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We Cannot Keep Pouring Into People Who Never Pour Back

43 min · 15. Juni 2026
Episode We Cannot Keep Pouring Into People Who Never Pour Back Cover

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Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2071161/fan_mail/new] Some people call you a friend, then disappear the second you stop being convenient. We get blunt about that kind of fake loyalty and what it does to your trust, your energy, and your peace. From old work “friends” who vanish to the constant drain of being the dependable one, we talk about how to spot the pattern early and set boundaries without turning cold. Then we shift to what real love looks like when it’s lived out, not posted. We tell the story of our daughter Faith saving her change, going to the mall, and spending her money on a gift for her mom with layers of meaning, memories, and care. The Build-A-Bear details, the scents, the symbols, the voice message, all of it becomes a reminder that time and thought matter more than status, cars, or the number in a bank account. We also reflect on family traditions like movie nights and why presence is the thing you can never buy back. We also go raw on trauma recovery, PTSD, scars, and body dysphoria after abuse. Trying on clothes can feel like a fight with a mirror, especially when old cruelty still echoes years later. Along the way, we share what’s going on at home too: chronic pain, an upcoming surgery, the everyday humor that keeps us grounded, and why we’re building Stronger Than a Mountain while continuing the work behind Contagious Smiles. If any part of this hit home, listen, share it with someone who needs it, and leave a review so more people can find the show. What’s one boundary you wish you’d set sooner? Support the show [https://gofund.me/01c59071]

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Episode We Cannot Keep Pouring Into People Who Never Pour Back Cover

We Cannot Keep Pouring Into People Who Never Pour Back

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2071161/fan_mail/new] Some people call you a friend, then disappear the second you stop being convenient. We get blunt about that kind of fake loyalty and what it does to your trust, your energy, and your peace. From old work “friends” who vanish to the constant drain of being the dependable one, we talk about how to spot the pattern early and set boundaries without turning cold. Then we shift to what real love looks like when it’s lived out, not posted. We tell the story of our daughter Faith saving her change, going to the mall, and spending her money on a gift for her mom with layers of meaning, memories, and care. The Build-A-Bear details, the scents, the symbols, the voice message, all of it becomes a reminder that time and thought matter more than status, cars, or the number in a bank account. We also reflect on family traditions like movie nights and why presence is the thing you can never buy back. We also go raw on trauma recovery, PTSD, scars, and body dysphoria after abuse. Trying on clothes can feel like a fight with a mirror, especially when old cruelty still echoes years later. Along the way, we share what’s going on at home too: chronic pain, an upcoming surgery, the everyday humor that keeps us grounded, and why we’re building Stronger Than a Mountain while continuing the work behind Contagious Smiles. If any part of this hit home, listen, share it with someone who needs it, and leave a review so more people can find the show. What’s one boundary you wish you’d set sooner? Support the show [https://gofund.me/01c59071]

15. Juni 202643 min
Episode When A Medium Nails The Details with special guests Danniel Worthen Cullumber and Gvnage Mishipeshu Cover

When A Medium Nails The Details with special guests Danniel Worthen Cullumber and Gvnage Mishipeshu

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2071161/fan_mail/new] A stranger says one word that stops us cold: “hands.” Danielle Worthen Columber has never met us, never heard our backstory, and we give her nothing to work with. Then she describes what she’s sensing and I lift my arm and she realises I’m an amputee. That moment sets the tone for a conversation that’s equal parts psychic medium reading, trauma-informed care, and the kind of grief honesty most people avoid. Danielle brings her lens as a licensed clinical social worker and trauma therapist who also practices mediumship, and her husband Ganonge Mishapeshu adds his perspective as an intuitive medium grounded in practicality, culture, and lived experience. We talk about how intuitive messages arrive as fragments, why trusting them is hard, and why the delivery matters when someone has a history of abuse, hypervigilance, or deep loss. We also share the story behind my amputation and what it means to mourn a body part that held my daughter through surgeries and held my grandparents’ hands at the end of life. You’ll also hear about raising a child with complex medical needs, the resilience it takes to survive repeated ICU crises, and the surprising joy that shows up through pranks, dark humour, and family rituals. We touch on creativity and purpose, what “age 22” might signal for building a bigger future, and why accessibility matters if you want your books, messages, or healing work to reach more people. If you’ve ever wondered whether psychic readings can be real, or you’re simply looking for a grounded conversation about grief, trauma recovery, and spiritual healing, press play and stay curious. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs hope, and leave us a review, then tell us: what would it take for you to believe? Support the show [https://gofund.me/01c59071]

