Falling Off Curbs

I'm Not Tough, I'm Tired

We’ve been told that silence is strength. That holding it in, pushing through, staying composed means we’re mature, grounded, grown. But in this episode, I’m calling that out gently. What if being quiet when it hurts isn’t strength? What if it’s just survival we learned too well? This week, I talk about the moments I stayed silent to keep the peace and ended up erasing myself. I share what it’s cost me to be “the strong one,” and how I’ve come to see the real work as bringing my inner child back — not to hide her, but to integrate her. To let her grow with me. If you’ve ever been praised for being unbothered while you were falling apart in silence, this episode is for you. You don’t have to hold it all together to be whole. You don’t have to be tough to be worthy. Sometimes the strongest thing you can do is let yourself be seen. Drop me a note—I’d love to hear from you! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2440760/open_sms] Thank you for listening to Falling Off Curbs! New episodes drop every Tuesday! 🎧 ✨ Stay connected: IG: @FallingOffCurbs https://fallingoffcurbs.buzzsprout.com Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share the episode with someone who might need a little reminder to embrace life’s stumbles!

Wait... Am I the Pattern?

We talk a lot about the patterns we attract—the emotionally unavailable, the inconsistent, the ones who can’t love us the way we need. But in this episode, I ask a harder, quieter question: What if I’m not just drawn to a pattern… what if I’m part of one too?  In this deeply honest conversation, I unpack the ways I’ve shown up in relationships thinking I was offering emotional depth—when in truth, I was swimming in someone else’s waters while never inviting them into mine. I explore the subtle emotional avoidance hidden behind “being the healer,” the trap of curating connection, and how that performance of strength and usefulness can actually keep us from being truly known.  This one isn’t about shame—it’s about self-honesty. It’s about the brave moment when you realize: "I can’t keep asking people to meet me halfway if I keep crossing the whole damn bridge by myself.”  Includes a prose poem titled “I Saw a Man in Need,” written and performed by me as a personal reflection on this very truth. Drop me a note—I’d love to hear from you! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2440760/open_sms] Thank you for listening to Falling Off Curbs! New episodes drop every Tuesday! 🎧 ✨ Stay connected: IG: @FallingOffCurbs https://fallingoffcurbs.buzzsprout.com Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share the episode with someone who might need a little reminder to embrace life’s stumbles!

Don't Breadcrumb Me. I'm Not a Bird.

Dating while healing is wild.  What happens when you start experiencing something healthy...and it feels wrong? In Episode 2 of Season 2, Kat is unpacking the deeply uncomfortable but honest truth about receiving love—and how unfamiliar it can feel when your foundation has been built around giving, fixing, and pouring out.  She explores the idea that many of us don’t actually know how to receive love—especially when it comes without strings or struggle. Through personal reflection (and some very real revelations), Kat shares how past wounds, breadcrumbs, and over-functioning in relationships have shaped her understanding of “normal.”  ✨ Highlights:  — Why receiving love can feel threatening when you’re used to surviving on crumbs  — The danger of defining yourself through someone else’s light (“I am the sun!”)  — Rebuilding your emotional foundation so peace doesn’t feel like punishment  — The myth of mutual happiness and learning not to overcompensate for someone else’s joy  This one’s tender, insightful, and a whole truth serum for anyone navigating healing and love at the same time. Drop me a note—I’d love to hear from you! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2440760/open_sms] Thank you for listening to Falling Off Curbs! New episodes drop every Tuesday! 🎧 ✨ Stay connected: IG: @FallingOffCurbs https://fallingoffcurbs.buzzsprout.com Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share the episode with someone who might need a little reminder to embrace life’s stumbles!

The Dating Pool Has Blood, Not Pee!

"I wonder if we're going into dating trying to become whole people rather than going into dating as whole people." Welcome back to Falling Off Curbs! After an unexpected hiatus, Kat returns with Episode 1 of Season 2, diving headfirst into the beautifully chaotic world of dating, which is a lot messier, bloodier, and deeper than expected. She unpacks how past trauma, childhood wounds (hey, daddy issues), and unspoken insecurities show up in romantic connection—sometimes quietly, other times with fireworks. With vulnerability and that signature Kat humor, she invites us to ask: are we bleeding on people who didn’t cut us? And are we hoping dating will make us whole… instead of dating as whole people? This episode tackles the messy middle ground of modern dating, the triggers we didn't know we had, and why understanding our own blood in the water might be the key to healthier connections. If you've ever found yourself repeating patterns in relationships or wondered why certain people push buttons you forgot you had, this episode will remind you that even our romantic missteps are part of the beautifully imperfect human experience. Drop me a note—I’d love to hear from you! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2440760/open_sms] Thank you for listening to Falling Off Curbs! New episodes drop every Tuesday! 🎧 ✨ Stay connected: IG: @FallingOffCurbs https://fallingoffcurbs.buzzsprout.com Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share the episode with someone who might need a little reminder to embrace life’s stumbles!

The Urgency of Perspective

"Perspective isn’t just about what you see—it’s about where you’re standing when you see it." In Episode 6 of Falling Off Curbs, we’re talking about perspective—not just the ones we gather, but the one we own. We’re constantly absorbing perspectives from everywhere—family, social media, culture, community. But at some point, we have to ask ourselves… what do I actually think? Kat explores how we often live inside a mosaic of borrowed viewpoints, piecing together bits of what we’ve heard, what we’ve been taught, and what we think we should believe. But what happens when we strip all of that away? When we remove the layers of identity—Black, woman, parent, leader, friend—and sit with the core of who we are? That’s where real clarity lives. That’s where real connection happens. ✨ If you’ve ever felt like your perspective is more of a collection than a conviction, this episode is for you. Tune in now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and everywhere you listen! #FallingOffCurbs #PerspectiveIsPower #NewEpisode Drop me a note—I’d love to hear from you! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2440760/open_sms] Thank you for listening to Falling Off Curbs! New episodes drop every Tuesday! 🎧 ✨ Stay connected: IG: @FallingOffCurbs https://fallingoffcurbs.buzzsprout.com Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share the episode with someone who might need a little reminder to embrace life’s stumbles!