Is Monogamy a Lie? (Gay Couples, Open Relationshios & Other Detours)

Stories: An International DJ On Success, Ego, and Why People Stop Working With You

International DJ Jaesyun [https://www.jaesyun.com] breaks down what actually drives success in the music industry and why ego can quietly destroy your reputation. From life behind the decks to the realities of navigating gay nightlife, we unpack how relationships and personality sometimes matter more than talent. We discuss the politics of rave culture, what separates a great party from just another night out, and whether nightlife is losing the pulse that once made it special. From building your brand to managing your network, this is a conversation about what it really takes when your art becomes your occupation—and your reputation is everything. Stories by Someone Should Stop Us is our interview series where we sit down with interesting people to unpack the paths, pivots, and occasional chaos behind how they built what they built.

Is Monogamy a Lie? (Gay Couples, Open Relationshios & Other Detours)

Monogamy is the default — but is it actually a choice we make?Even as open relationships and throuples become more visible in the queer community, non-monogamy is still seen as “too much” in some circles.With Tyler two years single and Kelly nearly a decade into a now-open relationship, personalities and expectations clash in what becomes less a structured debate and more a collision of lived experience.We get talk couples, throuples, and quadruples -- oh, my! Emotional attachment, exclusivity — and whether the desire for “just one person” is natural… or driven by insecurity and fear.

Life After "I'm Gay" (Coming Out, Community Expectations, and Other Detours)

Between coming-out scenes in media, increased visibility, and the expectations that come with both, we start asking why progress always seems to require an explanation. We talk about how coming out is often treated like the finish line, when it’s really just the beginning—and how visibility can quietly turn into pressure. Touching on “gay monogamy,” hyper-sexualization in gay culture, and the realization that being “out” doesn’t automatically explain everything, the conversation goes a few places people usually avoid.

New Year, Same Chaos (Friendship in Your 30s, Burnout, and Other Detours)

In our first episode, we sit down with no agenda and immediately realize why making and keeping relationships in your thirties feels inexplicably harder than it used to. Between work, burnout, and adult life in NYC, a casual catch-up turns into an honest conversation about what’s actually changed—and what we want to change going into 2026. We didn’t come in with a plan, but we leave with a few uncomfortable realizations about friendship, expectations, and how we want to show up moving forward.