional: Website [https://www.intentionalparents.org/] + Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/intentional_parents/] Justin Whitmel Earley: Website [https://www.justinwhitmelearley.com/] + Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/justinwhitmelearley/]

S3E3 - The Dangerous Lie About Calling and Success

This episode wraps up our conversation on the spiritual foundation of work before we move into the practical side of vocation and calling. We explore the tension between ambition and idolatry, and how we were created to pursue meaningful things, yet how easily ambition can become self-centered. Together, we discuss how Scripture reframes ambition as something good when it’s rooted in humility, service, and faithfulness rather than ego, pride, or status. Justin reflects on how his understanding of “making it” was shaped by watching his father’s success and notoriety, while Brook shares how parenting a child with special needs has reshaped his view of ambition, rhythms, and career expectations. We also talk through the things that often hold us back from healthy ambition: fear, comfort, distraction, comparison, exhaustion, financial pressure, and the lies we believe about ourselves. Ultimately, we ask what it looks like to pursue success with integrity and a focus on spiritual formation, remembering that the goal is not selfish ambition, but courage, humility, and faithfulness. Practices: 1. Be honest with trusted friends about your ambition. 2. Be honest with trusted friends about your idols. 3. Be honest with trusted friends about the audacious dream(s) you’re afraid to say out loud. Intentional Fatherhood Retreat [http://intentionalfatherhood.org/retreat]: November 12-14, 2026 in Austin, TX Scripture Mentioned: Philippians 2:3-9, John 8:44, Proverbs 11:10, 2 Corinthians 10:5 + Romans 12:2 Books Mentioned: Godly Ambition [https://www.amazon.com/Godly-Ambition-Unlocking-Potential-Treasure/dp/0593602463] by Ruslan KD, Every Good Endeavor [https://www.amazon.com/Every-Good-Endeavor-Connecting-Your/dp/1594632820] by Timothy Keller, Generous Justice [https://www.amazon.com/Generous-Justice-Gods-Grace-Makes/dp/0525951903] by Timothy Keller, Kingdom Calling [https://www.amazon.com/Kingdom-Calling-Vocational-Stewardship-Common/dp/0830838090]by Amy Sherman + On the Road with Saint Augustine [https://www.amazon.com/Road-Saint-Augustine-Real-World-Spirituality/dp/1587433893] by James K. A. Smith Submit Questions: Send a voice recording to hello@intentionalfatherhood.org [hello@intentionalfatherhood.org], mentioning your name and where you’re from. Intentional Fatherhood Website [https://www.intentionalfatherhood.org/] Follow @intentionalfatherhood_ [https://www.instagram.com/intentionalfatherhood_/] on Instagram Watch + Subscribe on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@intentional_parents] Intentional: Website [https://www.intentionalparents.org/] + Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/intentional_parents/] Justin Whitmel Earley: Website [https://www.justinwhitmelearley.com/] + Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/justinwhitmelearley/]