Being Present vs Being Engaged: The Difference for Dads

Being Present vs Being Engaged: The Difference for Dads

Two dads on Father's Day, being present, and what their own fathers did right and wrong. This one lands on Father's Day weekend, and it happens to be a birthday in the house too, one kid turning 27 and another just past 30. So the question on the table is simple: what did dad do right? Answers come fast. Being present, and learning by example. A dad who traveled for work but had the flexibility to be at every single game, and a work ethic that started with washing the car every week as a kid and never left. The other side of the table is a different kind of dad. A flower shop, 70 hours a week on his feet, elaborate arrangements built by a gifted artist who could never quite duplicate himself enough to step back from it. From there it gets into the parts you can't really measure: the short fuse that quietly steals your fun, the $500 volleyball bill that "better be gold," whether you push a kid out at 18 or let them stay a while, and the thin line between being your kid's friend and still being their parent. FAQs 1. What's the difference between being present and being engaged? Being there is great, but engaged means your kids actually feel they can come talk to you. 2. Is it okay to miss some of your kid's events? A regular season game you can probably miss, but if they break their leg everything stops and you redirect. 3. How do you raise kids without being too soft or too strict? You stay firm and keep an open door, because kids enabled for too long hit a lot of trial and error later down the line. 4. What if your own dad wasn't around growing up? You're still in control of your own destiny, so you take the lesson, good or bad, and decide what you'll do differently. 5. How do you stop little things from stealing time with family? You let it roll off like water off a duck's back, because the guy who cut you off doesn't get to run your day. Follow The Resilient Gentleman podcast on Facebook and all the socials. Happy Father's Day. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588293320825 [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588293320825] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2JgA1EF6FalJB7ATRQHo1k [https://open.spotify.com/show/2JgA1EF6FalJB7ATRQHo1k]

The Ones Who Make Us Resilient ft. Wanda Payton & Sabrina Berger

Sabrina and Wanda finally join Douglas and Chris on the mic — 40 years of marriage between them and a conversation full of love, laughs, and real wisdom. Wanda talks about how she jumped in to support Chris's new business by networking, because she genuinely loves meeting people and chit-chatting. Sabrina shares how she and Douglas say I love you every single night, multiple times — and sometimes she wakes up just to say it again. Both couples open up about how they've grown together, learned each other's rhythms, and built something that keeps getting stronger. The conversation moves into the 5 love languages and why doing the things YOU'D love doesn't always fill your spouse's cup. Then the 100/100 model — when one of you is thriving at 70, you meet your partner at their 30, and you come together. Sabrina describes how well she knows Douglas now — she can read the room, give him space, and wait for him to come to her. Wanda talks about Chris being a way better communicator than he used to be. It's two healthy marriages on display. Who this is for: Husbands who want to love their wives better. Wives who want to hear what long, happy marriages actually sound like. Couples building something for the long haul. Takeaways: * Why saying I love you every night — even when you're half asleep — matters more than you think * The 100/100 marriage model that replaces the old 50/50 advice * How the 5 love languages help you actually fill your spouse's cup * The "what could I do that would help support you right now?" question that opens everything up * Why learning your spouse's rhythms is one of the best gifts you can give them * How both couples are planning ahead together for the season of life with aging parents and growing kids FAQs this episode answers: 1. What does a healthy long-term marriage actually sound like day to day? It sounds like saying I love you every single night, multiple times, and sometimes waking up just to say it again. 2. How do the 5 love languages play out in real life? You can be doing all the stuff YOU'D love and it's not filling your spouse's cup at all — you've got to actively find out their love language and show them that way. 3. Is marriage really 50/50, or is there a better way to think about it? It's not 50/50, it's 100/100 — and some days you're thriving at 70, so you meet your spouse at their 30 and you come together. 4. How do you support your spouse when they're starting a new business? Wanda jumped in on the networking side because she genuinely loves meeting new people and chit-chatting — you find the piece that's natural to you and go all in on that piece. 5. What's the best way to bring up something you need from your partner? Skip the "you never" and try "hey, what could I do that would help support you right now?" — when you offer it first, they're way more open to telling you what they actually need too. Sabrina and Wanda are the reason these two are sitting behind these mics. Tune in Friday for the next one and hit subscribe so you don't miss it. 🎙️ Recorded at Spread the Positive Podcast Studio 👔 Brought to you by Transworld Business Advisors 📍 Join us for lunch Fridays at 12:00 — Jefferson's on the Square in Murfreesboro Subscribe and follow: YouTube | Spotify | Apple Podcasts | Facebook

Pressure Makes Diamonds… But Also Explosions | How Men Handle Stress, Pressure & Adversity

