Why Don’t I Feel Loved? | Sonja Lyubomirsky

Why Don’t I Feel Loved? | Sonja Lyubomirsky

What if the issue isn’t whether people love you, but whether you actually feel it? In this episode, Sonja Lyubomirsky joins us to explore the gap between being loved and feeling loved, and why that disconnect happens. Drawing from her book How to Feel Loved, we talk about the psychology behind connection, challenge common myths like love languages, and dig into how curiosity, vulnerability, and better conversations can help you build more meaningful relationships. Topics [0:00] Intro and Speed Round with Sonja Lyubomirsky [11:08] Being Loved vs. Feeling Loved [14:14] Why Love Doesn’t Always “Land” [19:42] Deep Conversations vs. Small Talk [23:47] Vulnerability: The Key to Real Connection [32:01] What Are Love Mindsets? [37:24] Psychological Barriers to Feeling Loved [44:53] The #1 Happiness Tip  [50:51] Are Love Languages Real? [53:23] Music, Focus, and Flow [56:21] Grooving Session: Letting Love In ©2026 Behavioral Grooves Links Groove vs Grind Survey [https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/VMP532X?fbclid=IwY2xjawRYYUdleHRuA2FlbQIxMQBzcnRjBmFwcF9pZBAyMjIwMzkxNzg4MjAwODkyAAEe-_DZGxTTK2HG5gAv_DJDW9EBsrIAWcObNN2Bu_5EgDNS6W0kF3iMu3ovHdg_aem_PHtD2wi8UeB5mw4e8bQjqQ] About Sonja [https://sonjalyubomirsky.com/] How to Feel Loved by Sonja Lyubomirsky and Harry Reis [https://howtofeelloved.com/] Join us on Substack! [https://bgpodcast.substack.com/] Join the Behavioral Grooves community [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1025501742354651] Subscribe to Behavioral Grooves on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@behavioralgrooves] Support Behavioral Grooves [https://bgpodcast.substack.com/subscribe?utm_source=menu&simple=true&next=https%3A%2F%2Fbgpodcast.substack.com%2F] Musical Links Tina Turner - What’s Love Got To Do With It [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oGpFcHTxjZs] The Lumineers - Stubborn Love [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UJWk_KNbDHo&list=RDUJWk_KNbDHo&start_radio=1]

The Silent Killer in Your Workplace | Tom Rieger

Fear at work isn’t obvious, but it is powerful. In this episode, Tom Rieger explains how fear of loss drives silos, misalignment, and inefficiency, and why AI and remote work may be making things worse, instead of better. Topics [0:00] Introduction and Speed Round with Tom Rieger [8:43] The Impact of Fear on Organizations [16:26] Behavioral Economics and Organizational Fear [23:39] The Role of AI in Organizational Fear [31:25] The Challenge of Breaking Status Quo [37:50] Advice to Managers and Leaders [39:59] Desert Island Music [43:24] Grooving Session: Breaking Fear Down ©2026 Behavioral Grooves Links About Tom [https://www.nsiteam.com/team/rieger-t] Breaking the Fear Barrier by Tom Rieger [https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Breaking-the-Fear-Barrier/Tom-Rieger/9781595620545] Join us on Substack! [https://bgpodcast.substack.com/] Join the Behavioral Grooves community [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1025501742354651] Subscribe to Behavioral Grooves on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@behavioralgrooves] Support Behavioral Grooves [https://bgpodcast.substack.com/subscribe?utm_source=menu&simple=true&next=https%3A%2F%2Fbgpodcast.substack.com%2F] Music Links Andrés Segovia - Leyenda by Albeniz [https://youtu.be/lCeebWgjrrU?si=eg7H6R9xhKcsMgZ7] Boston - More Than a Feeling [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t4QK8RxCAwo&list=RDt4QK8RxCAwo&start_radio=1]

How to Influence Others (Ethically) | Brian Ahearn

Should influence be about getting to “yes”? With Brian Ahearn, we explore a more ethical approach where persuasion is a responsibility, humility drives leadership, and real impact comes from helping others make better decisions. Topics [0:00] Intro and Speed Round with Brian Ahearn [8:10] The Line Between Influence and Manipulation [12:25] Why Intent Matters in Persuasion [16:40] Aligning Influence with Personal Values [21:05] The Role of Humility in Leadership [25:30] Emotional Reactions and Decision-Making [30:15] Influencing Hearts vs Minds [35:40] Small Actions, Identity, and the Consistency Principle [42:41] Desert Island Music [50:31] Grooving Session: Helping People Decide Better ©2026 Behavioral Grooves Links About Brian [https://influencepeople.biz/meet-brian/] Influence People [https://influencepeople.biz/] Join us on Substack! [https://bgpodcast.substack.com/] Join the Behavioral Grooves community [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1025501742354651] Subscribe to Behavioral Grooves on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@behavioralgrooves] Support Behavioral Grooves [https://bgpodcast.substack.com/subscribe?utm_source=menu&simple=true&next=https%3A%2F%2Fbgpodcast.substack.com%2F] Music Links Johnny Cash - The Man Comes Around [https://youtu.be/-QWsZQGY-dM?si=HaVxuFnoM2Kdvrk0] Frank Sinatra - The Way You Look Tonight [https://youtu.be/YFham2Xu6nA?si=6851CyI8BzHEvnQ0]

