Why Your Regulation Matters More Than Parenting Skills | UnMuted Love Ep.101

Why Your Regulation Matters More Than Parenting Skills | UnMuted Love Ep.101

In this highly practical two-part conversation, Ce Eshelman sits down again with somatic therapist and Life Balance founder, Layne Burkette, to move beyond talking about regulation and actually practice it. This episode focuses on regulating breath work for parents. Together, Ce and Layne explore why parents can know every good parenting strategy and still lose access to those skills when their child’s nervous system lights up the room. They unpack what happens in the body when parents feel pushed, flooded, frozen, or desperate to fix things fast, and why the first intervention is often not a better too, but a steadier body. You'll learn simple, usable breathwork and somatic practices that you can try in real time. These aren't complicated techniques or one-more-thing-to-master exercises. They are small, body-based ways to interrupt reactivity, soften the nervous system, and return to enough safety to parent from presence instead of upset. In Part 2 next week, Ce and Layne demonstrate how to use breath work to create a regulating way of engaging children every day. Don't miss it! ▶️ Watch the video version here → https://youtu.be/8TWulIyHJDQ 💡 Check out Layne Burkette's FREE e-Book, Five Days to Calm → https://lifebalancebeyou.systeme.io/ 🌐 Find Layne on her website → https://lifebalancebeyou.com/ 📖 Check out The Perfectly Imperfect Family, the book Layne co-authored → https://lifebalancebeyou.heymarvelous.com/buy/product/90033 📷 Follow Layne on Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lifebalancebeyou/ From Ce Eshelman: Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU! Access Free Resources! ✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page! [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/free-materials] Additional Resources: 📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew [https://www.amazon.com/Things-Children-Difficult-Beginnings-Friends/dp/B0FM7WSNC6] 📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents [https://www.amazon.com/Drowning-My-Hair-Fire-Insanity/dp/1478770961/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1KW0Y1P6Z5GHE&keywords=drowning+with+my+hair+on+fire&psr=EY17&qid=1701139958&s=cyber-monday&sprefix=drowning+with+my+hair+on+fire%2Ccyber-monday%2C149&sr=1-1] ▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman [https://www.youtube.com/@LoveMattersParenting] 🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/] 🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/] and AttachPlace.com [https://AttachPlace.com] 📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials [https://lovemattersparenting.com/testimonials] 👉 Find Ce on Social Media: 🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting [https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting] 🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting [https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting.com] Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com] and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC [http://www.attachplace.com/]. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1 [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1]. 🎧 Follow us on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode! [http:www.unmutedlove.com]

A Very Special Message | UnMuted Love Ep.100

For the 100th episode of UnMuted Love, Ce Eshelman, LMFT, steps back to name the conviction threaded through every conversation she's had on this show: a child's behavior is information, not an indictment. Behavior tells us what a nervous system is managing—it doesn't tell us who the child is or who they will become. Pulling from nearly four decades as an attachment specialist and her own years parenting children who came home through foster care, Ce explains why the standard parenting playbook falls apart for kids whose earliest experiences were shaped by fear and loss. Punishment doesn't generate safety. Lectures don't produce calm. And the adults sweating it out every day deserve the same understanding they're asked to give to their child. She talks candidly about caregiver depletion, draws a firm line between therapeutic parenting and going soft, and circles back to the truth she keeps returning to: rebuilding trust is possible, but it can't be rushed or demanded. Part reflection, part celebration, part permission slip for every parent who's quietly wondered if they're doing it all wrong. ▶️ Watch the video version here → https://youtu.be/amVmY_ksrdc From Ce Eshelman: Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU! Access Free Resources! ✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page! [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/free-materials] Additional Resources: 📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew [https://www.amazon.com/Things-Children-Difficult-Beginnings-Friends/dp/B0FM7WSNC6] 📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents [https://www.amazon.com/Drowning-My-Hair-Fire-Insanity/dp/1478770961/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1KW0Y1P6Z5GHE&keywords=drowning+with+my+hair+on+fire&psr=EY17&qid=1701139958&s=cyber-monday&sprefix=drowning+with+my+hair+on+fire%2Ccyber-monday%2C149&sr=1-1] ▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman [https://www.youtube.com/@LoveMattersParenting] 🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/] 🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/] and AttachPlace.com [https://AttachPlace.com] 📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials [https://lovemattersparenting.com/testimonials] 👉 Find Ce on Social Media: 🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting [https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting] 🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting [https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting.com] Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com] and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC [http://www.attachplace.com/]. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1 [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1]. 🎧 Follow us on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode! [http:www.unmutedlove.com]

Fireworks, Meltdowns, & Big Booms: A Survival Guide for Fragile Nervous Systems | UnMuted Love Ep.99