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Episode This Is What It Takes with special guest Daniel Ryan Cotler, Psychological Warfare In Intimate Relationships Cover

This Is What It Takes with special guest Daniel Ryan Cotler, Psychological Warfare In Intimate Relationships

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2071161/fan_mail/new] The most dangerous abuse is often the kind nobody can photograph. We talk with Daniel Ryan Cotler, author of *Voiceless No More* and founder of the Heal Loudly movement, about the reality survivors describe as narcissistic psychological warfare: coercive control, gaslighting, charm in public, cruelty in private, and the slow collapse of self-trust that makes you question your own reality. We also get precise about language. We’re tired of every bad partner being labelled a narcissist, because that buzzword culture makes the people living through true psychological abuse easier to dismiss. Daniel explains why a behaviour-based lens helps more than armchair diagnosing, and how early “love bombing” can function as indoctrination, information gathering, and a setup for trauma bonding. If you’ve ever wondered why leaving can feel impossible even when the relationship is clearly unsafe, this part connects the dots without shaming the survivor. From there, we go into what happens after the breakup. Post-separation abuse can play out through smear campaigns, police calls, restraining order threats, and drawn-out court battles where the calm abuser looks credible and the traumatised target looks unstable. Daniel shares why so many survivors feel erased by friends, family, first responders, and institutions, and why he’s pushing legislative ideas like the Voiceless Justice Act and the Frankie Initiative to bring accountability and recognition to psychological abuse patterns. If this conversation helps you put words to something you’ve been living through, share it with someone who needs that language. Subscribe, leave a review, and tell us what topic you want us to tackle next. Support the show [https://gofund.me/01c59071]

12. Juni 202657 min
Episode Amir Arison: The Kind of Human the World Needs More Of Cover

Amir Arison: The Kind of Human the World Needs More Of

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2071161/fan_mail/new] A kid who has endured more surgeries than most adults can fathom sits beside a mother who refuses to let trauma be the last word. Then our guest, an actor best known for his work on The Blacklist, steps in with a mix of warmth, honesty, and wildly curious detours that somehow land exactly where they need to: on resilience, meaning, and the small choices that keep you alive. We talk about Faith’s tattoos as a living record of survival, how adoption became a deliberate break from domestic violence, and why “choose your destiny” is not a slogan but a hard-earned practice. The conversation goes deep into domestic violence recovery, chronic medical complexity, caregiving, disability, and the unseen cost of always being the strong one. If you’ve ever felt like you’re running on fumes while still showing up for everyone else, you’ll hear yourself in this. Our guest shares what it really takes to build a long acting career, why landing a series regular role can feel like stacked miracles, and how leaving The Blacklist for a Broadway lead reshaped his view of purpose and success. We also explore the science of faith and meditation, the “faith muscle” in the brain, and the idea that luck can be created through preparation, mindset, and persistence. We end with a challenge that hits home: find one small, selfish-in-a-healthy-way pleasure that keeps your devotion sustainable. If this moved you, subscribe, share it with someone who needs a flicker of hope, and leave a review telling us what helped you survive your worst days. Support the show [https://gofund.me/01c59071]

11. Juni 20261 h 3 min
Episode Amir Arison Beyond The Blacklist: Why Faith's Poetry Touched His Heart Cover

Amir Arison Beyond The Blacklist: Why Faith's Poetry Touched His Heart

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2071161/fan_mail/new] A few lines of poetry can hit harder than a whole hour of advice, and that’s exactly how we choose to end this one. We wrap up by reading a poem from Faith Cure Solomon that puts a mother-daughter relationship into plain, vivid words: shared humour, shared pain, and a love that doesn’t disappear when life gets messy. If you’re drawn to spoken word, emotional storytelling, and real family bonds, this closing is built to stay with you.  Faith’s poem moves from warmth to truth without flinching. She talks about being “like my mother… to the core,” about the highs and lows, and about the kind of support that shows up day after day. The message isn’t perfect-family fantasy. It’s loyalty, resilience, and the quiet power of knowing someone is there “every step of the way.” Along the way, we reflect on what makes a bond strong: presence, admiration, and the decision to have each other’s backs when it counts.  We also take a moment to thank Amir for coming on and sharing time with us, because community is part of the story too. This is a short listen, but it’s packed with heart and it’s an easy share for anyone who loves their mum, misses their mum, or is still figuring out what family means. If it moves you, subscribe, share the episode with someone you ride for, and leave a review telling us the line that hit you most. Support the show [https://gofund.me/01c59071]

11. Juni 20262 min