45. The Red Flags We Ignore (And Why We Ignore Them)

45. The Red Flags We Ignore (And Why We Ignore Them)

Are you missing red flags in dating, or are you explaining them away? In this episode of Collectively Unhinged: Therapy Talk, we explore the dating red flags people often ignore, rationalize, or mistake for chemistry. We discuss the difference between a true red flag and a normal human flaw, why attraction can cloud judgment, and the warning signs therapists believe deserve more attention. We also dive into accountability, inconsistency, love bombing, boundary pushing, emotional maturity, and the green flags that often get overlooked because they don't create the same intensity. If you've ever looked back on a relationship and thought, "The signs were there all along," this episode is for you. In this episode, we discuss: * Dating red flags that actually matter * Why people ignore warning signs * Love bombing and inconsistency * Chemistry vs compatibility * Green flags people overlook * Red flags to watch for in yourself while dating 🎙️ Hosted by therapists from Strong Mind Mental Health. — 📱 FOLLOW US ON SOCIAL: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠linktr.ee/strongmindmh⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [linktr.ee/strongmindmh] — 🌐 VISIT OUR WEBSITE:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠strongmindmh.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [strongmindmh.com⁠⁠] — 🎵 INTRO MUSIC: “Good Night” by FASSounds — DISCLAIMER: The information provided on this podcast, Collectively Unhinged: Therapy Talk, is for educational and informational purposes only and should not be construed as therapy or a substitute for advice from a qualified professional who is aware of the facts and circumstances of your individual situation. Listening to this podcast does not establish a therapist-client relationship between you and the hosts or Strong Mind Mental Health, LLC. If you want to read more, check out our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Media Disclaimer⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://cdn.prod.website-files.com/64e1733c3759ac224cbbe5ea/685a0f75978bdd197972435d_SMMH-Disclaimer%20Podcast%20Blog%20Social%20Media%20Content.pdf].

44. The Traits That Make You an Incredible Partner... and Sometimes Put You at Risk

What if the very qualities that make you an incredible partner are also the ones putting you at risk? In this episode of Collectively Unhinged: Therapy Talk, we explore how some of the most admired relationship traits, including empathy, loyalty, forgiveness, commitment, and resilience, can sometimes become vulnerabilities when they aren't balanced with healthy boundaries. We discuss why good people often give too many chances, stay in relationships longer than they should, and find themselves carrying emotional responsibilities that were never theirs to begin with. We unpack the difference between supporting someone and rescuing them, compassion and self-abandonment, loyalty and self-sacrifice, and why some of the strongest people struggle the most with walking away. If you've ever found yourself over-explaining someone else's behavior, believing that if you just tried harder things would get better, or feeling guilty for putting yourself first, this episode is for you. Because the goal isn't to become less loving, less trusting, or less compassionate. The goal is to learn how to protect those gifts without losing yourself in the process. Because being a good partner should never require sacrificing yourself to keep a relationship alive. ❤️ 🎙️ Hosted by therapists from Strong Mind Mental Health. — 📱 FOLLOW US ON SOCIAL: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠linktr.ee/strongmindmh⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [linktr.ee/strongmindmh] — 🌐 VISIT OUR WEBSITE:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠strongmindmh.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [strongmindmh.com⁠⁠] — 🎵 INTRO MUSIC: “Good Night” by FASSounds — DISCLAIMER: The information provided on this podcast, Collectively Unhinged: Therapy Talk, is for educational and informational purposes only and should not be construed as therapy or a substitute for advice from a qualified professional who is aware of the facts and circumstances of your individual situation. Listening to this podcast does not establish a therapist-client relationship between you and the hosts or Strong Mind Mental Health, LLC. If you want to read more, check out our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Media Disclaimer⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://cdn.prod.website-files.com/64e1733c3759ac224cbbe5ea/685a0f75978bdd197972435d_SMMH-Disclaimer%20Podcast%20Blog%20Social%20Media%20Content.pdf].

