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The Rider: Your Non-Negotiables Are Not Optional | Trauma Rock Stars™

19 min · 23. juni 2026
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Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/fan_mail/new] Did you know Van Halen's famous "no brown M&Ms" demand had  nothing to do with being a diva? It was a test. And it changes  everything about how we think about our own non-negotiables. In this solo episode, Tracy Smaldino introduces The Rider — the  list of requirements every artist puts in their contract before  they perform — and shows you how to build yours for your own  healing journey. Because you have been performing without a rider. Showing up for  everyone else's needs while completely ignoring your own. And  that stops today. In this episode: - The real story behind Van Halen's brown M&Ms - Why a rider is professional necessity — not selfish behavior - How trauma taught you your needs were too much - The fawning response: people pleasing as a survival strategy - The 4 clauses of your personal rider:   Physical, Emotional, Mental & Relational requirements - How to communicate your rider and hold it - What to do when your rider is violated "A rider without consequences is just a preference. The reason  it's called a non-negotiable is because it is NOT negotiated." — Tracy Smaldino 🎸 FREE RESOURCES: → Free Life Audit Quiz (5 min, free):    https://traumarockstars.com/lifeaudit → Rock Star 30™ Program:    https://form.typeform.com/to/qeZfPouw?typeform-source=traumarockstars.com 📩 SUBSCRIBE TO THE NEWSLETTER: https://traumarockstars.com/#newsletter 🔗 All links: https://linktr.ee/traumarockstars 💛 SUPPORT THE SHOW: ☕ Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/traumarockstars 🎙️ Become a Supporter:     https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/supporters/new Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/support]

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episode The Rider: Your Non-Negotiables Are Not Optional | Trauma Rock Stars™ cover

The Rider: Your Non-Negotiables Are Not Optional | Trauma Rock Stars™

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/fan_mail/new] Did you know Van Halen's famous "no brown M&Ms" demand had  nothing to do with being a diva? It was a test. And it changes  everything about how we think about our own non-negotiables. In this solo episode, Tracy Smaldino introduces The Rider — the  list of requirements every artist puts in their contract before  they perform — and shows you how to build yours for your own  healing journey. Because you have been performing without a rider. Showing up for  everyone else's needs while completely ignoring your own. And  that stops today. In this episode: - The real story behind Van Halen's brown M&Ms - Why a rider is professional necessity — not selfish behavior - How trauma taught you your needs were too much - The fawning response: people pleasing as a survival strategy - The 4 clauses of your personal rider:   Physical, Emotional, Mental & Relational requirements - How to communicate your rider and hold it - What to do when your rider is violated "A rider without consequences is just a preference. The reason  it's called a non-negotiable is because it is NOT negotiated." — Tracy Smaldino 🎸 FREE RESOURCES: → Free Life Audit Quiz (5 min, free):    https://traumarockstars.com/lifeaudit → Rock Star 30™ Program:    https://form.typeform.com/to/qeZfPouw?typeform-source=traumarockstars.com 📩 SUBSCRIBE TO THE NEWSLETTER: https://traumarockstars.com/#newsletter 🔗 All links: https://linktr.ee/traumarockstars 💛 SUPPORT THE SHOW: ☕ Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/traumarockstars 🎙️ Become a Supporter:     https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/supporters/new Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/support]

23. juni 202619 min
episode Feeling Lost? Coming Home to Your True Self After Grief & Trauma | Tara Wiskow cover

