Most Downloaded Episodes | Are You The ‘Black Sheep’ Of The Family Or The Truth-Teller? | Episode 62

Most Downloaded Episodes | Are You The ‘Black Sheep’ Of The Family Or The Truth-Teller? | Episode 62

We are still on our summer break! Stay tuned for new episodes coming back in August. Chat more soon, peeps! Check out my latest book:  ‘UnMothered No More’ is now live on Amazon! Go check it out today: https://a.co/d/06GruRTZ [https://a.co/d/06GruRTZ] How do you define the black sheep in the family? Has this label been placed on you because you don’t abide by the dysfunction in your family? There is a difference between being the troublemaker or the truth-teller. If you are just trying to survive in a highly abusive family situation, you learn to fight and stand on your own.  Do you always make the right decisions? Not always, but who does when they are young? When I think about how we get labeled as troubled or a hard child, I think we should look deeper into the family dynamics instead of automatically blaming the child. So what can we do if we are the one that has always been labeled in this way? As I’ve said before, journal out any thoughts or struggles you still may have regarding this issue. You might be surprised at how much stuff comes up. Remember, you are not what other people tell you; you are who God has said you are.  He has a purpose and a plan for you, even if you have to walk through rough waters to get there. LET’S CONNECT! Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ [https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/] Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ [https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/] Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity [https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity] Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts [https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts] 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Most Downloaded Episodes | Has Your Past Caused You To Grow Up Being Afraid? | Episode 108

We are still on our summer break! Stay tuned for new episodes coming back in August. Chat more soon, peeps! Check out my latest book:  ‘UnMothered No More’ is now live on Amazon! Go check it out today: https://a.co/d/06GruRTZ [https://a.co/d/06GruRTZ] Do you get scared or anxious from ordinary things in your life?  Can it be tied to past traumatic events? Sometimes the things we react to now are a direct result of the trauma we have gone through as children.  We tend to fall into patterns to keep ourselves safe, or so we think. It can keep us prisoners in our own bodies.  Learn how to recognize some reactions and start the process of digging through to get to a healthier place. LET’S CONNECT! Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ [https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/] Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ [https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/] Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity [https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity] Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts [https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts] 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Most Downloaded Episodes | How To Handle Your Toxic Mom & Her Relationship As A Grandmother | Episode 77

We are still on our summer break! Stay tuned for new episodes coming back in August. Chat more soon, peeps! Check out my latest book: ‘UnMothered No More’ is now live on Amazon! Go check it out today: https://a.co/d/06GruRTZ [https://a.co/d/06GruRTZ] This week's episode came as an anonymous request through my weekly newsletter, Tuesday Talks With Phylis (link in bio to sign up or head to my website!). Let’s talk about the do’s and don’ts of letting our children be a part of our mothers’ lives and what do you do when your toxic mom wants to be a part of your children’s lives? Can we let them have a relationship with their grandchildren even though we have a dysfunctional one? If there is a special relationship that your mom has with her grandchildren, you can set a boundary around it. But if she isn’t respectful of your rules or intentions then I think you need to set some limits. Listen to your kids! If they are not comfortable being around her, respect that too. Your children will find their voice if they feel safe with you and know how to speak up. Don’t use your kids as pawns in this family game. Listen and watch.  We are not trying to be cold mamas that just cut off our moms for no reason. There is no easy answer to each individual situation, and I won’t be someone who will say “Do it this way or else!”  What I know about God is that He will take things we don’t understand and do what he plans all along. We can’t be in control of every little thing, but we can have hope that maybe our children’s relationships can be beautiful. If not, then we can be the safety for them that they need to stay away from someone who could hurt them.  The choice is ours, with prayer, common sense, and thought. I’m praying you find peace with all of this! LET’S CONNECT! Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ [https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/] Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ [https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/] Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity [https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity] Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts [https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts] 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

What Role Does Someone Play In Your Childhood Story? | Episode 135

Pretty much everyone I have met has a childhood story, good or bad.  When you can understand the story as a whole, then you can start digging into the deeper parts. Do you tend to blame one person? These are some of the things to think about if you want to start doing deep work. I made one specific person the ‘villain’, until I started learning through my newest schooling that there is more to the story. One of the thrills of becoming a trauma-informed coach is being able to work with clients and really get to the heart of the things that were keeping them stuck, and almost every time it’s your childhood story. But who is in that story? And is it one person, or many? Come journey with me to discover how to dig through it to begin the healing process. My book, ‘UnMothered No More’ is now live on Amazon! Go check it out today: https://a.co/d/06GruRTZ [https://a.co/d/06GruRTZ] LET’S CONNECT! Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ [https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/] Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ [https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/] Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity [https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity] Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts [https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts] 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Did You Grow Up In A Divorced Family? | Episode 134

Do you have a strong opinion on divorce?  Once again, we see another well known speaker/author come out to say he has been having an affair (although I would say it’s a second life at this point). Now the question for his wife becomes, “Should I divorce him?”  At this point, their kids are all grown, but it got me thinking about what you would do if you were in this situation with small kids and your faith is such that it mourns divorce so badly.  Does it come from your childhood or a religious belief? We all want to judge, but let's talk about why this is and how we can be more compassionate, not cruel. My book, ‘UnMothered No More’ is now live on Amazon! Go check it out today: https://a.co/d/06GruRTZ [https://a.co/d/06GruRTZ] LET’S CONNECT! Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ [https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/] Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ [https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/] Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity [https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity] Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts [https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts] 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.