What To Do When Someone You Love Is an Addict

Meaning Isn't Found. It's Given.

What are you actually living for? Most of us never stop to answer that — we just keep chasing the next thing hoping it will finally feel like enough. In this episode of Reframed, Pastor Dan Jarms and biblical counselor Brian Sayers trace the ways people search for meaning — in success, pleasure, status, and identity — and why every path eventually runs dry. Then they turn to what the Bible has said from the beginning: meaning isn't something you find. It's something you're given.In this episode: * Why success, pleasure, and reputation always come up short * What Solomon discovered after pursuing everything life had to offer * How being made in God's image answers the question "Who am I?"— and why that matters for your everyday life * Why self-determined identity always collapses in on itself * The one cause worth giving your life to Featured resource:  * Living Life Backward by David Gibson [https://www.christianbook.com/living-backward-ecclesiastes-teaches-live-light/david-gibson/9781433556272/pd/556272] Join us for Sunday services at 8:30 and 10:30 am at 440 W. Cora in Spokane, WA. Learn more about our church here. [https://fbchurch.org/newcomers/a-loving-community] If you are not in Spokane, find a gospel-centered church here. [https://tms.edu/find-a-church/]

What To Do When Someone You Love Is an Addict

If someone you love is struggling with addiction, you already know how exhausting, confusing, and heartbreaking it can be. You want to help — but how do you know when helping becomes hurting? In this episode of Reframed, Pastor Dan Jarms and Biblical Counselor Brian Sayers walk through a practical survival guide for caregivers, family members, and friends of addicts. They unpack what codependency and enabling actually look like, how to intervene in a way that's honest and loving, and why building your own support team isn't optional — it's essential. Real love does what is best, not always what feels best. In this episode: * What codependency is and how to recognize it in yourself * The difference between enabling and truly helping * How to intervene — and what the Bible says about the process * Why forgiveness and trust aren't the same thing * How to build a team and survive the long road Featured resource:  * Divine Intervention by Mark Shaw [https://www.christianbook.com/divine-intervention-hope-help-families-addicts/mark-shaw/9781885904638/pd/904638] * Addictions: A Banquet in the Grave by Ed Welch [https://a.co/d/0hfZ7Xvm] Join us for Sunday services at 8:30 and 10:30 am at 440 W. Cora in Spokane, WA. Learn more about our church here. [https://fbchurch.org/newcomers/a-loving-community] If you are not in Spokane, find a gospel-centered church here. [https://tms.edu/find-a-church/] Join us for Sunday services at 8:30 and 10:30 am at 440 W. Cora in Spokane, WA. Learn more about our church here. [https://fbchurch.org/newcomers/a-loving-community] If you are not in Spokane, find a gospel-centered church here. [https://tms.edu/find-a-church/]

"Once an Addict, Always an Addict"? The Gospel Says Otherwise

Is addiction a disease you're stuck with forever or is real change actually possible? Pastor Dan Jarms and biblical counselor Brian Sayers challenge the narrative that you're defined by your addiction, unpacking what the science actually says about the disease model, why the Bible's language of slavery and bondage is more honest and more hopeful than you might expect, and what the gospel offers that no rehab program or recovery group can. If you or someone you love is caught in a cycle that feels impossible to break, this episode is for you. In this episode: * Why the "disease model" of addiction is more complicated than you've been told * What the Bible actually says about addiction (and why the names matter) * The gospel as real power for real change not just forgiveness * The "hurts and hungers" driving addictive behavior * Practical steps for restructuring your life toward freedom Featured Resources:  * Addictions: A Banquet in the Grave by Ed Welch [https://a.co/d/0hfZ7Xvm] * Help! I'm Addicted by Jim Berg [https://a.co/d/0dCI49Yk] * Passions of the Heart by John Street [https://www.christianbook.com/passions-heart-biblical-counsel-stubborn-sexual/john-street/9781629954028/pd/954020] Join us for Sunday services at 8:30 and 10:30 am at 440 W. Cora in Spokane, WA. Learn more about our church here. [https://fbchurch.org/newcomers/a-loving-community] If you are not in Spokane, find a gospel-centered church here. [https://tms.edu/find-a-church/]

I Got Diagnosed with ADHD at 56 — By My Own Kids

In this episode, Dan and Brian unpack the history of ADD/ADHD, how 45 years of research still hasn't found a root cause, and three perspective shifts that can actually help — whether you're a frustrated parent, a struggling student, or an adult who's wondered if the label fits you. Featured Resources: * Four Things You Should Know About ADHD [https://www.biblicalcounselingcoalition.org/2026/01/28/four-things-you-should-know-about-adhd] * Running the Christian Race: Helping the Child Labeled ADD/ADHD by Sharon Backus [https://a.co/d/04KCuiH3] Join us for Sunday services at 8:30 and 10:30 am at 440 W. Cora in Spokane, WA. Learn more about our church here. [https://fbchurch.org/newcomers/a-loving-community] If you are not in Spokane, find a gospel-centered church here. [https://tms.edu/find-a-church/]

What Did People Do Before Antidepressants?

Before pills and therapy, people dealt with depression for thousands of years — and the Bible has a lot to say about it. Pastors Dan Jarms and Brian Sayers walk through the history of depression, how its been diagnosed over the years, what's really behind most of it, and the three conversations you need to have when you feel stuck. Featured Resources: * Discipleship Toolbox [https://fbchurch.org/discipleship-toolbox/filter/depression] * Find a Biblical Counselor [https://biblicalcounseling.com/find-a-counselor/] Join us for Sunday services at 8:30 and 10:30 am at 440 W. Cora in Spokane, WA. Learn more about our church here. [https://fbchurch.org/newcomers/a-loving-community] If you are not in Spokane, find a gospel-centered church here. [https://tms.edu/find-a-church/]