Why Saying No Is The Most Powerful Thing You Can Do

Why Saying No Is The Most Powerful Thing You Can Do

Jake and Damian go deep on one of the most universal struggles in high performance: why so many of us find it almost impossible to say no, and what it's actually costing us when we can't. Drawing on conversations with promoter Barry Hearn, who walked away from a £30 million deal because he didn't like the people behind it, comedian Katherine Ryan, who voluntarily gave up a career-defining TV slot so other women could have their chance, and leading psychologist Gabor Maté, who traces the roots of people-pleasing all the way back to childhood, Jake and Damian explore why saying yes to everyone else might mean saying no to yourself. They cover the science of sociotropy, the difference between "I can't" and "I don't", and why the guilt you feel when you say no is usually a sign you've got your values exactly right. Plus, the audience response to Liam Lawson's recent episode has been extraordinary. Jake and Damian reflect on why it's struck such a nerve. Listen to the full episodes featured: Barry Hearn https://pod.fo/e/157c60 Katherine Ryan https://pod.fo/e/1df492 Gabor Maté https://pod.fo/e/273d65 Revolut Business 👉 High-performing businesses need powerful financial tools. Get a £200 welcome bonus with Revolut Business when you sign up at https://revolutbusiness.onelink.me/jLOt/hp-ep5-aud [https://revolutbusiness.onelink.me/jLOt/hp-ep5-aud] and add money to your account by 30/09/2026. Fees, promotion terms and T&Cs apply.  AG1 👉Head to http://drinkag1.com/highperformance [http://drinkag1.com/highperformance] to save £20 on your first month, plus a free welcome kit, Vitamin D3 + K2 and five travel packs Do Health 👉 Get ahead of your health, don't react to it. Head to https://highpfrmc.com/dohealth-hpp-au [https://highpfrmc.com/dohealth-hpp-au]to sign up now Better Help 👉 Join Jake in Saying It Louder with 10% off Betterhelp Therapy. Click here: https://highpfrmc.com/hpp-betterhelp-au  [https://highpfrmc.com/hpp-betterhelp-au%C2%A0] Go Henry 👉 Grow their skills and their money at gohenry.com/highperformance [http://gohenry.com/highperformance] with £5 FREE to get started! Postcode Lottery 👉 Discover how Postcode Lottery players are Powering Hope Together. Click here to find out more: https://highpfrmc.com/hpp-postcode-au [https://highpfrmc.com/hpp-postcode-au] ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

Are England Now the BEST Penalty Takers? World Leading Penalty Expert Explains | Geir Jordet (E419)

Professor Geir Jordet flips everything you think you know about high-stakes performance on its head, revealing that a penalty shootout is won or lost long before the foot ever hits the ball. In this episode, the world’s leading football psychologist breaks down the meticulous psychological warfare of the 2022 World Cup Final and explains how England transformed from the world’s worst shootout team into the absolute best through structural changes like the "buddy system."  He exposes the hidden mechanics of pressure, from Harry Kane’s unpredictable dual technique and Erling Haaland’s surprising admission of fear, to why overthinking for twelve seconds cost Marcus Rashford at the Euros. Jordet also debunks major football myths, unpacking the subtle manipulation tactics used by players like Emiliano Martínez and explaining why trying to fake a smile under immense pressure will backfire.  This episode offers a sophisticated masterclass in process-over-outcome thinking, delivering powerful lessons on anxiety, team-wide psychological safety, and how to master your mind when the eyes of the world are on you. Revolut Business 👉 High-performing businesses need powerful financial tools. Get a £200 welcome bonus with Revolut Business when you sign up at https://revolutbusiness.onelink.me/jLOt/hp-ep5-aud [https://revolutbusiness.onelink.me/jLOt/hp-ep5-aud] and add money to your account by 30/09/2026. Fees, promotion terms and T&Cs apply.  AG1 👉Head to http://drinkag1.com/highperformance [http://drinkag1.com/highperformance] to save £20 on your first month, plus a free welcome kit, Vitamin D3 + K2 and five travel packs Do Health 👉 Get ahead of your health, don't react to it. Head to https://highpfrmc.com/dohealth-hpp-au [https://highpfrmc.com/dohealth-hpp-au ]to sign up now Better Help 👉 Join Jake in Saying It Louder with 10% off Betterhelp Therapy. Click here: https://highpfrmc.com/hpp-betterhelp-au  [https://highpfrmc.com/hpp-betterhelp-au ] Go Henry 👉 Grow their skills and their money at gohenry.com/highperformance [http://gohenry.com/highperformance] with £5 FREE to get started! Postcode Lottery 👉 Discover how Postcode Lottery players are Powering Hope Together. Click here to find out more: https://highpfrmc.com/hpp-postcode-au [https://highpfrmc.com/hpp-postcode-au] ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

The 'Hardest Geezer' On Finding Direction When You're Lost | Russ Cook (E418)

