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Today, Kriya Lendzion is one of the most respected voices in the field of youth substance use prevention. As a counselor, prevention specialist, educator, and keynote speaker, she has spent decades helping schools, parents, and communities understand how to better support young people as they navigate the pressures and realities of alcohol and drug use. Her work has impacted countless students and families, and her expertise is sought after by organizations across the country. What makes Kriya’s work so powerful, however, is that her knowledge isn’t purely academic. It is deeply personal. Long before she was leading workshops and speaking from conference stages, she was a teenager struggling with alcohol herself. During our conversation, she shared a story that was equal parts heartbreaking, inspiring, and hopeful. It is a story about family, identity, recovery, and discovering that the life waiting on the other side of alcohol can be far richer than the one we fear leaving behind. https://youtu.be/cRPa2TwlpCc Growing Up Between Fear and Fascination Kriya’s earliest understanding of alcohol was complicated. Her father struggled with alcoholism and was no longer present in her life after her mother made the difficult decision to remove him from the home because of his drinking. As a child, she understood alcohol as something dangerous, something capable of destroying relationships and disrupting families. Seeing the impact it had on her father left a lasting impression, and she remembers growing up with a firm determination that she would never follow that same path. At the same time, she was receiving a very different message from the world around her. Like so many children growing up in the 1980s and 1990s, she was surrounded by cultural images that portrayed drinking as glamorous, sophisticated, social, and fun. Her mother worked at a restaurant, and after school Kriya often spent time there. She remembers sitting at the bar doing homework while watching adults laugh together, celebrate, and socialize over drinks. To a young person observing from the sidelines, alcohol seemed connected to confidence, connection, and belonging. The contradiction was subtle but powerful. On one hand, alcohol had damaged her family. On the other hand, it appeared to be the thing that made adulthood exciting. Those mixed messages created a foundation that would later influence her own relationship with drinking. By the time she was around twelve years old, curiosity began to take over. Because alcohol was easily accessible both at home and in the restaurant environment, she started taking small exploratory sips. What began as experimentation quickly became something more significant because she immediately loved the way alcohol made her feel. “I loved the feeling of ease and calm. It seemed to take away the social anxiety and make everything feel easier.” Like many young people who later struggle with alcohol, Kriya wasn’t drinking because she wanted to create problems in her life. She was drinking because, at first, alcohol seemed to solve problems. It quieted insecurities, reduced awkwardness, and helped her feel more comfortable in social situations. As she moved through middle school and high school, alcohol became less about the drink itself and more about the identity she was building around it. She began to cultivate a reputation as the person who brought energy into every room. She loved being the friend everyone was excited to see arrive at a party. She loved hearing people say, “Now the party can start.” Over time, that role became part of how she saw herself. Being the life of the party wasn’t just something she did. It became who she believed she was. When the Consequences Became Impossible to Ignore The problem with building an identity around alcohol is that eventually alcohol begins taking more than it gives. What initially felt empowering slowly became limiting, though it took time for Kriya to fully recognize it. By the age of nineteen, the consequences of her drinking had become serious. She had already developed an ulcer, her academic performance was suffering, and she was failing out of college. The life she envisioned for herself was beginning to slip away, and she found herself facing a reality she never imagined. The cautionary tale she had grown up hearing about her father no longer felt distant. For the first time, she could see similarities between her own path and the one she had promised herself she would never follow. That realization led her to make a courageous decision. She entered an intensive outpatient treatment program while continuing to attend college. Looking back, it would have been understandable if she had chosen to withdraw from campus life entirely while focusing on recovery. Instead, she did something far more challenging. She decided she was going to learn how to live sober in the very environment where she had spent years drinking. As a member of a sorority, she was surrounded by parties, social events, and a college culture where alcohol was deeply ingrained. Rather than isolating herself, she chose radical honesty. She simply began telling people the truth. “I’m not drinking anymore. I’m in treatment.” Today, that kind of openness may not seem particularly unusual. In 1990, it was almost unheard of. Recovery conversations weren’t happening publicly. There were no sober social media communities, recovery podcasts, or alcohol-free movements gaining mainstream attention. Most people simply didn’t talk openly about seeking treatment. The response she received revealed something important about relationships. Some people were uncomfortable because her decision challenged their own assumptions about drinking. Others immediately stepped forward to support her. Those supporters became an essential part of her recovery journey. “My real friends became invested in my success.” At parties and social gatherings, they would surround her with encouragement and protection. If someone handed her a drink, a friend might quietly take it and redirect it elsewhere. They understood what she was trying to accomplish and wanted to help her succeed. What surprised Kriya most was that sobriety didn’t require her to abandon her personality. She still danced. She still sang karaoke. She still brought energy and enthusiasm into social situations. The difference was that she was finally learning that those qualities had belonged to her all along. They had never belonged to alcohol. “I discovered I could still be the fun person. I just wasn’t drinking anymore.” Finding Purpose Through Service As Kriya became more comfortable sharing her story, something unexpected began to happen. Other people started sharing theirs. Students would approach her at parties and confide concerns about their own drinking. Friends would quietly tell her about family members who struggled with alcohol. Others would ask questions about treatment, recovery, and what it meant to change their relationship with substances. Word spread that she was someone who would listen without judgment. Over time, she became a trusted resource not only for students but for the university itself. She was invited to speak with incoming freshmen about her experiences and help educate students about alcohol use. Faculty members sought her perspective on how to support students who might be struggling. She helped create peer counseling initiatives and alcohol awareness programs that gave students a safe place to seek guidance. What began as a personal recovery journey gradually transformed into something much bigger. Her willingness to be honest about her own experiences created opportunities to help countless others. By the time she graduated, she had become a recognized student leader and received significant recognition for the impact she had made on campus. Yet the most important reward wasn’t the award itself. It was the realization that her greatest struggle had become the foundation for her life’s purpose. A Note From Margy One of the things I loved most about this conversation with Kriya is that it challenges a belief so many of us carry: that alcohol is what makes us fun, interesting, confident, or connected. Kriya built an entire identity around being the life of the party. She wasn’t drinking because she wanted to create problems in her life. She was drinking because alcohol seemed to solve them. And yet, when she removed alcohol, something remarkable happened. She discovered that the qualities she valued most about herself hadn’t disappeared. They had been hers all along. I think that’s a lesson that extends far beyond recovery. How many of us hold onto things that no longer serve us because we’re afraid of who we’ll be without them? A job title. A relationship. A role we’ve played for years. A version of ourselves we’ve outgrown. What Kriya’s story reminds me is that growth often begins when we’re willing to find out who we are without the crutch, the mask, or the story we’ve been telling ourselves. And sometimes, what we discover is even better than we imagined. Keep Up With Kriya: @KriyaCounselor on IG, FB, Tik Tok and YouTube Website: KriyaLendzion.com The post Kriya Lendzion’s Journey From College Recovery to National Prevention Leader [https://soberliferocks.com/kriya-lendzions-journey-from-college-recovery-to-national-prevention-leader/] first appeared on Sober Life Rocks [https://soberliferocks.com].
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