#97 - When Your Worth Depends on Other People | Dave Cottrell

#97 - When Your Worth Depends on Other People | Dave Cottrell

How much of your adult identity was actually chosen? In this episode of The Growth Voyage Podcast, Dave Cottrell shares the experiences that shaped his need for external validation, from trying to meet the expectations of two very different parents to navigating depression, bipolar disorder, relationships, and the search for self-worth. Together, we explore how the beliefs we form in childhood can quietly shape the way we see ourselves as adults, why so many people spend their lives seeking approval from others, and what it really means to build acceptance from within. Whether you've struggled with people-pleasing, self-worth, or the need for external validation, this conversation offers a thoughtful perspective on identity, resilience, and becoming the person you needed when you were younger. Join the community: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.thegrowthvoyage.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.thegrowthvoyage.com/] Enjoying the show? Support the mission and help me continue creating more conversations like these: https://buymeacoffee.com/harisonr [https://buymeacoffee.com/harisonr] I help men move from approval-seeking to grounded, self-led living. Message “WARRIOR” for details: * Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/harisonsaunders/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/harisonsaunders/]⁠⁠⁠ * LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/harison-saunders-67ab6a1a1/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/harison-saunders-67ab6a1a1/] You can find The Growth Voyage Podcast on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://youtu.be/R8NWyuic9eQ],⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@thegrowthvoyagepodcast], and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/thegrowthvoyagepodcast/] Connect with Dave: * www.instagram.com/mindsetbydave [www.instagram.com/mindsetbydave] * www.tiktok.com/mindsetbydave [www.tiktok.com/mindsetbydave] * https://www.youtube.com/@MindsetByDave [https://www.youtube.com/@MindsetByDave] * https://www.linkedin.com/in/mindsetbydave/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/mindsetbydave/] Dave's song suggestion: Something Corporate - Konstantine Dave's book recommendations: * Anna Lembke - Dopamine Nation * T. J. Power - The DOSE Effect

#96 - Becoming the Prince of Peckham | Tyler Walker

In this episode of the Growth Voyage Podcast, we welcome Tyler Walker, better known as The Prince of Peckham, to explore the mindset behind becoming a professional wrestler, overcoming self-doubt, and creating a life through authenticity instead of conformity. This episode is part of The Max Moody Lens series - where we look beyond the performance to understand what it reveals about identity, expression, and human potential. Tyler shares how growing up in Peckham shaped his resilience, why wrestling became an outlet for confidence and self-expression, and the group chat decision that completely changed the direction of his life. Together, we discuss identity, confidence, purpose, discipline, masculinity, social anxiety, taking risks, and why stepping outside your comfort zone is essential for long-term growth. If you're looking to build confidence, develop mental toughness, find your purpose, or simply hear an inspiring story about betting on yourself, this episode is packed with practical lessons that extend far beyond the wrestling ring. Join the community: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.thegrowthvoyage.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.thegrowthvoyage.com/] Enjoying the show? Support the mission and help me continue creating more conversations like these: ⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/harisonr⁠ [https://buymeacoffee.com/harisonr] I help men move from approval-seeking to grounded, self-led living. Message “WARRIOR” for details: * Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/harisonsaunders/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/harisonsaunders/]⁠⁠⁠ * LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/harison-saunders-67ab6a1a1/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/harison-saunders-67ab6a1a1/] You can find The Growth Voyage Podcast on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=36fauehoxNw],⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@thegrowthvoyagepodcast], and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/thegrowthvoyagepodcast/] Connect with Tyler: * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tylerwalker_pw/ [https://www.instagram.com/tylerwalker_pw/] * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tylerwalker_pw [https://www.tiktok.com/@tylerwalker_pw] Tyler's song suggestion: The Brothers Johnson - Stomp!

