Caretaking vs. Caregiving, And Why the Difference Matters More Than You Think

Caretaking vs. Caregiving, And Why the Difference Matters More Than You Think

Are you caregiving, or caretaking? In this deeply personal episode of Brave Moves, Julie DeLucca-Collins explores the critical difference between the two, and why caretaking, not caregiving, is actually a hallmark of codependency rooted in insecurity and control. Julie breaks down how a caretaker often feels needed and quietly superior to the person they're helping, reassured that they won't be left because they're always needed, while caregiving is help freely given, an expression of love and kindness with no strings attached. She shares her own ongoing journey caring for her mother, and how she works to stay rooted in compassion rather than letting old insecurities and childhood wounds steer how she shows up. This episode also explores how caretaking can lead to burnout, resentment, and strained relationships, and why loving yourself first is the foundation for helping others from the right place. In this episode: The real difference between caretaking and caregiving * Why caretaking is rooted in codependency and control * How insecurity and old wounds can disguise themselves as devotion * Why compassion has to come first in caregiving * The caretaking trap: burnout, resentment, and bruised relationships * Why loving yourself first changes how you show up for others * This week's Brave Move + free Thought Leadership Assessment If you loved this episode, text me and let me know what you though. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/fan_mail/new] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/support] Join the Community [https://www.skool.com/confident-you-rawconversations-4533/about] Brave Moves is a daily confidence and personal growth podcast for ambitious women, women entrepreneurs, and leaders who are ready to overcome self-doubt, build resilience, and take bold action in business and life. Each short, practical episode blends mindset science, decision-making psychology, and real-life stories to help you strengthen your confidence, rewire negative thought patterns, and create meaningful forward momentum. If you are navigating career pivots, burnout, reinvention, or leadership growth, Brave Moves gives you the tools to think differently, act bravely, and design a future aligned with your values and vision. Because confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you build, one brave move at a time. Liked this episode? Share it with your midlife woman, entrepreneur friends! Love this show? Let us know how we helped you increase your confidence by leaving a review. For more about me and what I do, check out my website [https://goconfidentlycoaching.com/]. If you’re looking for support to grow your business faster, be positioned as an authority in your industry, and impact the masses, schedule a call [https://calendly.com/goconfidentlycoaching/coaching-call] to explore if you’d be a good fit for one of my coaching programs. Fo...

Should You Listen to That Advice? A Filter for Business and Career Feedback

Grow a business or level up your career, and the unsolicited advice starts pouring in — from family, acquaintances, and that one person at every networking event with an opinion about your pricing. In this episode of Brave Moves, Julie DeLucca-Collins gives you a practical filter for deciding what advice actually deserves your attention, and what deserves a polite thank-you and nothing more. Julie breaks down a four-part filter for evaluating unsolicited advice — has this person actually done the thing, is it specific to your situation or generic, is it a pattern across multiple credible sources, and does it come from someone who genuinely wants you to succeed. She also covers when it's healthy to let advice go entirely, and how to build real discernment instead of either absorbing every opinion or dismissing all feedback. This episode is a practical guide for entrepreneurs and career-driven women who are tired of outside noise shaping decisions that should be theirs to make. In this episode: * Why unsolicited advice feels like criticism, even when it isn't * A 4-part filter for deciding what advice to actually consider * When and how to let unsolicited advice go * The difference between discernment and defensiveness * Building trust in your own business and career decisions * This week's Brave Move + free Thought Leadership Assessment If you loved this episode, text me and let me know what you though. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/fan_mail/new] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/support] Join the Community [https://www.skool.com/confident-you-rawconversations-4533/about] Brave Moves is a daily confidence and personal growth podcast for ambitious women, women entrepreneurs, and leaders who are ready to overcome self-doubt, build resilience, and take bold action in business and life. Each short, practical episode blends mindset science, decision-making psychology, and real-life stories to help you strengthen your confidence, rewire negative thought patterns, and create meaningful forward momentum. If you are navigating career pivots, burnout, reinvention, or leadership growth, Brave Moves gives you the tools to think differently, act bravely, and design a future aligned with your values and vision. Because confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you build, one brave move at a time. Liked this episode? Share it with your midlife woman, entrepreneur friends! Love this show? Let us know how we helped you increase your confidence by leaving a review. For more about me and what I do, check out my website [https://goconfidentlycoaching.com/]. If you’re looking for support to grow your business faster, be positioned as an authority in your industry, and impact the masses, schedule a call [https://calendly.com/goconfidentlycoaching/coaching-call] to explore if you’d be a good fit for one of my coaching programs. Fo...

Disappointing Others, and Being Okay With It

Do you say yes when you want to say no, just to avoid disappointing someone? In this episode of Brave Moves, Julie DeLucca-Collins tackles one of the hardest skills for high-achieving women to build: being okay with disappointing other people. Julie walks through Don Miguel Ruiz's bestselling book The Four Agreements, applying each agreement — be impeccable with your word, don't take anything personally, don't make assumptions, and always do your best — directly to the fear of letting people down. She unpacks why someone else's disappointment is information about them, not a verdict on your worth, and why most people-pleasing is fueled by assumptions about reactions that haven't even happened yet. This episode offers a practical, values-based reframing for anyone who has conflated people-pleasing with integrity and wants to build the confidence to disappoint others without losing themselves in the process. In this episode: * Why saying yes to avoid disappointment breaks your word to yourself * The Four Agreements, applied to people-pleasing and self-worth * Why someone else's disappointment isn't about your value * How assumptions fuel pre-emptive people-pleasing * Redefining "doing your best" as the only standard that matters * This week's Brave Move + free Thought Leadership Assessment Get the Book: The Four Agreements [https://a.co/d/04KRCx5l] If you loved this episode, text me and let me know what you though. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/fan_mail/new] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/support] Join the Community [https://www.skool.com/confident-you-rawconversations-4533/about] Brave Moves is a daily confidence and personal growth podcast for ambitious women, women entrepreneurs, and leaders who are ready to overcome self-doubt, build resilience, and take bold action in business and life. Each short, practical episode blends mindset science, decision-making psychology, and real-life stories to help you strengthen your confidence, rewire negative thought patterns, and create meaningful forward momentum. If you are navigating career pivots, burnout, reinvention, or leadership growth, Brave Moves gives you the tools to think differently, act bravely, and design a future aligned with your values and vision. Because confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you build, one brave move at a time. Liked this episode? Share it with your midlife woman, entrepreneur friends! Love this show? Let us know how we helped you increase your confidence by leaving a review. For more about me and what I do, check out my website [https://goconfidentlycoaching.com/]. If you’re looking for support to grow your business faster, be positioned as an authority in your industry, and impact the masses, schedule a call [https://calendly.com/goconfidentlycoaching/coaching-call] to explore if you’d be a good fit for one of my coaching programs. Fo...

How to Stop Second-Guessing Every Decision You Make

Do you make a decision, then immediately start Googling alternatives, rereading reviews, or asking one more friend for reassurance? In this episode of Brave Moves, Julie DeLucca-Collins tackles second-guessing head-on — and makes the case that the fix isn't more research, it's more trust. Julie breaks down five practical, actionable strategies to stop the second-guessing cycle for good: the 10-10-10 Rule for gaining perspective on any decision, practicing fast low-stakes decisions to build your decisiveness muscle, a "no backtracking" rule for decisions already made, how to tell the difference between healthy reflection and anxious doubt, and how keeping a simple "win tracker" builds real, objective self-trust over time. This episode is a practical toolkit for anyone who wants to build decision confidence and stop losing opportunities to endless deliberation. In this episode: * Why more research doesn't fix second-guessing * The 10-10-10 Rule for decision-making * How to train your brain to decide quickly * The "no backtracking" rule * Reflection vs. anxious doubt — how to tell the difference * Why a win tracker builds real self-trust * This week's Brave Move + free Thought Leadership Assessment My final wallpaper choice [https://a.co/d/02zi1EqU] If you loved this episode, text me and let me know what you though. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/fan_mail/new] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/support] Join the Community [https://www.skool.com/confident-you-rawconversations-4533/about] Brave Moves is a daily confidence and personal growth podcast for ambitious women, women entrepreneurs, and leaders who are ready to overcome self-doubt, build resilience, and take bold action in business and life. Each short, practical episode blends mindset science, decision-making psychology, and real-life stories to help you strengthen your confidence, rewire negative thought patterns, and create meaningful forward momentum. If you are navigating career pivots, burnout, reinvention, or leadership growth, Brave Moves gives you the tools to think differently, act bravely, and design a future aligned with your values and vision. Because confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you build, one brave move at a time. Liked this episode? Share it with your midlife woman, entrepreneur friends! Love this show? Let us know how we helped you increase your confidence by leaving a review. For more about me and what I do, check out my website [https://goconfidentlycoaching.com/]. If you’re looking for support to grow your business faster, be positioned as an authority in your industry, and impact the masses, schedule a call [https://calendly.com/goconfidentlycoaching/coaching-call] to explore if you’d be a good fit for one of my coaching programs. Fo...

Be-Good vs. Get-Better: What Succeed by Heidi Grant Halvorson Teaches About Goals

Are you setting goals to prove you're good enough — or to actually get better? In this episode of Brave Moves, Julie DeLucca-Collins breaks down a key distinction from Heidi Grant Halvorson's book Succeed: How We Can Reach Our Goals: the difference between "be-good" goals and "get-better" goals, and why that one choice quietly determines whether you give up the moment things get hard. Julie unpacks Halvorson's research on goal setting and motivation, showing how proving-yourself goals collapse under pressure while growth-focused goals hold steady — and connects this to Carol Dweck's research on fixed versus growth mindset. This episode offers a practical, research-backed reframing for anyone stuck chasing external validation rather than real progress. In this episode: * The difference between be-good goals and get-better goals * What happens to each mindset when obstacles show up * Why proving-yourself goals are exhausting and unstable * The link to Carol Dweck's fixed vs. growth mindset research * How to set specific, achievable goals that actually motivate you * This week's Brave Move + free Thought Leadership Assessment Get the book: SUCCEED: HOW WE CAN REACH OUR GOALS [https://a.co/d/0dkrIOAk] If you loved this episode, text me and let me know what you though. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/fan_mail/new] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/support] Join the Community [https://www.skool.com/confident-you-rawconversations-4533/about] Brave Moves is a daily confidence and personal growth podcast for ambitious women, women entrepreneurs, and leaders who are ready to overcome self-doubt, build resilience, and take bold action in business and life. Each short, practical episode blends mindset science, decision-making psychology, and real-life stories to help you strengthen your confidence, rewire negative thought patterns, and create meaningful forward momentum. If you are navigating career pivots, burnout, reinvention, or leadership growth, Brave Moves gives you the tools to think differently, act bravely, and design a future aligned with your values and vision. Because confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you build, one brave move at a time. Liked this episode? Share it with your midlife woman, entrepreneur friends! Love this show? Let us know how we helped you increase your confidence by leaving a review. For more about me and what I do, check out my website [https://goconfidentlycoaching.com/]. If you’re looking for support to grow your business faster, be positioned as an authority in your industry, and impact the masses, schedule a call [https://calendly.com/goconfidentlycoaching/coaching-call] to explore if you’d be a good fit for one of my coaching programs. Fo...