Nobody in His Life Knows I Exist: Being the Other Woman

Nobody in His Life Knows I Exist: Being the Other Woman

A couple of months ago I said something on this show that I want to say again, because it's the whole thing: you are worthy of someone who can be with you 100%, 100% of the time. When you're in an affair, that's not what you're getting. You're getting whatever he's able to give you, and it is not 100%. Waiting is a huge part of being the other woman, and it's so much bigger than waiting for him to leave. It's waiting for him to call at all. Waiting for your phone to light up. Waiting to know when you'll see him again. I used to say no to plans and skip phone calls with friends because I was scared I'd miss him. I used to get in bed and put my phone right next to my face on the pillow so I'd see it light up if he texted. I don't do that anymore, and I'm so glad. I talk about what out loud actually means, because some of you are going to tell me he holds your hand and calls you his girlfriend, and he does go out with you in public. I had all of that too. And still, to this day, nobody in his life knows I existed. If something happened to him, nobody would call me. That's the part that's hard to explain to anyone who hasn't lived it. I also get into where this all lands: what you believe about yourself. The messages you send me all follow the same pattern, and it's the one I was in too. You're still living in the beginning of it, back when everything was new and you felt seen for the first time in years, while the actual relationship has become something else entirely. At some point the question stops being when is he going to choose me and becomes how long is it going to take for me to get fed up with my own behavior. I tell the story of the day I hit rock bottom in a bathtub in the middle of a work day, and what changed the morning after. If any of this sounds like you, and you need someone to talk to, the link below gets you there. 🍒 Interested in working with me? Let’s chat. [https://nikki-corbett.com/coaching] 🕸️Waiting to be chosen? Download The Affair Edit. [https://nikkicorbett.myflodesk.com/theaffairedit] 🌱 Tired of performing? Get The Self-Worth Reset [https://nikkicorbett.myflodesk.com/selfworthreset] 🎧 New episodes every Thursday! 💌 Business inquiries: teamnikkicorbett@gmail.com

Dating in Your 40s When You're Googleable (The Summer of George #5)

Dating in your 40s comes with a wrinkle I didn't see coming when I started this show: I'm Googleable. My Instagram bio says I was the other woman for five years, and anyone I match with can find that in about thirty seconds. I matched with a man on Hinge who did exactly that. He followed me before we ever met, and he still showed up. Twice. In week five of The Summer of George I get into what it's like to date when your past is public, why the second date beat the first, and the kind of connection that only happens in person. I also drove down to Manhattan Beach to sit with relationship coach Jonathon Aslay for two and a half hours, and it reminded me how much we're all craving real, face-to-face time after years of living on Zoom. Plus a shoutout to the everyday women who've come on this show and told their stories on camera for the first time. Those are the ones that stick with you, because they sound just like you and me. Jonathon's episode [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-scarlet-edit-infidelity-divorce-starting-over/id1825172881?i=1000724963970] Laura's episode [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-scarlet-edit-infidelity-divorce-starting-over/id1825172881?i=1000721027106] Hope's episode 1 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-scarlet-edit-infidelity-divorce-starting-over/id1825172881?i=1000760440245] and episode 2 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-scarlet-edit-infidelity-divorce-starting-over/id1825172881?i=1000761790148] Sydney's episode [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-scarlet-edit-infidelity-divorce-starting-over/id1825172881?i=1000773249568] Amber's episode [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-scarlet-edit-infidelity-divorce-starting-over/id1825172881?i=1000777043883] 🍒 Interested in working with me? Let’s chat. [https://nikki-corbett.com/coaching] 🕸️Waiting to be chosen? Download The Affair Edit. [https://nikkicorbett.myflodesk.com/theaffairedit] 🌱 Tired of performing? Get The Self-Worth Reset [https://nikkicorbett.myflodesk.com/selfworthreset] 🎧 New episodes every Thursday! 💌 Business inquiries: teamnikkicorbett@gmail.com

