Ep #24: Why Approaching Women Is 99% Mental

Ep #24: Why Approaching Women Is 99% Mental

Most men think approaching women is about finding the perfect opener or knowing exactly what to say. It's not. In this episode, Julia breaks down why approaching women is 99% mental and how the beliefs you have about yourself may be the very thing keeping you stuck. You'll learn why so many men fear being "creepy," how your brain uses that fear to protect you from rejection, and two simple mindset shifts that make approaching women feel dramatically easier. If you've ever seen someone you wanted to talk to but froze, this episode is for you. To register for the July 18th workshop, click here: thedatingadvisory.com

Ep #23: Why Tech Men Don't Open Up in Dating

You're disciplined. You're successful. You solve hard problems for a living. But when it comes to dating, you hesitate. And it's not because you're not good enough. It's because everything you've been trained to do at work: minimize errors, eliminate uncertainty, perfect before you ship, is working against you the moment another person enters the equation. In this episode, Julia breaks down why analytical, high-achieving men struggle to open up in dating. Why the independence that makes you exceptional professionally creates walls in your personal life. Why perfectionism isn't preparation but actually fear dressed up as logic. If you've ever over-thought an approach, waited for the "right moment" that never came, or felt like you're performing on dates instead of actually connecting, this one's for you. Learn more about Julia Malakiman at TheDatingAdvisory.com

Ep #22: The Truth About Giving to Women

Most men think giving is about the woman. You pay for the date, you give her your time, your attention, your energy, and she receives it. Simple exchange, right? Wrong. The person who benefits most from giving is actually you. And in this episode, Julia gets into why that changes everything about how you show up with women. We're talking about the difference between real giving and transactional giving and why most men are doing the second one without even realizing it. Julia breaks down what "the manual" is and how it quietly hands your emotional experience over to her. And we talk about what it actually feels like to give your time, your presence, and your attention with zero strings attached. That's the shift. And it starts with understanding why you're giving in the first place.

Ep #21: You Can't Make Her Like You

A lot of men approach dating with the belief that if they say the right thing, act the right way, or become impressive enough, they can make a woman like them. But that's not how attraction works. In this episode, Julia shares a recent dating experience that perfectly illustrates why trying to convince someone to choose you is a losing game. She talks about self-esteem, people-pleasing, performance mode, and the freedom that comes when you stop trying to earn someone's interest. The right woman won't need convincing. Your job isn't to get every woman to like you. Your job is to become the kind of man who shows up confidently, authentically, and consistently enough to meet the women who already want what you have to offer. If you've ever found yourself wondering, "Why doesn't she like me?" this episode is for you.

Ep #20: The Mental Habit That Creates Confidence

Most men assume their dating struggles come from a lack of confidence, better conversation skills, or knowing the perfect thing to say. But what if the real problem starts much earlier? In this episode, Julia breaks down how automatic thoughts shape your emotions, behavior, and ultimately your dating results. You'll learn why your brain isn't giving you an objective view of reality, how negative thought patterns become self-fulfilling prophecies, and why the stories you tell yourself around women may be creating the very outcomes you fear. Julia also shares two practical tools to help you replace self-defeating beliefs with more empowering ones, allowing you to approach women with greater confidence, ease, and authenticity. If you've ever found yourself thinking, "She's out of my league," "I don't know what to say," or "I don't want to bother her," this episode will show you how to challenge those thoughts and create a new reality.