Burning It All Down: Escaping a Narcissistic Mother, Healing CPTSD, and Finding Safety

Burning It All Down: Escaping a Narcissistic Mother, Healing CPTSD, and Finding Safety

Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2590296/fan_mail/new] Burning It All Down: Escaping a Narcissistic Mother, Healing CPTSD, and Finding Safety  What happens when the person who was supposed to protect you is the person who taught you that love, safety, and survival all come with conditions? In this powerful episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest, Noelani Pearl Hernandez sits down with actor, filmmaker, writer, and survivor advocate JinJara Mitchell to explore the lifelong impact of growing up with a narcissistic and emotionally unsafe mother, the reality of complex trauma, and what it means to rebuild a life after losing everything you thought defined you. JinJara shares her deeply personal journey of surviving childhood emotional abuse, neglect, family dysfunction, and the pressure to maintain the illusion of the "perfect family." Together, we unpack how children adapt to survive, how trauma shapes identity, and how healing often begins when we stop asking, "What was wrong with me?" and start asking, "What happened to me?" JinJara also discusses how her own experiences inspired her award-winning short film The Ornament and the work she now does helping others transform pain into purpose through storytelling and community. In This Episode We Discuss: * Growing up with a narcissistic and emotionally unsafe mother * The hidden reality behind the "perfect family" image * Childhood trauma, CPTSD, and survival adaptations * Trauma bonding and identifying with the abuser * Loss of identity, family, stability, and belonging * Leaving home and rebuilding life from the ground up * The long-term effects of emotional abuse and neglect * Therapy, healing, and nervous system recovery * Family estrangement and complicated grief * Learning what healthy love and safety actually feel like * Breaking generational cycles of trauma * The role of storytelling, art, and advocacy in healing * Creating The Ornament and turning trauma into purpose * Building community after surviving family abuse About JinJara Mitchell JinJara Mitchell is an actor, filmmaker, writer, and advocate whose work centers on healing, storytelling, and human resilience. Born in Palm Springs and raised between the United States and Canada, JinJara experienced profound childhood loss and family trauma that ultimately shaped both her personal healing journey and creative work. She has appeared in productions including Arrow, Zoey's Extraordinary Playlist, Life Sentence, and My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic. In 2023, she wrote and directed the award-winning short film The Ornament, a deeply personal exploration of children who are forced to protect the very people who harm them. JinJara is also the co-founder of The New Players, a creative community dedicated to connection, healing, and authentic storytelling. If This Episode Resonated With You If you grew up learning to become exactly who someone else needed you to be in order to survive, you're not alone. Children adapt. They perform. They protect. They wear masks. Healing begins when we realize that the version of ourselves that survived is not the only version of ourselves that gets to exist. Thank you for listening to Beyond Mommy Dearest. If this conversation touched you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs to know they are not alone. Connect with JinJara * The New Players [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-new-players-my-booking-story/id1853717267] * The Ornament [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hoL-vocNfXE] * JinJara Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/jinjara/?hl=en] Connect with Noelani | Beyond Mommy Dearest * https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/ [https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/] * https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest [https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest] * https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ [https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2590296/support]

Healing After Narcissistic Abuse: Rebuild Self-Trust, Heal Your Nervous System & Reclaim Yourself | Coach Denalee

Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2590296/fan_mail/new] Healing After Narcissistic Abuse: Rebuild Self-Trust, Heal Your Nervous System & Reclaim Yourself | Coach Denalee Healing from narcissistic abuse is about more than surviving—it's about rebuilding trust in yourself, calming your nervous system, and reclaiming the life that was always yours. In this episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest, Coach Denalee shares practical insights on healing holistically, setting healthy boundaries, rediscovering your identity, and finding safety after emotional abuse. What You'll Learn * How to rebuild self-trust after gaslighting * Why nervous system healing matters * The role of boundaries in recovery * Why healing isn't linear * The difference between healthy conflict and emotional abuse * How to reconnect with your authentic self * Why safe, healthy relationships support healing If you enjoyed this episode, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who may need this conversation. Healing is possible. You are not alone, and your story doesn't end with survival—it begins with reclaiming yourself. Connect with Noelani | Beyond Mommy Dearest * https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/ [https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/] * https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest [https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest] * https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ [https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/] Connect with Coach Denalee https://www.youtube.com/@EatMoreChocolateProductions [https://www.youtube.com/@EatMoreChocolateProductions] https://www.holisticnarcrecovery.com [https://www.holisticnarcrecovery.com] https://www.instagram.com/holistic.trauma.coach/ [https://www.instagram.com/holistic.trauma.coach/] https://www.skool.com/holistic-recovery-from-abuse-5475/about?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio [https://www.skool.com/holistic-recovery-from-abuse-5475/about?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2590296/support]