Russ Cook, better known as the Hardest Geezer, became famous for running the length of Africa. 352 days. 10,000 miles. The first person ever to do it. But before all of that, he was a teenager scrubbing a Waitrose toilet at 4am, opening a cupboard to find a single tin of new potatoes, and hiding a gambling debt from his girlfriend. In this conversation, Jake goes back to before Africa - to the years of directionlessness, the arrogance that masked insecurity, the run home from a nightclub in Brighton, and the chance encounter with a cyclist in Kenya that changed everything. They also get into the question that sits beneath all of it: is Russ running towards something great, or away from something painful? And now he's a new father - how does that shift what he's willing to risk? Plus: why he won't take the Leeds Ironman lightly despite barely managing three lengths of a pool. This episode is brought to you by Bulldog Skincare. Shop their grooming range, from face wash to bamboo razors, at Boots 👉 https://highpfrmc.com/HPP_Bulldog_brandedep [https://highpfrmc.com/HPP_Bulldog_brandedep] ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

The Mindset Shift That Won Ash Barty Wimbledon | ft. Performance Coach Ben Crowe

Boris Becker burned out at 25. Former British No1 Jo Konta carried her family's sacrifice onto court every match and Irish tennise pr Conor Niland described a tennis player's self-worth as entirely tied to winning and losing — nothing else. Three players, the same problem: identity wrapped around results, the sport becoming something to survive. This week, in the run-up to Wimbledon, Jake and Damian go back into the archive to hear from all three — then hand over to leading performance coach, Ben Crowe, who has spent 30 years helping the world's best athletes solve exactly that problem. Ben has worked with athletes Ash Barty and Steph Gilmore coached NBA teams and the Australian Cricket Team, and comes personally recommended by Andre Agassi. You'll hear the full story of Ash Barty's French Open semifinal — 5-0 up and tightening, 3-0 down and laughing — and what shifted in her mind to turn it around. Plus Ben's central idea: the opposite of play is not work. It's fear. And most people, most of the time, are in the fear state without knowing it. Where the Light Gets In by Ben Crowe is available now. Revolut Business 👉 High-performing businesses need powerful financial tools. Get a £200 welcome bonus with Revolut Business when you sign up at https://revolutbusiness.onelink.me/jLOt/hp-ep4-aud [https://revolutbusiness.onelink.me/jLOt/hp-ep4-aud] and add money to your account by 30/09/2026. Fees, promotion terms and T&Cs apply. AG1 👉Head to http://drinkag1.com/highperformance [http://drinkag1.com/highperformance] to save £20 on your first month, plus a free welcome kit, Vitamin D3 + K2 and five travel packs Better Help 👉 Join Jake in Saying It Louder with 10% off Betterhelp Therapy. Click here: https://highpfrmc.com/hpp-betterhelp-au [https://highpfrmc.com/hpp-betterhelp-au] Postcode Lottery 👉 Discover how Postcode Lottery players are Powering Hope Together. Click here to find out more: https://highpfrmc.com/hpp-postcode-au [https://highpfrmc.com/hpp-postcode-au] ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

Liam Lawson: The Part of My Red Bull Story Nobody Knows (E417)

Racing Bulls Formula 1 driver Liam Lawson has lived through the highest stakes and the ruthless politics of motorsport. In this episode, Liam opens up about the reality of his Red Bull exit, revealing how he was blindsided, unfairly judged and left carrying the blame for a radical car setup experiment. He also shares where his self belief comes from, from finishing last in go karting to ignoring the people who said Formula 1 was impossible. Liam also reveals the unexpected habit that helps him handle the noise of race weekend, taking a guitar to every Grand Prix to switch off and reset. This is a raw and honest conversation about pressure, resilience and protecting who you are in one of the most unforgiving sports in the world. Official website of Visa Cash App Racing Bulls Formula One Team involved in the most exciting car championship in the world. Discover what's new: https://www.visacashapprb.com/int-en/team Revolut Business 👉 High-performing businesses need powerful financial tools. Get a £200 welcome bonus with Revolut Business when you sign up at https://revolutbusiness.onelink.me/jLOt/hp-ep4-aud [https://revolutbusiness.onelink.me/jLOt/hp-ep4-aud] and add money to your account by 30/09/2026. Fees, promotion terms and T&Cs apply. AG1 👉Head to http://drinkag1.com/highperformance [http://drinkag1.com/highperformance] to save £20 on your first month, plus a free welcome kit, Vitamin D3 + K2 and five travel packs Better Help 👉 Join Jake in Saying It Louder with 10% off Betterhelp Therapy. Click here: https://highpfrmc.com/hpp-betterhelp-au [https://highpfrmc.com/hpp-betterhelp-au] Postcode Lottery 👉 Discover how Postcode Lottery players are Powering Hope Together. Click here to find out more: https://highpfrmc.com/hpp-postcode-au [https://highpfrmc.com/hpp-postcode-au] ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.