What If Sex Wasn’t About Orgasm? With Ariel Szabo

The Need To Feel Wanted

When was the last time your partner felt unmistakably wanted by you? And when was the last time you felt wanted by them? In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare explores one of the deepest human longings in long-term relationships: the need to feel desired. Many couples still love each other deeply, but somewhere along the way, they stop expressing desire. The relationship becomes focused on schedules, responsibilities, and daily logistics while the erotic connection slowly fades into the background. You'll learn: * Why love and desire are not the same thing * How couples unintentionally drift from lovers to roommates * Why "evidence of desire" matters more than most people realize * How resentment can quietly block attraction and connection * A simple question that can help you understand what makes your partner feel wanted If you want more intimacy, passion, and connection in your relationship, this episode will help you understand why feeling wanted remains essential at every stage of love. Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share! RESOURCES & LINKS https://youtu.be/-qgpewMCVjs?si=RerjC8DCX8xlnmdE [https://youtu.be/-qgpewMCVjs?si=RerjC8DCX8xlnmdE] - Cheap Trick performing I Want You to Want Me https://cheftova.substack.com/ [https://cheftova.substack.com/] - article by Tova on Substack demonstrating the difference between feeling cared for vs wanted Sex Worth Having Website [https://www.sexworthhaving.com/] Book a Free 30-Minute Desire Diagnostic Call with Clare [https://calendly.com/clare-sente/30min]

Early Ejaculation: Why Slowing Down Changes Everything

What if early ejaculation isn’t really about lack of control… but a nervous system that has learned to rush, brace, and panic during intimacy?   In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare explores the hidden anxiety, shame, and nervous system patterns behind early ejaculation—and why so many successful men silently struggle with it. Instead of focusing on numbing creams, distraction tricks, or performance hacks, this conversation takes a different approach: slowing down, becoming more present, and learning how to regulate arousal through awareness and full-body connection.   You’ll learn: * why anxiety and hypervigilance often make early ejaculation worse * how the body becomes conditioned for speed instead of regulation * why mindfulness and presence-based approaches are gaining research support * how slowing down changes both arousal and connection * what it means to expand pleasure beyond just the genitals * and why many men regain control by becoming more connected to their bodies—not less   This episode is about much more than “lasting longer.”   It’s about helping men stop dreading intimacy and start feeling calm, connected, and confident during sex again. Download the Free 10-Minute Guided Pre-Intimacy Meditation: https://www.sexworthhaving.com/pl/2148759033https://www.sexworthhaving.com/pl/2148759033 [https://www.sexworthhaving.com/pl/2148759033] Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share!

Menopause, Hormones, and Intimacy: What Men Need to Understand

What happens to intimacy when hormones, sleep, stress, and a woman’s nervous system all begin to change during peri-menopause and menopause? In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare explores one of the most misunderstood topics in long-term relationships: how hormonal changes in midlife affect desire, arousal, orgasm, emotional connection, and a woman’s ability to relax into intimacy. You’ll learn: * the difference between perimenopause and menopause * why stress and cortisol directly affect desire * how changing estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone levels impact the body * why responsive desire becomes even more important during midlife * how menopause affects sleep, anxiety, vaginal tissue, orgasm, and nervous system regulation * why many women feel dismissed by the medical system * and how couples can adapt their intimacy instead of turning against each other This episode is not about blaming or “fixing” your partner. It’s about understanding what may really be happening in her body… so you can approach this chapter with more compassion, teamwork, and connection. Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share! Here are the treatments by MD's who specialize in Menopause; * Listed Resource and Links: Dr. Lauren Streicher: https://substack.com/@DrStreicher [https://substack.com/@DrStreicher] * Dr. Kelly Casperson: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-are-not-broken/id1495710329 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-are-not-broken/id1495710329] * Dr. Mary Claire Haver: https://drmaryclairehaver.substack.com/ [https://drmaryclairehaver.substack.com/] * Dr. Rachel Rubin: https://drmaryclairehaver.substack.com/ [https://drmaryclairehaver.substack.com/] * Dr. Amy Killen: https://dramybkillen.substack.com/ [https://dramybkillen.substack.com/] * Dr. Sarah Szal: https://saraszalmd.substack.com/ [https://saraszalmd.substack.com/] * The Menopause Society: https://menopause.org/ [https://menopause.org/] * Book a Desire Diagnostic Call with Clare: https://www.sexworthhaving.com/pl/2148759033 [https://www.sexworthhaving.com/pl/2148759033]

What If Sex Wasn’t About Orgasm? With Ariel Szabo

Why does sex sometimes leave you feeling empty instead of fulfilled? In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare Sente sits down with somatic sex educator and sexological bodyworker Ariel Szabo [https://www.sacredmoonflower.com/begin] to explore why so many men feel disconnected after sex – and why it should not be about orgasm alone. Learn the difference between disembodied and embodied pleasure, why performance-focused sex leaves many couples unsatisfied, and how shifting your attention from outcome to connection can completely change your experience of intimacy. This conversation opens the door to a more conscious, connected way of relating to your desire, your body, and your partner – one that leads to deeper satisfaction. Ariel Szabo's website: https://www.sacredmoonflower.com/begin Ariel Szabo's Substack: https://theeroticfrontier.substack.com/ Sex Worth Having website: https://www.sexworthhaving.com/ [https://www.sexworthhaving.com/] Book Free 30-minute Desire Diagnostic Call with Clare: https://www.sexworthhaving.com/desire-diagnostic-call [https://www.sexworthhaving.com/desire-diagnostic-call] Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share!

Developing Dominance: How Erotic Leadership Can Transform Intimacy with Brandon the Dom

What if dominance wasn’t about control—but about leadership, trust, and creating deeper connection? In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare sits down with sex and relationship coach Brandon the Dom to explore how power dynamics, when grounded in consent and care, can bring new energy, polarity, and excitement into long-term relationships. You’ll learn: * the difference between dominance and domineering * why many men suppress their desire to lead * how “setting the container” helps a partner feel safe enough to let go * why aftercare is one of the most important parts of intimacy * and how exploring new dynamics can help couples break out of predictable sexual patterns This conversation is not about performance or becoming someone you’re not. It’s about learning how presence, communication, and erotic leadership can create more aliveness, trust, and connection in the bedroom and beyond. Brandon’s Website: https://www.brandonthedom.com/ [https://www.brandonthedom.com/] Developing Dominance Online Class: https://www.brandonthedom.com/developing-dominance [https://www.brandonthedom.com/developing-dominance] Brandon’s YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BrandonTheDom [https://www.youtube.com/@BrandonTheDom] Sex Worth Having website: https://www.sexworthhaving.com/ [https://www.sexworthhaving.com/] Book Free 30-minute Desire Diagnostic Call: https://www.sexworthhaving.com/desire-diagnostic-call [https://www.sexworthhaving.com/desire-diagnostic-call] Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share!