The Other Woman And The Wife

#87 The Power of Words: How Your Internal Language Creates Your Reality

This week Chelsea goes solo to talk about something nobody's addressing—how the words you use inside your head are literally creating the reality you're living. She dives into the difference between "I can't leave" and "I'm choosing to stay," why getting loud doesn't mean having a voice, and how every criticism you have about someone else is actually revealing your deepest fears about yourself. From her makeshift recording setup in parking lots to raw truths about language that liberates versus language that traps, this episode challenges you to audit your internal dialogue for 24 hours and replace one limiting phrase that's been running your life. Because the woman who found her voice through infidelity isn't just surviving her story—she's rewriting it. ASK US A QUESTION We answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast: Submit yours here: https://towtw.com/ask [https://towtw.com/ask]  HOW WE CAN HELP Apply for 1:1 Coaching: https://towtw.com/coaching [https://towtw.com/coaching]  OUR LINKS Website: https://towtw.com/ [https://towtw.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/ [https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife [https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife]

#86 When Control Destroys Connection: The Real Betrayal in Marriage - Carolina Vilalva

This week on TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea sits down with therapist Carolina Vilalva to explore a client story that'll make you rethink everything about control, punishment, and what betrayal really means. Carolina shares the raw reality of working with a couple where the betrayed wife's quest for control became more destructive than the infidelity itself—controlling finances, social media, even access to his children from a previous marriage. Together, they dive into the uncomfortable truth that connection and control cannot coexist, why punishment never equals healing, and how the ultimate betrayal isn't always what we've been conditioned to believe. They get real about how men and women negotiate freedom in relationships, the dangerous fantasy that we can control outcomes, and why the reaction to infidelity often causes more trauma than the affair itself. This conversation challenges the rigid narratives we've been sold about cheating and invites us into the messy, complex space where real transformation happens—because sometimes the person you're controlling the most is yourself. ASK US A QUESTION We answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast: Submit yours here: https://towtw.com/ask [https://towtw.com/ask]  HOW WE CAN HELP Apply for 1:1 Coaching: https://towtw.com/coaching [https://towtw.com/coaching]  OUR LINKS Website: https://towtw.com/ [https://towtw.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/ [https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife [https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife]

#85 Why Affair Sex Feels Better Than Marriage Sex - Dr. Diane Mueller

This week on TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea sits down with Dr. Diane to tackle the question every woman in an affair has asked: "Why does sex with my affair partner feel so different than sex with my husband?" Dr. Diane—who holds two doctorate degrees in naturopathic medicine and acupuncture—breaks down the real reasons: new relationship energy, novelty, how female arousal actually works, and why boredom in marriage isn't inevitable. They explore what your affair is really revealing about unmet needs, the role your nervous system plays in desire, and practical ways to bring that chemistry back into long-term relationships. This isn't about shame or fixing what's broken—it's about understanding your body, reclaiming playfulness, and discovering that passion doesn't have to die just because you've been together for years. Because the affair isn't the answer; understanding your desire is. ASK US A QUESTION We answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast: Submit yours here: https://towtw.com/ask [https://towtw.com/ask]  HOW WE CAN HELP Apply for 1:1 Coaching: https://towtw.com/coaching [https://towtw.com/coaching]  OUR LINKS Website: https://towtw.com/ [https://towtw.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/ [https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife [https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife]

#84 Infidelity and It’s Overlap with High-Performance Relationship Coaching -Katarina Polonska

This week on The Other Woman And The Wife Chelsea sits down with Katarina Polonska, a High-Performance Relationship Coach who frequently encounters clients dealing with infidelity. Having personally experienced betrayal, Katarina brings a nuanced perspective to the conversation, offering insights from both her professional expertise, which is vast, and personal journey as someone who has been on the receiving end of infidelity. SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORY https://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submithttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submit [https://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submit] ASK US A QUESTION We answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast: Submit yours here HOW WE CAN HELP Join the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membership Apply for 1:1 Coaching OUR LINKS Website: https://towtw.com/https://towtw.com/ [https://towtw.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/ [https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewifehttps://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife [https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife] GUEST LINKS Masterclass: https://programs.katarinapolonska.com/silreplayo [https://programs.katarinapolonska.com/silreplayo] www.katarinapolonska.com [http://www.katarinapolonska.com/] @katarina.polonska Guest Bio: Katarina is a high-performance executive relationship coach and the founder of the Successfully in Love ® Method (University of Oxford M.St, ICF ACC). She helps successful executives and entrepreneurs decide whether to stay or go in their romantic relationship, and become as accomplished in their romantic relationships as they are in their careers. Using her proven 3 phase process based on the behavioural science of attraction, disheartened executives can create their ultimate relationship fast - and become successfully in love.

#83 The Truth About What Your Affair Is Really Seeking - Paul Keable

This week on TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea sits down with Paul Keable, Chief Strategy Officer at Ashley Madison, for a conversation that flips everything you think you know about infidelity. Paul reveals the uncomfortable truth that men are actually seeking emotional validation while women are outsourcing their sexual needs, explores why toxic male fragility creates dead bedrooms, and explains how affair partners might be the most honest online daters. They dive into compassionate affairs for caregivers, why discretion isn't about shame but empowerment, and how the judgment we heap on complicated humans like us creates the very underground behaviors we claim to despise – because sometimes going into our pain rather than around it is exactly what transforms relationships. SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORY https://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submit [https://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submit] ASK US A QUESTION We answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast: Submit yours here: https://towtw.com/ask [https://towtw.com/ask]  HOW WE CAN HELP Join the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membership: https://towtw.com/ [https://towtw.com/] Apply for 1:1 Coaching: https://towtw.com/coaching [https://towtw.com/coaching]  OUR LINKS Website: https://towtw.com/ [https://towtw.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/ [https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife [https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife] GUEST BIO: Paul Keable is the Chief Strategy Officer at Ashley Madison, the world’s leading married dating platform. With over 20 years of experience in communications and strategy, he has helped shape the company’s global direction for more than a decade. Paul is known for his insights on love, monogamy, and how technology is transforming modern relationships, and he frequently speaks about creating safer, more authentic spaces for connection.