62. What We Get Wrong About Joy

62. What We Get Wrong About Joy

We’re taught that the gospel brings joy. So what do we do when we’re doing all the things and the joy isn’t there? In this episode, we sit with the quiet equation a lot of us absorbed — if I were really living the gospel, I’d be happy, so if I’m not, I must be doing it wrong — and ask what it costs us. We talk about joy and sorrow as companions rather than enemies, the costumes we wear to church, and what it might mean to walk toward joy without faking it.

61. Obedience vs. Discipleship

Most of us were taught to keep the commandments. Not all of us were taught a true why we should keep them. In this episode, we explore the difference between obedience -doing what's asked- and discipleship, which is the slower, harder work of actually becoming someone different. We look honestly at what fear-based obedience costs us and what it might mean to move from compliance toward genuine transformation. This isn't a critique of obedience, it's an invitation to let it grow into something more.

60. If They Don’t Talk About It Anymore, Does It Matter?

In the year 2000, President Hinckley taught that one set of earrings was enough. Lessons got built around it. Girls took out their second pair. And then it quietly stopped being talked about. Nobody announced the teaching was retired. It just went silent. The Church usually doesn’t say "this is no longer binding." Which means it’s up to every member to decide what still counts—and often we don't agree with each other. In this episode, we look at what's left when the institution goes quiet on a question. The honest answer involves more personal responsibility than most of us were taught to expect.

59. Mother’s Day at Church: An Honest Conversation

Mother's Day at church is beautiful for some women, and really hard for others. This week we're having the honest conversation that doesn't always make it to the pulpit. We talk about the women who dread this Sunday, why LDS culture's love for motherhood can unintentionally leave people out, and what it would actually look like to honor every woman in the room. This one is for the women who have sat in sacrament meeting on Mother's Day and felt invisible, whatever the reason may be. We see you.

58. The Family Proclamation: What Do We Do With It?

The Family Proclamation is thirty years old, and the questions surrounding it have only gotten louder: Is it scripture? Is it policy? Is it a relic of the 1990s culture wars? We take an honest look at where this document came from, what it actually is, and—most importantly—what to do with the parts that don't feed us.