Playing the victim

The highs and lows of internet dating

Gone are the days where you could only meet the love of your life in a bookstore. Today, dating has hit the internet (or more realistically, the apps) and the girls are here to share their thoughts! As two people who have dabbled in the art of Tinder (et al), Kath and Erin chat about the misconceptions and tribulations of online dating, touching on their best and worst first dates - including the time Erin got catfished by Ben from Takapuna.

What the heck are my core values?

Finding your core values may seem a bit wishy-washy, but bear with us because knowing what they are is more important than you might think! In today's episode, Kath and Erin chat about what core values actually are and give you a super simple 5 minute exercise to work out what yours might be. So why should we bother defining them? Core values kinda inform every decision you make and by knowing what's important to you, you can avoid going down the wrong path (or ruining your life if you're dramatic like Erin).  Check out accidentallyadulting_podcast on instagram for more content and drop us a review!

Playing the victim

“Playing the victim” is a phrase that we’ve all heard of, but how many of us are willing to admit that we have totally been there and done that? In today’s episode, Erin and Kath chat about why making yourself the victim in every story is even more damaging to you and the people around you than you might think it is. And hey, we get it – it's human nature to want to have a moan sometimes, but assigning yourself the role of the hard-done-by gets old pretty quick. It’s all about self-awareness, friends!

Community vs. competition

We all have that friend who’s always ‘one upping’ you - ya know, the one who lets you know they’ve had waaaay less sleep than you after your hectic night at work, or just happened to run 0.2mm further than you during the cardio session. Needlessly competitive, right? This week the girls talk Community vs. Competition - touching on their experiences of fostering community in a competitive environment and reflect on how they make other people feel. Are you in your lane? Are you the backseat driver? Or are you the Ford Ranger over-taking the other cars (but always getting to the location at the same time)?   * Disclaimer * Kath talks car metaphors and if you drive a Ford Ranger be prepared to feel personally attacked.

Hedonic adaptation

Ever wondered why people who win the lotto end up being as happy as your average Joe? The answer is hedonic adaptation. Sounds fancy, right? Join Erin and Kath as they explore and simplify this concept.  Plenty of yarns are spun around how we all adapt to events and how we can make ourselves that tiny bit happier.  If you take nothing else from this episode, you’ll leave with a bloody good fact for your next awkward work function.