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False Self Series — Why Does Repentance Feel Heavy

Why does repentance feel heavy… especially when you’re in real pain? In this episode from the False Self Series, host Lisa Becker unpacks one of the most misunderstood aspects of the Christian life: repentance. Not as blame. Not as shame. But as alignment with what is true. If you’ve ever felt resistance to repentance—especially when you were the one hurt—this conversation will bring clarity, freedom, and a new framework for understanding what God is actually inviting you into. This episode continues the False Self series, exposing how the identity we form to survive pain can quietly shape how we live, relate, and respond—and how repentance breaks our agreement with that false self so we can begin to live as the new creation we are in Christ. You’ll learn: -Why repentance often feels unsafe -The difference between blame and alignment -How the false self forms—and why it must be exposed -What Scripture actually says about repentance (not what we assume) -How to tell the truth about what happened without being shaped by it -Why freedom begins when we stop trying to secure what God already gives This is not about minimizing what happened to you. It’s about becoming free from what it produced in you. CORE TRUTH— Repentance is not blaming yourself—it’s breaking agreement with what is out of alignment and returning to what is true in God. This episode sets the foundation for the upcoming Practical Forgiveness Series, where we walk through: Forgiveness vs Reconciliation vs Trust -How to forgive in real situations (including betrayal and ongoing harm) -Boundaries, wisdom, and safety in relationships -What it actually looks like to confront wrong from a place of peace Explore the full False Self Series and the Spiritual Warfare Playlist to go deeper into these themes of identity, freedom, and formation. View the Dismantle False Series Podcast Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yqaE6fnqy8A&list=PLrO4fJ3efLiKWgLHULQNudeBcuY3Ax-vg&pp=0gcJCbcEOCosWNinsAgC Follow BORNE here for more episodes on spiritual formation, identity, and the Kingdom of God.