If you’ve ever thought, “We should have stayed home,” halfway through a celebration, Ce Eshelman made this episode of UnMuted Love just for you. She unpacks why fireworks and loud celebrations are especially hard for children with early trauma, attachment disruptions, and sensory sensitivity, and how parents can plan ahead, lower stress, and still create those life-long meaningful memories we are always hoping for. This episode applies not only to the Fourth of July, but to any celebration with fireworks or loud sensory input, including: * New Year’s Eve * Lunar / Chinese New Year * Diwali * Weddings * Christmas and holiday gatherings * Sporting events and festivals ▶️ Watch the video version here → https://youtu.be/4wQYRPRFkks From Ce Eshelman: Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU! Access Free Resources! ✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page! [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/free-materials] Additional Resources: 📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew [https://www.amazon.com/Things-Children-Difficult-Beginnings-Friends/dp/B0FM7WSNC6] 📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents [https://www.amazon.com/Drowning-My-Hair-Fire-Insanity/dp/1478770961/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1KW0Y1P6Z5GHE&keywords=drowning+with+my+hair+on+fire&psr=EY17&qid=1701139958&s=cyber-monday&sprefix=drowning+with+my+hair+on+fire%2Ccyber-monday%2C149&sr=1-1] ▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman [https://www.youtube.com/@LoveMattersParenting] 🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/] 🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/] and AttachPlace.com [https://AttachPlace.com] 📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials [https://lovemattersparenting.com/testimonials] 👉 Find Ce on Social Media: 🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting [https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting] 🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting [https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting.com] Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com] and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC [http://www.attachplace.com/]. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1 [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1]. 🎧 Follow us on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode! [http:www.unmutedlove.com]

Where Love Meets Limits | UnMuted Love Ep.98

What if discipline isn't about compliance at all? In this thought-provoking conversation, Ce Eshelman sits down with parenting educator and founder of Non-Coercive, Collaborative Parenting, Vivek Patel, to explore one of the biggest questions parents face: How do you maintain boundaries, safety, and leadership without relying on control, punishment, or power struggles? Together, they unpack the difference between collaboration and permissiveness, what healthy limits look like in real life, and how parents can stay grounded when emotions are running high. This conversation offers a fresh perspective on discipline, connection, and the kind of leadership that builds trust rather than fear. If you've ever wondered whether there is another way to parent without constant battles, this episode is for you. ▶️ Watch the video version here → https://youtu.be/Y0C41pwVHi8 💡 Check out Vivek's website for more → http://www.meaningfulideas.com From Ce Eshelman: Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU! Access Free Resources! ✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page! [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/free-materials] Additional Resources: 📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew [https://www.amazon.com/Things-Children-Difficult-Beginnings-Friends/dp/B0FM7WSNC6] 📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents [https://www.amazon.com/Drowning-My-Hair-Fire-Insanity/dp/1478770961/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1KW0Y1P6Z5GHE&keywords=drowning+with+my+hair+on+fire&psr=EY17&qid=1701139958&s=cyber-monday&sprefix=drowning+with+my+hair+on+fire%2Ccyber-monday%2C149&sr=1-1] ▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman [https://www.youtube.com/@LoveMattersParenting] 🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/] 🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/] and AttachPlace.com [https://AttachPlace.com] 📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials [https://lovemattersparenting.com/testimonials] 👉 Find Ce on Social Media: 🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting [https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting] 🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting [https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting.com] Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com] and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC [http://www.attachplace.com/]. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1 [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1]. 🎧 Follow us on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode! [http:www.unmutedlove.com]

Neurodivergent Children on the Inside | UnMuted Love Ep.97

Neurodivergent children can be perplexing to a parent. In this episode of UnMuted Love, Ce Eshelman has a lively sit down with Mark Talaga, a neurodivergent therapist, for an enlightening conversation about parenting neurodivergent children through both lived experience and professional wisdom. Ce and Mark explore what it means to understand neurodivergent children from the inside out—not only through diagnoses, school reports, behavior plans, or parenting strategies, but through the real human experience of being a child whose nervous system, identity, sensitivities, and gifts may not fit neatly into the world around them. This conversation speaks directly to parents raising children who are gifted and asynchronous. They can be bright, articulate, creative, and insightful, while also overwhelmed by executive function demands, social pressure, sensory input, emotional intensity, or the crushing weight of expectations. You will want to bring your full attention to this episode, especially if you have been challenged by your child’s ability to do incredible things while simultaneously being unable some days to put their shoes on. ▶️ Watch the video version here → https://youtu.be/IBWDIF7oSBc 💡 Check out Mark's website for more → http://www.centerforidentitypotential.com 🎧 Listen to Hopelessly Gifted, Mark's podcast → http://www.hopelesslygifted.com From Ce Eshelman: Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU! Access Free Resources! ✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page! [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/free-materials] Additional Resources: 📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew [https://www.amazon.com/Things-Children-Difficult-Beginnings-Friends/dp/B0FM7WSNC6] 📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents [https://www.amazon.com/Drowning-My-Hair-Fire-Insanity/dp/1478770961/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1KW0Y1P6Z5GHE&keywords=drowning+with+my+hair+on+fire&psr=EY17&qid=1701139958&s=cyber-monday&sprefix=drowning+with+my+hair+on+fire%2Ccyber-monday%2C149&sr=1-1] ▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman [https://www.youtube.com/@LoveMattersParenting] 🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/] 🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/] and AttachPlace.com [https://AttachPlace.com] 📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials [https://lovemattersparenting.com/testimonials] 👉 Find Ce on Social Media: 🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting [https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting] 🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting [https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting.com] Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com] and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC [http://www.attachplace.com/]. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1 [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1]. 🎧 Follow us on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode! [http:www.unmutedlove.com]