Not So Normal Parenting | Enneagram, Myers Briggs, Personality, Neurodivergence, Emotional Intelligence

What if one parenting technique could reduce whining, tantrums, and interruptions by up to 80%? In this episode, we dive into the research-backed power of planned ignoring, based on the work of Dr. Alan Kazdin of the Yale Parenting Center. Research from Yale's Parenting Center shows that planned ignoring—when used correctly with consistent positive attention—can reduce negative behaviors in children by up to 80%. But here's the deal—planned ignoring only works when paired with intentional, strength-based attention. And take a guess where you can get a detailed roadmap of your child’s unique strengths? My website of course. Head to WendyGossett.com  and take the free Child Temperament Test—then grab a copy of my best-selling book, Your Child’s Inner Drive: Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens. It’s your go-to guide for raising your child with insight, intention, and confidence. Learn how to strategically withdraw attention from negative behavior while building stronger bonds through positive reinforcement. With examples, step-by-step guidance, and real talk on what actually works, this episode will transform the way you parent today. Set up a FREE Chat: https://wendygossett.as.me/ChatwithWendy Take my FREE child temperament test:  https://wendygossett.com/child-inner-drive-assessment-product/ [https://wendygossett.com/child-inner-drive-assessment-product/] Request a FREE Adult Temperament/Enneagram/Instincts Test: https://wendygossett.com/ Website: Wendy Gossett.com Get FREE resources on my website: https://wendygossett.com/ [https://wendygossett.com/] or email me at WendyGossett.com Facebook Podcast Page: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61565445936367 Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or  https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaaOCjoDyOk4_gS1KCncLvQ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wendy.gossett/?next=%2F Linked In: www.linkedin.com/in/wendygossett Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.   Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.   Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

NT personality types—ENTP, INTJ, INTP, and ENTJ—are known for their sharp intellect, fierce independence, and big-picture thinking. But when it comes to friendship, their strengths can also be their biggest struggles. In this episode, we break down how NTs approach relationships using the TRUE framework: Trust, Respect, Understanding, and Encouragement. You’ll learn: ✅ Why NTs need mental stimulation to feel connected ✅ What makes them loyal (and what pushes them away) ✅ Why emotions can feel like a foreign language ✅ How NTs support friends in practical—but often overlooked—ways Whether you're an NT yourself or have one in your life, this episode offers clarity, humor, and powerful takeaways to strengthen your friendships with the thinkers and strategists of the world.     Set up a FREE Chat: https://wendygossett.as.me/ChatwithWendy Take my FREE child temperament test:  https://wendygossett.com/child-inner-drive-assessment-product/ [https://wendygossett.com/child-inner-drive-assessment-product/] Request a FREE Adult Temperament/Enneagram/Instincts Test: https://wendygossett.com/ Website: Wendy Gossett.com Get FREE resources on my website: https://wendygossett.com/ [https://wendygossett.com/] or email me at WendyGossett.com Facebook Podcast Page: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61565445936367 Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or  https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaaOCjoDyOk4_gS1KCncLvQ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wendy.gossett/?next=%2F Linked In: www.linkedin.com/in/wendygossett Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.   Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.   Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

Do you have a friend who craves deep, meaningful conversations, champions your dreams, and feels emotions with unmatched intensity? If so, you might have an NF (Intuitive Feeler) friend! Known for their depth, passion, and emotional intelligence, NFs (ENFJ, INFJ, ENFP, INFP) are the visionaries, dreamers, and counselors of the friendship world. But with their high expectations, sensitivity, and desire for novelty, friendships with NFs can be both deeply rewarding and occasionally challenging. In this episode, we break down the NF friend using the TRUE framework (Trust, Respect, Understanding, Encouragement) to explore: ✅ Why NFs form soul-level connections but can struggle with feeling unseen or lonely. ✅ How their idealism and deep emotions impact friendships—for better or worse. ✅ Their love for novelty and growth—and how boredom can create restlessness. ✅ How to be a great friend to an NF—and what they need in return. If you’re an NF, this episode will help you understand your friendship patterns and challenges. If you have an NF in your life, you’ll gain insight into what makes them such inspiring and devoted friends. Set up a FREE Chat: https://wendygossett.as.me/ChatwithWendy Take my FREE child temperament test:  https://wendygossett.com/child-inner-drive-assessment-product/ [https://wendygossett.com/child-inner-drive-assessment-product/] Request a FREE Adult Temperament/Enneagram/Instincts Test: https://wendygossett.com/ Website: Wendy Gossett.com Get FREE resources on my website: https://wendygossett.com/ [https://wendygossett.com/] or email me at WendyGossett.com Facebook Podcast Page: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61565445936367 Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or  https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaaOCjoDyOk4_gS1KCncLvQ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wendy.gossett/?next=%2F Linked In: www.linkedin.com/in/wendygossett Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.   Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.   Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