Why She Stayed With A Husband Who Kept Cheating

This week I sit down with Amber, who reached out after I put a post on LinkedIn asking to talk to women who'd been betrayed. What came out of our conversation is one of the most honest infidelity stories I've put on the show. Amber's mom cheated on her dad when Amber was eight. Years later, she married a man whose father had also cheated repeatedly on his mother. They walked into their marriage carrying the exact same pattern from opposite directions, and for years, they lived it out. Amber and I get into the long version of what happened, including the sexual assault at 22 she kept secret for 23 years, the email from a friend telling her she'd slept with Amber's now-husband, the period where she essentially gave him permission to cheat, the other woman who got pregnant, and the moment she and her husband call The Crucible, when everything finally came out on the table. We also talk about why most women who stay with a husband who's cheated keep bringing it back up years later, what real repair looks like, and the difference between forgiving someone and actually putting it down. Amber doesn't paint herself as the only victim, which is what makes this episode different. She talks about her own self-betrayal, the sex she had that didn't mean anything to her, the men she chose who weren't available, and her behavior as a married woman that she's not proud of either. We talk about what it actually took for her and her husband to rebuild a marriage that, on paper, never should have lasted. This is also the work I do with women in my coaching practice. So much of what keeps women stuck after infidelity, divorce, or any kind of betrayal isn't the betrayal itself. It's the self-worth piece that was missing long before any of it happened. 🍒 Interested in working with me? Let’s chat. [https://nikki-corbett.com/coaching] 🕸️Waiting to be chosen? Download The Affair Edit. [https://nikkicorbett.myflodesk.com/theaffairedit] 🌱 Tired of performing? Get The Self-Worth Reset [https://nikkicorbett.myflodesk.com/selfworthreset] 🎧 New episodes every Thursday! 💌 Business inquiries: teamnikkicorbett@gmail.com

How to Get Comfortable Doing Things Alone (The Summer of George #4)

Getting comfortable doing things alone didn't happen overnight for me. It happened because I travel by myself all the time, and somewhere along the way sitting solo at a restaurant, a movie, or a concert stopped feeling like a big deal. This week I took it further than usual. It's week four of the Summer of George and I'm two and a half weeks into my LA stay. I spent the Fourth of July at a beach party in Hermosa, I'm heading to my first Dodgers game in over a decade, and I finally have a dating update worth sharing. The one that actually feels like a real date instead of another meetup. I also drove out to Oxnard by myself to catch Tom Segura running new material at a tiny comedy club, front row, four feet from the stage. I get into the strange realness of parasocial relationships, why I think everyone should get better at doing things by themselves, and what a year of showing up every single week has taught me. Because today is the one-year anniversary of The Scarlet Edit. One year of Thursdays. Thank you for being here for all of it. 🍒 Interested in working with me? Let’s chat. [https://nikki-corbett.com/coaching] 🕸️Waiting to be chosen? Download The Affair Edit. [https://nikkicorbett.myflodesk.com/theaffairedit] 🌱 Tired of performing? Get The Self-Worth Reset [https://nikkicorbett.myflodesk.com/selfworthreset] 🎧 New episodes every Thursday! 💌 Business inquiries: teamnikkicorbett@gmail.com

You Don't Owe Anyone Your Relationship History

One year ago today, I posted the first episode of The Scarlet Edit and told the world I was the other woman for five years. I didn't know if anyone would listen. Now, 71 episodes in, this show has reached women in 97 countries, every U.S. state, and six of the seven continents. This is the episode where I tell the origin story. How a podcast called Round Two became The Scarlet Edit. Why I shelved the Affairs Through the Ages series after a couple of months. And what The Summer of George arc is doing for me right now. I also get into the line I haven't said straight out before: you owe nobody your relationship history. I chose to share mine because hiding it was standing in the way of the woman I was becoming. That choice changed my work, my coaching practice, and how I show up for the women claiming their self-worth alongside infidelity, divorce, and starting over. One year, 71 episodes, and 97 countries later, I've never been more sure I'm doing what I was meant to do. 🍒 Interested in working with me? Let’s chat. [https://nikki-corbett.com/coaching] 🕸️Waiting to be chosen? Download The Affair Edit. [https://nikkicorbett.myflodesk.com/theaffairedit] 🌱 Tired of performing? Get The Self-Worth Reset [https://nikkicorbett.myflodesk.com/selfworthreset] 🎧 New episodes every Thursday! 💌 Business inquiries: teamnikkicorbett@gmail.com