In this episode of The Resilient Gentleman Podcast, hosts Douglas Berger and Christopher Payton take a deep dive into one of the most defining forces in a man's life… Pressure. We've all heard the phrase: "Pressure makes diamonds." But pressure can also create burnout, emotional exhaustion, and explosions if it's not handled the right way. Douglas and Chris unpack the powerful effects pressure has on men in business, leadership, relationships, fatherhood, and everyday life. They discuss how pressure can either sharpen you into a stronger, more disciplined leader — or overwhelm you if left unchecked. This conversation explores the balance between embracing pressure as a tool for growth while also recognizing when stress, expectations, and responsibility begin pushing you toward exhaustion. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by life, business, leadership, or the expectations placed on you, this episode offers real perspective, practical insight, and encouragement for navigating pressure in a healthy and resilient way. Pressure is inevitable. How you respond to it changes everything. Topics Covered in This Episode • Why pressure can build strength and resilience • The difference between healthy pressure and burnout • Managing stress, expectations, and responsibility • How men process pressure differently • Using adversity as fuel for growth • Emotional control, leadership, and resilience under pressure 🎙 Follow The Resilient Gentleman Podcast on YouTube and all major podcast platforms. 📅 New episodes drop every Thursday. Connect with the Hosts Douglas Berger 📍 Transworld Business Advisors of Murfreesboro 🌐 https://www.tworld.com/locations/murfreesboro/ Christopher Payton 📍 615 Negotiator 📱 Follow "615 Negotiator" on social media for real estate, business, and leadership content. Welcome back to The Resilient Gentleman Podcast.

Audit Your Inner Circle | The People Around You Shape Your Future

In this episode of The Resilient Gentleman Podcast, hosts Douglas Berger and Christopher Payton take a powerful deep dive into the importance of auditing your inner circle. The people you spend the most time with directly impact your mindset, habits, standards, and ultimately your future. Douglas and Chris discuss why it's critical to evaluate who has influence in your life — from friendships and business relationships to mentors and everyday environments. This episode challenges listeners to take an honest look at whether the people around them are helping them grow… or holding them back. Through real-life examples and practical insight, Douglas and Chris break down: * Why your inner circle matters more than most people realize * The difference between healthy accountability and negative influence * How strong relationships sharpen leadership and resilience * Why successful people intentionally protect their environment * The importance of surrounding yourself with people who push you toward growth, discipline, and purpose If you've ever felt stuck, unmotivated, or distracted from your goals, this conversation may help you identify one of the biggest reasons why. This is an episode about leadership, standards, personal growth, and making sure the people closest to you are aligned with the direction you want your life to go. Topics Covered in This Episode • Auditing your friendships and business relationships • How your environment affects your mindset • Accountability vs. enabling behaviors • Leadership, discipline, and influence • Protecting your peace and your purpose • Building a stronger circle around your life and business Connect with the Hosts Douglas Berger 📍 Transworld Business Advisors of Murfreesboro Helping business owners buy, sell, and grow businesses. 🌐 https://www.tworld.com/locations/murfreesboro/ Christopher Payton 📍 615 Negotiator Real estate, negotiation strategy, and business development. 📱 Search "615 Negotiator" on social media platforms for the latest content and updates. 🎙 Follow The Resilient Gentleman Podcast on YouTube and all major podcast platforms. 📅 New episodes drop every Thursday. RG Weekly Lunch Meetup every Friday at 12:00 pm at Jefferson's on the square. Welcome back to The Resilient Gentleman Podcast.

Are You Doing Enough? | Business, Leadership, Fatherhood & Raising Your Standards

In this episode of The Resilient Gentleman Podcast, hosts Douglas Berger and Christopher Payton ask a question that hits every area of a man's life: Are you doing enough? Whether it's business, leadership, marriage, fatherhood, or personal growth, this conversation challenges you to take a real, honest look at your effort, your habits, and your standards. Douglas and Chris dive into what it truly means to show up — not just occasionally, but consistently — and why most people fall short when it comes to doing the things that actually move the needle. From business development and SMART goals to being present at home and leading in your community, this episode is about accountability, discipline, and intentional living. This isn't about doing more… it's about doing what matters most — at a higher level. If you're serious about becoming a better leader, husband, father, and man, this episode will challenge you to step up. Topics Covered in This Episode • "Are you doing enough?" — the ultimate reality check • Business development and executing on what matters • SMART goals and intentional growth • Leadership in your home, business, and community • Raising your standards and eliminating excuses • Discipline, consistency, and showing up daily 🎙 Follow The Resilient Gentleman Podcast on YouTube and all major podcast platforms 📅 New episodes drop every Thursday. Also tune in for the live stream every Friday at 11:00 am then join the guys for the RG meetup at Jefferson's on the Square right after the broadcast at 12:00 pm. See y'all there! Welcome back to The Resilient Gentleman Podcast.