Feeling Lost? Coming Home to Your True Self After Grief & Trauma | Tara Wiskow

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/fan_mail/new] Have you ever felt completely lost — like you have no idea who you really are anymore? In this deeply moving episode of Trauma Rock Stars™, host Tracy sits down with Tara Wiskow, an intuitive energy healer and life-reinvention expert, who spent decades feeling disconnected from herself before finally coming home to who she truly is. 💗 A note before you listen: This episode includes an honest discussion of grief, disordered eating, and a moment of suicidal thoughts. If you're struggling, please reach out for support. In the US, you can call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline), or contact the National Alliance for Eating Disorders helpline at 1-866-662-1235. You are not alone. Tara shares the family secret she uncovered at age eight, the years she spent shape-shifting to fit in, the profound grief of losing her biological father and later her sister — and the moment everything shifted when she stopped running and started listening. It's an honest, tender conversation about identity, grief, self-love, intuition, and the belief that the truest version of you was never lost — she's been waiting for you all along. Whether you feel stuck, disconnected, or like you've lost yourself in everyone else's expectations, this conversation is an invitation to find your way back. 🧠 Questions We Explore in This Episode: • What do you do when you feel completely lost and don't know who you are? • How can grief become a turning point for reconnecting with yourself? • What is "identity shifting," and how does it help you come home to yourself? • What does it mean to meet your "higher self" in meditation? • How do you start learning to love and trust yourself again?  ❓ Quick FAQ: Q: What do you do when you feel lost and don't know who you are? A: In this episode Tara shares that feeling lost often comes from years of shaping yourself to fit others' expectations. Her path back began with small acts of self-love and learning to listen to her own inner voice — the sense that your authentic self is still there, waiting. Q: What is identity shifting? A: Tara describes identity shifting as releasing the masks and beliefs you've carried to fit in, and reconnecting with your most authentic self — the work that finally brought her "home" to who she really is. Q: What does it mean to meet your higher self? A: Tara and Tracy each describe a guided-meditation experience of connecting with a calm, loving inner presence — what they call the higher self — and how that moment opened the door to deeper intuition and healing.  🎸 Take the FREE Trauma Rock Stars™ Life Audit™: 👉 https://form.typeform.com/to/qeZfPouw Find out exactly where you are on your healing journey in less than 5 minutes. Your personalized Rock Star 30™ guide is waiting for you on the other side.  🌿 Connect with Tara Wiskow: 🌐 Website: https://tara-wiskow.com ✨ "She Rises" program: https://tara-wiskow.com/she-rises 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tara-wiskow-610b4154/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BeTheChangeYouNeedToday 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tara.wiskow/  🎙️ Listen & Connect with Trauma Rock Stars™: ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TraumaRockStars 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/traumarockstars 📘 Facebook: https://facebook.com/traumarockstars 🌐 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@traumarockstars 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracysmaldino 🔗 Linktree: https://linktr.ee/traumarockstars 🌐 Website: https://traumarockstars.com 🎙️ Buzzsprout: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063  💛 Ways to Support Trauma Rock Stars™: ☕ Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/traumarockstars 🤝 Become a Supporter: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/supporters/new Trauma Rock Stars™ is a safe, real, and empowering space for anyone navigating trauma recovery. Hosted by Tracy — survivor, advocate, and your biggest cheerleader. ⏱️ Chapters: 0:00 — Have you ever felt completely lost? Meet Tara 2:00 — The family secret revealed at age eight 4:30 — Shape-shifting to fit in & losing herself 6:00 — Meeting her biological father: "like looking in a mirror" 9:00 — Losing her dad & years of feeling disconnected 10:00 — Turning to food to cope through the pain 16:00 — A breaking point and the moment everything shifted 20:00 — Learning self-love, starting in the mirror 26:00 — Losing her sister Trisha & the signs that followed 30:00 — The "Identity Shifting" workshop & meeting her higher self 37:00 — Why your higher self has been waiting for you 44:00 — Intuition, energy & shadow work 46:00 — Trusting your gut: a story of being protected 53:00 — Meditation as a daily practice 55:00 — Tara's healing work with clients 59:00 — Closing: you were never lost — she's inside you Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/support]

18. juni 202656 min
episode The Venue: Your Body Is Your Home — How to Come Back to Yourself | Trauma Rock Stars™ cover

The Venue: Your Body Is Your Home — How to Come Back to Yourself | Trauma Rock Stars™

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/fan_mail/new] No matter how talented the artist — if the venue isn't  maintained, the show suffers. In this solo episode, Tracy Smaldino — former Production Manager  at House of Blues Las Vegas — uses the concert venue as a  powerful metaphor for your body. Your body is the space where  your entire healing journey happens. And for most trauma  survivors, we've been neglecting that venue for years. This episode breaks down what it means to come home to your  body and why somatic healing is the foundation everything  else is built on. In this episode: - How trauma disconnects you from your body — and the signs    you've been living "above the neck" - Your nervous system as your venue's infrastructure —    fight/flight vs. regulated - Why healing only happens when your system feels safe - 4 practical tools to start reconnecting today:   Grounding, Body Scan, Movement & Breath - How the Backstage Pass™ 90-Day program supports deep    body and nervous system healing "Trauma didn't just hurt you. It evicted you from your  own home. Healing is moving back in — one room at a time." — Tracy Smaldino 🎸 FREE RESOURCES: → Free Life Audit Quiz (5 min, free):    https://traumarockstars.com/lifeaudit → Rock Star 30™ Program:    https://form.typeform.com/to/qeZfPouw?typeform-source=traumarockstars.com 📩 SUBSCRIBE TO THE NEWSLETTER: https://traumarockstars.com/#newsletter 🔗 All links: https://linktr.ee/traumarockstars 💛 SUPPORT THE SHOW: ☕ Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/traumarockstars 🎙️ Become a Supporter:     https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/supporters/new Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/support]