43. A Little Unhinged: Health Goals, Anxiety, Parenting & The Hundred Tabs Open In Our Minds

In this episode of Collectively Unhinged: Therapy Talk, we're ditching the outline and having a real conversation about what's been living rent-free in our minds lately. From health and fitness goals to parenting struggles, chronic anxiety, self-care, work responsibilities, and the challenge of finding balance in everyday life, we're talking about the things many people think about but don't always say out loud. Think of this episode as a glimpse into the very real conversations therapists have when we're not actively being therapists. Because sometimes life feels like a hundred tabs open in your brain at the same time, and honestly... that's pretty relatable. If you've ever wondered how to balance your own needs while managing work, family, relationships, and everything else life throws at you, pull up a chair and join the conversation. 🎙️ Hosted by therapists from Strong Mind Mental Health. — 📱 FOLLOW US ON SOCIAL: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠linktr.ee/strongmindmh⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [linktr.ee/strongmindmh] — 🌐 VISIT OUR WEBSITE:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠strongmindmh.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [strongmindmh.com⁠⁠] — 🎵 INTRO MUSIC: “Good Night” by FASSounds — DISCLAIMER: The information provided on this podcast, Collectively Unhinged: Therapy Talk, is for educational and informational purposes only and should not be construed as therapy or a substitute for advice from a qualified professional who is aware of the facts and circumstances of your individual situation. Listening to this podcast does not establish a therapist-client relationship between you and the hosts or Strong Mind Mental Health, LLC. If you want to read more, check out our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Media Disclaimer⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://cdn.prod.website-files.com/64e1733c3759ac224cbbe5ea/685a0f75978bdd197972435d_SMMH-Disclaimer%20Podcast%20Blog%20Social%20Media%20Content.pdf].

42. Why Does Even Basic Self-Care Feel Exhausting Sometimes?

In this episode of Collectively Unhinged: Therapy Talk, we explore why so many people feel overwhelmed trying to keep up with everyday life — especially when even taking care of yourself starts to feel like another task on an endless to-do list. We break down the mental load of modern life, including work responsibilities, parenting, relationships, kids’ activities, schedules, meals, health goals, movement, hygiene, emotional regulation, and the constant pressure to “optimize” yourself. We also discuss how burnout, nervous system overload, invisible labor, and productivity culture can make basic self-care feel emotionally draining instead of supportive. If you’ve ever felt like your brain never fully shuts off, struggled to keep up with everything you’re “supposed” to do, or wondered why rest doesn’t even feel restful anymore, this episode is for you. In this episode, we cover: * Mental load and invisible labor * Why self-care can start feeling like another chore * Burnout and nervous system overwhelm * Parenting exhaustion and schedule overload * Productivity culture and self-optimization * Why people feel constantly behind and emotionally exhausted 🎙️ Hosted by therapists from Strong Mind Mental Health. — 📱 FOLLOW US ON SOCIAL: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠linktr.ee/strongmindmh⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [linktr.ee/strongmindmh] — 🌐 VISIT OUR WEBSITE:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠strongmindmh.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [strongmindmh.com⁠⁠] — 🎵 INTRO MUSIC: “Good Night” by FASSounds — DISCLAIMER: The information provided on this podcast, Collectively Unhinged: Therapy Talk, is for educational and informational purposes only and should not be construed as therapy or a substitute for advice from a qualified professional who is aware of the facts and circumstances of your individual situation. Listening to this podcast does not establish a therapist-client relationship between you and the hosts or Strong Mind Mental Health, LLC. If you want to read more, check out our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Media Disclaimer⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://cdn.prod.website-files.com/64e1733c3759ac224cbbe5ea/685a0f75978bdd197972435d_SMMH-Disclaimer%20Podcast%20Blog%20Social%20Media%20Content.pdf].

41. Stop Defending, Start Repairing: Phrases That Actually Work in Conflict

Trying to “get out of trouble” with your partner? You might be making things worse. In this episode of Collectively Unhinged: Therapy Talk, we unpack why most people say the wrong things during conflict—and how those responses actually escalate arguments instead of resolving them. We talk about the difference between defending yourself and repairing the relationship, and share specific phrases that can help you de-escalate tension, build emotional safety, and reconnect with your partner. If you tend to explain, justify, or shut down during arguments, this episode will challenge how you communicate—and give you tools that actually work. 🎙️ Hosted by therapists from Strong Mind Mental Health. — 📱 FOLLOW US ON SOCIAL: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠linktr.ee/strongmindmh⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [linktr.ee/strongmindmh] — 🌐 VISIT OUR WEBSITE:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠strongmindmh.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [strongmindmh.com⁠⁠] — 🎵 INTRO MUSIC: “Good Night” by FASSounds — DISCLAIMER: The information provided on this podcast, Collectively Unhinged: Therapy Talk, is for educational and informational purposes only and should not be construed as therapy or a substitute for advice from a qualified professional who is aware of the facts and circumstances of your individual situation. Listening to this podcast does not establish a therapist-client relationship between you and the hosts or Strong Mind Mental Health, LLC. If you want to read more, check out our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Media Disclaimer⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://cdn.prod.website-files.com/64e1733c3759ac224cbbe5ea/685a0f75978bdd197972435d_SMMH-Disclaimer%20Podcast%20Blog%20Social%20Media%20Content.pdf].