#95 - The Price of Becoming Who You're Capable of Being

At some point, every man has to decide what kind of struggle he's willing to endure. In this solo episode, I explore the pursuit of potential, the sacrifices that come with ambition, and why achievement alone never seems to satisfy us for long. Drawing on personal experiences from jiu-jitsu, pro wrestling, podcasting, and personal growth, I reflect on the tension between success and fulfilment, the pressure of high standards, and the deeper motivations that drive us forward. This episode is for anyone who feels called to more, wrestles with self-doubt, or wonders whether the sacrifices required for growth are really worth it. Topics include: * Ambition vs fulfilment * The pursuit of potential * Why achievement never feels like enough * High performance and self-mastery * Sacrifice, discipline, and delayed gratification * Dealing with criticism and outside opinions * Perfectionism and personal growth * Becoming the man you're capable of being If you've ever felt a deeper pull towards something greater, this episode will challenge you to ask one important question: What are you truly capable of? Join the community: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.thegrowthvoyage.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [⁠https://www.thegrowthvoyage.com/⁠] Help shape the podcast: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://forms.gle/iUJ3vNzN6qDET2dF8⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://forms.gle/iUJ3vNzN6qDET2dF8⁠] I help men move from approval-seeking to grounded, self-led living. Message “WARRIOR” for details: * Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/harisonsaunders/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/harisonsaunders/]⁠⁠⁠ * LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/harison-saunders-67ab6a1a1/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/harison-saunders-67ab6a1a1/] You can find The Growth Voyage Podcast on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=36fauehoxNw],⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@thegrowthvoyagepodcast], and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/thegrowthvoyagepodcast/]

#94 - Redefining What It Means to Be a Geezer | Tommy Tanner

In this episode of The Growth Voyage Podcast, Tommy Tanner shares the story behind becoming “The Ultimate Geezer” — from university rugby culture and social performance, to stepping into professional wrestling and learning how to channel a larger-than-life character under pressure. This episode is part of The Max Moody Lens series - where we look beyond the performance to understand what it reveals about identity, expression, and human potential. Together, we explore identity, confidence, performance, sacrifice, and what it really means to become the version of yourself that can handle big moments. Tommy reflects on his university days, the drinking culture around rugby, the difference between persona and reality, and how wrestling helped him turn the “geezer” identity into something more focused, disciplined, and purposeful. The conversation moves beyond the character and into the mindset behind elite performance. Tommy opens up about training intensity, feeding off live crowd energy, overcoming fear before high-risk moves, handling setbacks, and the importance of resilience when chasing the next level. We also discuss parental support, going all in on wrestling, and the opportunities that have come from fully embracing who he is. Topics include professional wrestling, identity, confidence, performance under pressure, drinking culture, sacrifice, resilience, parental support, discipline, character work, and chasing your full potential. Whether you’re an athlete, performer, creator, or someone trying to step into a stronger version of yourself, there’s plenty here to take away. Join the community: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.thegrowthvoyage.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [⁠https://www.thegrowthvoyage.com/⁠] Help shape the podcast: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://forms.gle/iUJ3vNzN6qDET2dF8⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://forms.gle/iUJ3vNzN6qDET2dF8⁠] I help men move from approval-seeking to grounded, self-led living. Message “WARRIOR” for details: * Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/harisonsaunders/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/harisonsaunders/]⁠⁠⁠ * LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/harison-saunders-67ab6a1a1/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/harison-saunders-67ab6a1a1/] You can find The Growth Voyage Podcast on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=36fauehoxNw],⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@thegrowthvoyagepodcast], and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/thegrowthvoyagepodcast/] Connect with Tommy:https://www.instagram.com/thetommytanner/ [https://www.instagram.com/thetommytanner/] Tommy's website: www.thetommytanner.com [www.thetommytanner.com] Tommy's song suggestion: Oasis - Slide Away Tommy's book recommendation: 50 Cent - Hustle Harder, Hustle Smarter

#93 - What If the Person You're Trying to Become Is Already Inside You?

In this first episode of a brand new series, I explore a question that emerged through my journey into professional wrestling and the creation of my wrestling character, Max Moody. We're often told that the best wrestling characters are simply amplified versions of the person behind them. That idea led me to a deeper question: if a character allows certain parts of us to come alive, were those parts there all along? This conversation goes beyond wrestling. It's about identity, self-expression, authenticity, and the gap between who we are and who we're willing to be. Why do some people seem completely different when they're performing, competing, or stepping into a specific role? What parts of ourselves are we holding back in everyday life? And what would happen if we gave those parts permission to emerge? Throughout the episode, I reflect on my own experience with Max Moody, the role of archetypes in personal growth, and a simple exercise that may reveal what is waiting beneath the surface. If you've ever felt like you're playing small, hiding parts of yourself, or waiting for permission to fully express who you are, this episode is for you.