High-Conflict Divorce, Narcissism & Family Court: Fighting for Your Children

Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2590296/fan_mail/new] High-Conflict Divorce, Narcissism & Family Court: Fighting for Your Children Disclaimer This episode reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives shared during the conversation. It is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as legal advice, psychological diagnosis, medical advice, or professional guidance. Every family court case and family situation is unique. Listeners should consult qualified legal, mental health, medical, or other appropriate professionals regarding their individual circumstances and needs. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host or podcast What happens when a parent finds themselves trapped in a high-conflict custody battle and fighting to maintain a relationship with their children? In this episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest, educator, father, and family court advocate Nick Garcia shares his experience navigating family court, false allegations, high-conflict personalities, parental alienation, self-representation, and the emotional toll prolonged litigation can take on parents and children. Drawing from years of firsthand experience, this conversation explores the realities of navigating a system that many families never expect to enter and the challenges that arise when conflict becomes the focus instead of the well-being of the children involved. Topics discussed include: • High-conflict divorce and custody disputes • Narcissistic traits and other Cluster B personality patterns that can appear in family conflict • The impact of false allegations on parents and children • Why documentation and the permanent record matter • Self-representation (pro per) and what parents should know before navigating court alone • How family court language, procedures, and systems can overwhelm families • The emotional and financial costs of prolonged litigation • The importance of remaining child-focused during conflict • How children experience loyalty conflicts between parents • Why one emotionally safe parent can make a significant difference in a child's life • The role of supportive relationships during times of crisis • Turning pain into purpose and advocacy • Learning to become a lighthouse instead of a lifeboat for your children At its core, this episode explores the impact that high-conflict relationships and prolonged family court disputes can have on both parents and children. It examines the challenges families face when communication breaks down, conflict escalates, and the legal system becomes part of the family dynamic. A central theme throughout the conversation is the importance of being a safe, emotionally available parent. Children do not need perfection. They need consistency, stability, and at least one adult who can provide love, support, and a sense of security during difficult times. The discussion also explores resilience, healing, and the ways adversity can inspire advocacy and growth. Through personal experiences and lessons learned, this episode aims to help families feel less alone while encouraging conversations about protecting children, navigating conflict, and maintaining hope during difficult seasons of life. Whether you're navigating divorce, recovering from family trauma, supporting someone through a custody dispute, or seeking to better understand high-conflict family dynamics, this conversation offers insight, perspective, and encouragement. Key Takeaway "Love your children more than you hate your ex." Connect with Noelani | Beyond Mommy Dearest * https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/ [https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/] * https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest [https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest] * https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ [https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/] Connect with Nick * https://www.instagram.com/nativeandprose/ [https://www.instagram.com/nativeandprose/] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2590296/support]

How Narcissistic Abuse Rewires Your Nervous System: Self-Trust, Boundaries & Healing

Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2590296/fan_mail/new] In this powerful episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest, Noelani sits down with narcissistic abuse recovery coach Sami for an honest conversation about healing, self-trust, nervous system regulation, and breaking free from toxic relationship patterns. Sami shares her personal journey through multiple narcissistic relationships and explains how those experiences led her to become an advocate and coach for survivors. Together, Noelani and Sami explore the connection between childhood wounds, people-pleasing, emotional neglect, and the unconscious patterns that can keep survivors stuck in cycles of narcissistic abuse. The conversation dives deep into the physical signs of narcissistic abuse, including anxiety, insomnia, chronic headaches, hypervigilance, digestive issues, and the feeling that "something is off" even when everything appears fine on the surface. Noelani and Sami discuss: • Why survivors often struggle to trust themselves • How childhood experiences shape adult relationships • The difference between healthy boundaries and controlling behavior • Why people-pleasing develops as a survival strategy • How narcissists teach survivors to gaslight themselves • What self-trust actually feels like in the body • Common nervous system responses to emotional abuse • Why healthy relationships can initially feel "boring" • The importance of reconnecting with emotions and body awareness • The role of coaching versus therapy in recovery • How to recognize red flags before getting trapped in another toxic relationship • Why healing is not linear • Learning to choose yourself without guilt • The connection between abandonment wounds and toxic relationships • Why survivors deserve love exactly as they are right now One of the most powerful moments of the episode comes when Sami reminds listeners that they do not need to earn love through healing, perfection, or performance. They are worthy of love simply because they exist. If you've ever questioned your instincts, struggled with boundaries, or wondered why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable people, this episode offers practical insights and hope for recovery. Connect with Sami  Linktree iconFree resources & morelinktr.ee/samanthabachotacoaching [https://l.instagram.com/?u=https%3A%2F%2Flinktr.ee%2Fsamanthabachotacoaching%3Futm_source%3Dig%26utm_medium%3Dsocial%26utm_content%3Dlink_in_bio%26fbclid%3DPAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQPOTM2NjE5NzQzMzkyNDU5AAGnnuLempjyE9iCH8GFJOAtjHIotV-FgpSgZsVki2wp65Tqw5FiKPZCKH619RQ_aem_YWdncwDoX4qEgYtpX4ecGkAgNPm-%26brid%3DYWdncwH8tenyC577OzctxY0LaF2U&e=AUD3IZKSMbqPZ6qjSXyhJNeuRkqcVnnRIjiNoZAgyudBo4Uy441Q37YNr2oGIDA4KrLmpGIu2msDDw-dLFKPmY0m6nXK0_RX03yCzdDlEO_22PD1-Dsh9Q-t6iIdQkOkdWcUR3Znr0Dk8Y0r-PjzVI2O5Y0a] https://www.facebook.com/samibachota?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio [https://www.facebook.com/samibachota?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio] https://www.instagram.com/informed_healing/ [https://www.instagram.com/informed_healing/] Connect with Noelani | Beyond Mommy Dearest * https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/ [https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/] * https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest [https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest] * https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ [https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/] Resources Mentioned  • Feelings Wheel - https://canva.link/9volf8vn68ucp1g   Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2590296/support]

Safety, Self-Abandonment, and Healing After Narcissistic Parents with Christian Van Linda

Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2590296/fan_mail/new] In this powerful episode, Noelani sits down with trauma recovery advocate Chris to explore what it means to heal from narcissistic parenting and reclaim a sense of self. Chris shares his personal journey from addiction recovery to becoming one of the most recognized voices discussing narcissistic parents, childhood trauma, emotional neglect, and complex PTSD online. Together they discuss: • Why narcissistic parents teach children that danger is safety and safety is danger • How emotional neglect can be just as damaging as overt abuse • The concept of "mental injuries" versus "mental illness" • Why survivors often struggle with decision-making, people-pleasing, and self-trust • How childhood trauma shows up in adult relationships • The hidden ways narcissistic parents sabotage their children • Why healthy relationships can feel "boring" to trauma survivors • The importance of community, coaching, therapy, and support groups in recovery • Learning to say no and rebuild boundaries • Parenting differently after being raised by narcissistic parents • Breaking generational cycles of trauma • The challenge of aging narcissistic parents and navigating guilt, obligation, and no-contact decisions One of the most powerful takeaways from this conversation is that healing is not about fixing the relationship with the narcissist. Healing is about repairing your relationship with yourself. Whether you're just beginning your recovery journey or have been doing the work for years, this episode offers validation, insight, and hope. Connect with Chris: * https://www.instagram.com/hype.r.vigilance [https://www.instagram.com/hype.r.vigilance] Chris on Instagram * https://tinyurl.com/bddemu7bm [https://tinyurl.com/bddemu7bm] - Chris on Cameo *  https://bit.ly/4ahfgCz [https://bit.ly/4ahfgCz] Chris’ Lint.ree Connect with Noelani | Beyond Mommy Dearest * https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/ [https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/] * https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest [https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest] * https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ [https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/] If this episode resonates with you, please follow, rate, and share the podcast so more survivors can find this space. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2590296/support]