16. juni 202619 min
episode Live Energy Healing Session: Finding Your Blocks & Superpowers with Cheryl | Trauma Rock Stars™ cover

Live Energy Healing Session: Finding Your Blocks & Superpowers with Cheryl | Trauma Rock Stars™

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/fan_mail/new] What if someone could look at your energy and tell you exactly what's blocking your healing — and clear it in real time? In this unscripted, deeply vulnerable episode of Trauma Rock Stars™, host Tracy Smaldino invites spiritual coach, master healer, and 3-time author Cheryl to conduct a LIVE chakra reading and energy healing session — on Tracy herself. Nothing was planned in advance. What was revealed surprised even Tracy. In this episode: - Cheryl's origin story: her late brother's spirit appeared as   a ball of white light 32 years ago - What chakra readings actually reveal — blocks AND superpowers - The block found directly in front of Tracy's eyes - The nervous system urgency pattern working against healing - Live harab breathwork: how full breath accesses the subconscious - Inner child healing at age 6 — the root of "I'm not enough" - Why awareness alone doesn't heal — it takes the body too - The 3 affirmations that shifted everything:   I am loved. I am enough. Life is incredible. - How to become your own energy worker "We are all powerful beyond what we can currently believe." — Cheryl, Star of Divine Light Institute 🎁 FREE EXCLUSIVE OFFER FOR LISTENERS: Complimentary chakra reading exclusively for Trauma Rock Stars™ listeners: https://cherylstelte.kartra.com/calendar/20min-chakra-reading-free [https://cherylstelte.kartra.com/calendar/20min-chakra-reading-free] 📖 Connect with Cheryl: https://starofdivinelight.com 🎯 Free Life Audit Quiz: https://traumarockstars.com/lifeaudit Newsletter: https://traumarockstars.com/#newsletter 🔗 All links: https://linktr.ee/traumarockstars 💛 SUPPORT THE SHOW: ☕ Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/traumarockstars 🎙️ Become a Supporter:     https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/supporters/new Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/support]

11. juni 202657 min
episode Sound Check: How to Check In With Yourself Before the World Gets to You | Trauma Rock Stars™ cover

Sound Check: How to Check In With Yourself Before the World Gets to You | Trauma Rock Stars™

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/fan_mail/new] When is the last time you checked in with yourself before the  world got to you? In this solo episode, Tracy Smaldino introduces the Sound Check  — the daily non-negotiable practice that separates reactive people  from grounded ones. Your nervous system is your instrument. Your  body, emotions, thoughts, and voice are your channels. Skip the  check-in and you walk onto the stage of your life completely  uncalibrated. In this episode: - Why skipping your daily check-in keeps you stuck in    reactive mode - The difference between reactive and responsive - The 4 channels of your personal sound check - A check-in question for every channel - 4 simple steps to make this a daily practice - Why trauma teaches us to abandon ourselves — and how to    come back - How Rock Star 30™ builds the daily check-in into your    healing structure Your 4 Channels: 1. The Vocals (Voice) — What am I not saying that needs     to be said? 2. The Beat (Body) — Where am I holding tension right now? 3. The Mix (Emotions) — What emotion am I carrying that     I haven't named? 4. The Reverb (Mind) — What story am I telling myself     today — and is it true? "You cannot pour from an empty soundboard." — Tracy Smaldino Five minutes. Four questions. One practice that changes  everything. 🎯 Rock Star 30™ Program + Free Life Audit Quiz: https://traumarockstars.com/lifeaudit 🔗 All links: https://linktr.ee/traumarockstars 💛 SUPPORT THE SHOW: ☕ Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/traumarockstars 🎙️ Become a Supporter:     https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/supporters/new #TraumaRockStars #SoundCheck #NervousSystemHealing #MorningRoutine #ReactiveVsResponsive #RockStarResilience #RockStar30 #TraumaHealing #HealingJourney #DailyCheckIn #EmotionalHealing #SomaticHealing #InnerCritic #YouAreEnough #MentalHealthPodcast Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/support]

9. juni 202621 min