Boundaries: You're Not Responsible For Their Response

Don't Let Them Drain You

This episode is apart of the Multi-Dimensional Life Series. This episode will change your life and the way you move, who you choose and the way you spend your time in 2026 and beyond.

The Multi-Dimensional Life

This is the 50th Birthday Edition of The Apostle's Corner. Celebrating growth, impact, maturity and grace upon the life of podcast host, Brian A. Harris. In this season you will discover how Brian A. Harris no longer want to be identified by titles, power and positions, but rather, but integrity, character and in all simplicity, his name.

Boundaries: You're Not Responsible For Their Response

First of all, setting boundaries isn’t easy. Paralyzing fear about how someone might respond can easily hold us back. Sometimes we even go as far as playing the awkward interactions in our minds to prepare ourselves for the worst possible outcome. Nevertheless, short-term discomfort for a long-term healthy relationship is worth it every time!

Boundaries: There's Levels To This

Boundaries are actually expectations and needs that help you feel safe and comfortable in your relationships. Expectations in relationships help you stay mentally and emotionally well. Learning when to say no and when to say yes is also an essential part of feeling comfortable when interacting with others. There are three levels of boundaries: 1.   Porous – Porous boundaries are weak or poorly expressed and are unintentionally harmful. They lead to feeling depleted, overextending yourself, depression, anxiety, and unhealthy relationship dynamics.   1.  Rigid Boundaries: Rigid Boundaries involve building walls to keep others out as a way to keep yourself safe. But staying safe by locking yourself in is unhealthy and leads to a whole other set of problems… This typically comes from a fear of vulnerability of a history of being taken advantage of. People with rigid boundaries do not allow exceptions to their stringent rules even when it would be healthy for them to do so. If a person with rigid boundaries says, “I never loan money to people,” they never stray from that, even if a friend who isn’t the type to borrow money is in a crisis. 3.) Healthy Boundaries: Are possible when your past doesn’t show up in your present interactions. They require an awareness of your emotional, mental, and physical capacities, combined with clear communication.

Boundaries: The Need For Boundaries

Healthy Boundaries: We all know we should have them in order to achieve work/life balance, cope with toxic people, and enjoy rewarding relationships with partners, friends, and family. But what do healthy boundaries really mean, and how can we successfully express our needs, say no, and be assertive without offending others?" In Season Three / Episode One of The Apostle's Corner, Podcast host Brian A. Harris along with his Co-Host, Dr. Kimberly R. Harris, will have a life-changing conversation about The Need For Boundaries. Living without boundaries can be and is a very dangerous way to live.  Boundaries are actually expectations and needs that help you feel safe and comfortable in your relationships.