Grief Intertwines with Life

Grief Intertwines with Life

Grief doesn’t politely wait for you to be ready. It shows up after you’ve had a “good” stretch, after you’ve checked the boxes, and sometimes right when you think you finally have a handle on it.  I’m honest about why I’m late getting this out and what it’s like to be hit by grief waves that come from different losses and different angles.  I talk about a reframe that has helped me survive the hardest moments: grief is a thread of our lives.  It comes  from love and hope. We don’t mourn random things, we mourn what mattered. That truth can soften the shame that often tags along with bereavement, especially when grief brings messy feelings like anger, resentment, judgment, bitterness, or the struggle to forgive ourselves.  I also explore a less-discussed kind of mourning, grieving who you no longer are after someone dies, when a soulmate, companion, or long-time partner is gone and your identity feels broken into pieces.  Most importantly, I hold space for a reality many of us live every day: we can carry sorrow and pain at the same time we carry kindness, compassion, laughter, and joy. It’s all intertwined, and learning to live with grief is often a one-day-at-a-time practice.  If this resonates,  share with someone who needs it, as you may not ever know what it meant to them.  Click here to send me a text. I would love to hear from you your thoughts on this episode. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2530196/fan_mail/new] Sign up for my newsletter, ask questions, and get responses via Email: thecaringdeathdoula@gmail.com Follow on FB The Caring Death Doula https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr [https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr] Join the private FB group for “behind the podcast” and advance notification The Caring Death Doula Podcast. A safe place to ask questions and to learn more.  IG The_Caring_Death_Doula https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr [https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr]

Holiday Grief

We remind you that grief is yours, and nobody gets to judge how loud, how long, or how often you feel it.  We talk through why holidays can hurt, how to ground your body when your mind won’t settle, and how to show up for someone who is grieving with simple care.  • grief has no right way, no timeline, no finish line  • love and grief as intertwined realities of being alive  • Fourth of July memories and why holidays can intensify grieving • joy on a holiday is allowed and is not being disloyal  • body-based coping when rest and focus feel impossible  • grounding with senses, fresh air, warm drinks, soft textures  • movement as release, including dancing to shift your state  • practical ways to support a grieving friend without fixing them  • making it easier to talk about grief, life, and death  If this resonates with you, listen in, share, post a review. Let’s help others find the comfort & support they need.  Click here to send me a text. I would love to hear from you your thoughts on this episode. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2530196/fan_mail/new] Sign up for my newsletter, ask questions, and get responses via Email: thecaringdeathdoula@gmail.com Follow on FB The Caring Death Doula https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr [https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr] Join the private FB group for “behind the podcast” and advance notification The Caring Death Doula Podcast. A safe place to ask questions and to learn more.  IG The_Caring_Death_Doula https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr [https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr]

Grief Wave and Joy

In this episode, Frances shows up raw on a hard day and names the numbness that can hit without warning when grief waves roll in.  A quiet morning in the park becomes a reminder that joy can break through in an instant, even when sorrow is still close.  • admitting how grief can flatten energy and motivation  • using nature and stillness to notice what is happening inside  • recognizing “joy waves” that arrive as suddenly as grief  • grieving life changes like children growing up and roles ending  • naming losses beyond death, including friendships that shift  • holding both joy and sorrow during illness and anticipatory grief  •understanding life is full of grief •life and death, beginning and end It’s a full episode, raw and real. Listen in and share with the one who comes to mind. Let’s not let anyone journey this life alone.  Click here to send me a text. I would love to hear from you your thoughts on this episode. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2530196/fan_mail/new] Sign up for my newsletter, ask questions, and get responses via Email: thecaringdeathdoula@gmail.com Follow on FB The Caring Death Doula https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr [https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr] Join the private FB group for “behind the podcast” and advance notification The Caring Death Doula Podcast. A safe place to ask questions and to learn more.  IG The_Caring_Death_Doula https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr [https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr]

Your Grief Is Beautiful

When grief gets judged, that pressure can make you feel even more alone.  In this episode, I’m here to say the quiet part out loud: you matter, and you don’t have to prove your pain to anyone.  If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re grieving “wrong” because you didn’t cry at the funeral, or because you’re crying at random moments weeks, months, or even years later, this one is for you. We talk about grief as a reflection of love, not a flaw to fix.  Whether you’re facing bereavement after a death, mourning a pet, processing a breakup, or grieving a job, a dream, or a former version of yourself or your life, the core truth stays the same: your relationship or situation was yours, and your grief is yours.  I walk through why comparison is so harmful, why emotional swings are normal, and how shame can pull you deeper into pain and loneliness. You matter. Your grief and your love and passion for your loved one or situation is real. It matters. You matter. You’ll leave with a gentler way to look at the grieving process, clearer boundaries for anyone trying to rush you, and permission to listen to what your body and heart are asking for right now.  If this message helps, share it with someone else who needs it, and leave a review so more people can find it. I’m holding space for you, Frances, The Caring Death Doula Click here to send me a text. I would love to hear from you your thoughts on this episode. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2530196/fan_mail/new] Sign up for my newsletter, ask questions, and get responses via Email: thecaringdeathdoula@gmail.com Follow on FB The Caring Death Doula https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr [https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr] Join the private FB group for “behind the podcast” and advance notification The Caring Death Doula Podcast. A safe place to ask questions and to learn more.  IG The_Caring_Death_Doula https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr [https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr]

Living Grief

Grief makes people uncomfortable, so we try to organize it, timebox it, and rank it. That’s how we end up with the quiet pressure to “be strong,” to stop talking about the person who died, or to act like the funeral is the finish line. I’m pushing back on that mindset and naming what so many of us feel: grief doesn’t follow rules, and it doesn’t owe anyone a schedule. In this episode, we talk about why we judge each other’s grieving based on what we were taught in our families, culture, community, or religion, and how those assumptions can lead to painful comments that shut people down.  I share personal moments that reshaped my perspective, including what it was like to see one person not cry at all and to hear another say they were “fine” soon after the funeral , while I was still deep in my own pain.  We also discussed a simple truth: even when we lose the same person, our relationships, memories, and inner worlds are different, so our bereavement experience will be different too. You’ll hear practical, compassionate reminders for coping with loss: listen to your body, leave room for rest, and stop comparing your tears or lack of tears to someone else’s.  If you want to support a grieving friend, coworker, or family member, the goal isn’t to fix them. It’s to be a steady presence and a safe place. If this helped, subscribe, share it with someone who needs permission to grieve at their own pace, and leave a review so more people can find this conversation. Holding space for you, Frances, The Caring Death Doula Click here to send me a text. I would love to hear from you your thoughts on this episode. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2530196/fan_mail/new] Sign up for my newsletter, ask questions, and get responses via Email: thecaringdeathdoula@gmail.com Follow on FB The Caring Death Doula https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr [https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr] Join the private FB group for “behind the podcast” and advance notification The Caring Death Doula Podcast. A safe place to ask questions and to learn more.  IG The_Caring_Death_Doula https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr [https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr]