Ask Better Questions, Build a Better Life

Brain Tornado? Control the Controllables.

Rachel shares the two-decade-old phrase that rewired how she handles anxiety: see things how they are, not worse than they are, then control the controllables. She breaks down the brain dump method that turns a spiraling mind into a clear action list, and gives this week's FIO Move. Want more like this every Friday? Join FIO Friday: https://thefiomindset.kit.com/d33acbd37e [https://thefiomindset.kit.com/d33acbd37e] ORDER THE FIO MINDSET book here: https://a.co/d/0d5I39xQ

What would your transcript say?

What if you could see a transcript of everything you complained about today — and had to read it out loud to someone? Gary V dropped that challenge this week and Rachel Martin couldn't let it go. In this episode, Rachel connects that question to something she watched unfold in her own backyard: South Berwick's 9th annual Tuskegee Sister City gathering — a decade-long project built entirely on one decision to ask "how do we make this better?" instead of "why is this so broken?" The result? Musicians collaborating across state lines, hard conversations held with love, and 45 people sitting down to dinner in the rain because that's what happens when you choose building over complaining. This is the FIO flip in real life. Rachel breaks down why awareness is always step one, why this isn't toxic positivity (Rachel Hollis said it best this week), and why the shift from "why is this happening TO me" to "how is this happening FOR me" changes the energy you carry, the results you create, and ultimately — the life you build. Your FIO Move: catch yourself complaining once this week. Flip it. Watch what shifts. New episodes every Friday. Join the FIO Friday email list at thefiomindset.kit.com/d33acbd37e.

One Step. No Plan. Nine Years Later

The most meaningful things in Rachel's life — Pumpkinman, Race Across America, the Tuskegee sister city project — had zero master plan. Just a feeling, and a first step. This week, Rachel shares what's happening in her hometown this weekend, why your next big thing doesn't need a blueprint, and the one move you can make in the next 48 hours to stop waiting and start. FIO Move included.Want this in your inbox every Friday? Join FIO Friday at thefiomindset.kit.com/d33acbd37e

I missed two weeks. Here's what took priority.

Rachel missed two weeks — but has been incredibly intentional. In this episode, she breaks down the glass balls and rubber balls framework: some things in your life shatter when you drop them, while others simply bounce. Rachel shares what was pulling her energy over the past two weeks (Hazel's fourth surgery, Rick's Run's 10th anniversary, a moving her son back to Boston area, Tuskegee weekend, a tummy-time moment with the twins she would not trade for anything) and how asking "glass or rubber?" helped her stop carrying everything with the same white-knuckled grip. Practical, personal, and exactly what you need if you're trying to hold it all together right now. FIO Move: Two columns. Glass Balls | Rubber Balls. Ask yourself what would happen if you accidentally dropped each thing on your plate. The answer will change what you say yes to this week. Want more episodes like this delivered straight to your inbox every Friday? Join FIO Friday at https://thefiomindset.kit.com/d33acbd37e [https://thefiomindset.kit.com/d33acbd37e]

Ask Better Questions, Build a Better Life

Your brain is answering questions all day long. The problem? Most of us are asking the wrong ones. This week I'm talking about the power of expansive questions, how your RAS (reticular activating system) locks onto whatever you tell it matters, and why swapping "why am I stuck?" for "what is one move forward?" can change everything. Plus, I'm giving you a 7-day challenge to catch your thought patterns and flip them. 🎯 FIO Move: Notice. Stop. Rewrite. Send this to someone who needs to hear it. Follow the show so you don't miss a Friday.