Are you looking for a steady, dependable friend who always remembers birthdays, follows through on commitments, and shows up when it counts? Then you need an SJ friend! In this episode, we explore the Guardian temperament (SJ types: ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ISTJ)—the friends who hold everything together with their structure, loyalty, and strong sense of responsibility. But just like every type, SJs have friendship strengths and struggles. While they’re incredibly reliable and thoughtful, they can also be overly rigid, controlling, or struggle with emotional connection and encouragement. Join me as we break down the SJ friend using the TRUE friendship framework: ✅ True – Their unmatched loyalty and dependability—but also their struggles with control and holding grudges. ✅ Respect – How SJs show up for others but sometimes struggle with boundaries or taking on too much responsibility. ✅ Understanding – The difference between emotionally attuned SFJs and logical, solution-focused STJs (and how that impacts listening and empathy). ✅ Encouragement – Why SJs show support through actions rather than words—and why SFJs may need reassurance but struggle to ask for it. Whether you’re an SJ, have an SJ friend, or just want to deepen your understanding of different friendship dynamics, this episode is packed with insights, humor, and practical takeaways. Tune in now!   Set up a FREE Chat: https://wendygossett.as.me/ChatwithWendy Take my FREE child temperament test:  https://wendygossett.com/child-inner-drive-assessment-product/ [https://wendygossett.com/child-inner-drive-assessment-product/] Request a FREE Adult Temperament/Enneagram/Instincts Test: https://wendygossett.com/ Website: Wendy Gossett.com Get FREE resources on my website: https://wendygossett.com/ [https://wendygossett.com/] or email me at WendyGossett.com Facebook Podcast Page: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61565445936367 Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or  https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaaOCjoDyOk4_gS1KCncLvQ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wendy.gossett/?next=%2F Linked In: www.linkedin.com/in/wendygossett   Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.   Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.   Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

SP's or Sensory Perceivers in the Myer's Briggs system, are the thrill-seekers, the spontaneous adventurers, and the friends who can turn an ordinary Tuesday into a legendary night. But are they reliable friends, or just here for a good time? In this episode, we break down: * Different types of SP friends—from the Party Starter to the Flaky Friend * Why SPs struggle with commitment and deep listening * How to appreciate their energy while setting healthy boundaries * The TRUE framework—where SPs shine and where they struggle If you’ve ever been frustrated by a last-minute cancellation or loved a friend who pushes you out of your comfort zone, this episode is for you! 🔊 Tune in now!   Set up a FREE Chat: https://wendygossett.as.me/ChatwithWendy Take my FREE child temperament test:  https://wendygossett.com/child-inner-drive-assessment-product/ [https://wendygossett.com/child-inner-drive-assessment-product/] Request a FREE Adult Temperament/Enneagram/Instincts Test: https://wendygossett.com/ Website: Wendy Gossett.com Get FREE resources on my website: https://wendygossett.com/ [https://wendygossett.com/] or email me at WendyGossett.com Facebook Podcast Page: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61565445936367 Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or  https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaaOCjoDyOk4_gS1KCncLvQ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wendy.gossett/?next=%2F Linked In: www.linkedin.com/in/wendygossett   Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.   Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.   Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!