Throwback Thursday: The Life-Changing Importance of Questions | Elizabeth Weingarten

What if the key to growth isn’t finding better answers, but asking better questions? In our April throwback episode, we revisit our conversation with Elizabeth Weingarten on her book How to Fall in Love with Questions, where we explore how embracing uncertainty can lead to greater self-awareness, resilience, and connection. Through practice and mindset shifts, Elizabeth tells us all the ways questions can lead to clarity and confidence. Elizabeth's book is available on paperback starting 4/15/26. If you're interested in learning more, grab your copy today!  ©2026 Behavioral Grooves Topics [0:00] Intro and Speed Round with Elizabeth Weingarten [11:04] The Power of Loving Questions [15:50] The Biological Need for Certainty [21:48] The Role of Patience in Asking Questions [39:18] Questions and the Role of Behavioral Science [47:57] Desert Island Music [50:38] Grooving Session: The Value of Sitting With Questions ©2025 Behavioral Grooves Links More About Elizabeth [https://www.elizabethweingarten.com/] Better Life Lab [https://www.newamerica.org/better-life-lab/] How to Fall in Love with Questions [https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/how-to-fall-in-love-with-questions-elizabeth-weingarten/1146052523?ean=9780063335158] Torch Leadership [https://torch.io/] Join the Behavioral Grooves community [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1025501742354651] Music Links Steely Dan - Do It Again [https://youtu.be/7SM_eJKVlzs?si=ZVfc06cLkachMyyD] Chapell Roan - Pink Pony Club [https://youtu.be/GR3Liudev18?si=MVGmADaLV7eiUuM5]

How to Design Work That People Love | Marcus Buckingham

Marcus Buckingham joins us to challenge the belief that success comes from doing what you’re good at. Using decades of research, he argues that what truly drives performance and fulfillment is something else entirely: love. In this episode, we explore why most workplace strategies miss the mark and how focusing on what gives you energy can reshape the way you think about work, and maybe even life. Topics [0:00] Introduction and Speed Round with Marcus Buckingham [11:17] The Science of Excellence [17:53] The Importance of Love in Business [22:04] Experiences → Behaviors → Outcomes [32:03] The Myth of Linear Improvement [40:25] The Five Feelings of Love [1:00:49] Red Threads and Experience Intelligence [1:08:18] The Role of AI in Designing Love [1:11:30] Why You Shouldn’t Go to a Coldplay Concert [1:18:43] Disney’s Approach to Experience Design [1:30:19] Grooving Session: The Power of Love in Work ©2026 Behavioral Grooves Links About Marcus [http://buckinghaminstitute.com/about] The Buckingham Institute [https://www.buckinghaminstitute.com/]  Design Love In by Marcus Buckingham [https://www.amazon.com/Design-Love-Unleash-Powerful-Business/dp/1647829917/ref=sr_1_2?adgrpid=191525235555&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.i_H8kFkdp8_OIK3WJY2DYb1RYp-OfIEe-tY7l3fT2aX7mSDd1i_b1lb65Og6kP1kx1LpOYvXAEF8jagAWD8sbhBqElgCavdYOLqsMHuU840hcARIoQKA82RrvhosZwqN7Fuo2KZGCf1v3Omef9W8AeFkntk4po1Fp3T90FAurpUg77rO-DcJ_k9ZsizU1mJuIFajWVFUaRQNEMnQ8B4m1y0VzAlgF_zqPlCH0VxHrxQ.BNOCI05PaE12GAeqnieiEfMEHRl3JTKMsuJNMIy5Oas&dib_tag=se&hvadid=790180450547&hvdev=c&hvexpln=0&hvlocphy=9198663&hvnetw=g&hvocijid=1215590296741322979--&hvqmt=e&hvrand=1215590296741322979&hvtargid=kwd-2466149193568&hydadcr=17261_13438627_1647607&keywords=design+love+in&mcid=dab9d3500cd736d8b71a5b7d068d07b4&qid=1775659901&sr=8-2] Join us on Substack! [https://bgpodcast.substack.com/] Join the Behavioral Grooves community [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1025501742354651] Subscribe to Behavioral Grooves on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@behavioralgrooves] Support Behavioral Grooves [https://bgpodcast.substack.com/subscribe?utm_source=menu&simple=true&next=https%3A%2F%2Fbgpodcast.substack.com%2F] Musical Links Coldplay - Fix You [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AEp08vVYreg&list=RDAEp08vVYreg&start_radio=1] Coldplay - Violet Hill (Live) [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hXFWiwU09aI&list=RDhXFWiwU09aI&start_radio=1]