Getting Back Into a Body You Have Been at War With

FINAL EPISODE (of the Season)

Content warning: This episode discusses depression, suicidal thoughts, and intrusive thoughts. Please listen when you're in a steady place, and protect your peace if today isn't the day. Sarai is open about having intrusive thoughts but is clear that she is not suicidal and has no plan....the difference between the two is a central part of this episode. This is the rawest episode Sarai has ever recorded, and the last one before Combative Calm takes a summer break. There's no tidy framework here and no "five tools to fix it." It's just Sarai, mask all the way off, telling the truth about what it actually looks like to live with treatment-resistant depression while running a business and showing up for everyone else. She talks about doing deep TMS last fall — driving back and forth between her father's hospice care and her treatment, and losing her dad in the middle of it — and how, months later, the depression has quietly crept back in. She gets honest about the parts most people never say out loud: the weeks where executive function disappears and answering a single text feels impossible, the freeze and the twelve-hour sleeps, and the intrusive thoughts that hit twenty to fifty times a day telling her she shouldn't be here — followed twenty minutes later by laughing with her husband or firing off business ideas. She names the difference between an intrusive thought and a plan, because so many people stay silent out of fear, and that silence is the dangerous part. She talks about masking so well that her own psychiatrist and business manager had no idea she was struggling, what that costs her marriage, and why ketamine therapy is the next thing she's choosing to try — without pretending she knows whether it'll work. The whole point of this one is permission. Permission to be in it and still be functioning. Permission to let your intrusive thoughts be symptoms instead of verdicts. And permission — for Sarai and for you — to rest going into the summer instead of pushing through. What you walk away with: The reminder that you can be deep in depression and still be functioning, and that surviving counts. And the truth that intrusive thoughts are a symptom of a struggling brain — not facts, not a plan, and not who you are. You are not broken, and you are not alone in this. If this one found you where you live, send it to one woman who's masking so hard you'd never guess. That's how the silence breaks — one woman handing it to another. Free Mental Health Resources All resources below were verified against official sources in May 2026. Every one is free. In the U.S. 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline — Call or text 988, or chat at 988lifeline.org. Free, confidential, 24/7, for anyone in suicidal, mental health, or substance-use crisis. When you call, you can press 1 for the Veterans Crisis Line, 2 for the Spanish line, 3 for the LGBTQI+ Youth line, and 4 for the Native and Strong Lifeline. Services in English, Spanish, and 240+ languages, plus ASL support at 988lifeline.org. Crisis Text Line — Text HOME to 741741. Free, 24/7 support by text with a trained crisis counselor. Good if talking on the phone feels like too much. SAMHSA National Helpline — 1-800-662-HELP (4357). Free, confidential, 24/7, 365 days a year, in English and Spanish. This is the one for referrals — it connects you to local treatment, support groups, and community resources for mental health and/or substance use. (Not a crisis line — use 988 for crisis.) NAMI HelpLine — Call 800-950-6264, or text "NAMI" to 62640, Monday–Friday, 10 a.m.–10 p.m. ET. Free information, resources, and support for navigating mental health — including for family members and caregivers. (Also not a crisis line — for an active crisis, use 988.) Outside the U.S. / Worldwide Find A Helpline — findahelpline.com. A free, verified directory of crisis and emotional-support helplines in over 130 countries. Pick your country and it shows you the free, confirmed options near you — call, text, or chat. Befrienders Worldwide — befrienders.org. An international network of 90+ emotional-support and suicide-prevention centers around the globe. Use their members directory to find your nearest local center. International Association for Suicide Prevention (IASP) — iasp.info/crisis-centres-helplines. A worldwide list of crisis centers and helplines by country and region. If you're anywhere in the world and you're in immediate danger, please contact your local emergency number right away. See you in the fall. Go enjoy your fucking summer!

Coming Home: A Guided Meditation for the Body You Have Been at War With

This episode contains a gentle discussion of body image and eating disorders. If you are currently struggling, please reach out to the National Alliance for Eating Disorders at 1-866-662-1235. This guided meditation does not ask you to love your body. It does not ask you to feel any particular way about what you find when you get in there. It just asks you to show up. To place your hands on the places you have struggled with the most and say something true to them. Not performed. Not forced. Just honest. Sarai built this meditation around one simple reframe. What if you treated your body the way you treat someone you love deeply? Not when things are easier. Not when it looks different. Right now. As it is. Exactly as it is. You will place your hands on your belly, your heart, your thighs, and your arms. You will breathe. And if words come, you will let them. And if they do not, just being there is the whole practice. Come back to this one often. Your body has been waiting for you to come home to it.

Getting Back Into a Body You Have Been at War With

This episode contains discussion of body image, body dysmorphia, eating disorders, sexual assault, and addiction. Please take care of yourself as you listen. If you are currently struggling with an eating disorder, please reach out to the National Alliance for Eating Disorders at 1-866-662-1235.  Sarai gets completely honest in this one. About being sexually assaulted and what that did to her relationship with her body. About using an eating disorder and addiction to numb out and disconnect. About going to treatment and lying in restorative yoga and feeling the weight of her back on a bolster for the first time and thinking what the actual fuck. This is what it feels like to be in my body. She also gets into what happened last year. Getting sick for a month with no answers. Losing her father in November. And fighting every day to not go back down the spiral she knows so well. This episode also goes deep on the science. What the default mode network actually is and what brain imaging research shows about how it functions differently in people with eating disorders. What interoceptive awareness is and why it gets disrupted. And why understanding the neuroscience of this is not about fixing it. It is about stopping the self-blame long enough to get the right help. The somatic tools in this episode are not a treatment for an eating disorder. They are what Sarai reaches for when the pulling starts. Small moments of contact with a body you have been running from. Nothing more and nothing less than that.

Your Body Is Not the Fcking Problem

This episode contains discussion of body image, body dysmorphia, and eating disorders. If you are currently struggling, please reach out to the National Alliance for Eating Disorders at 1-866-662-1235. https://www.allianceforeatingdisorders.com/ [https://www.allianceforeatingdisorders.com/] Sarai has had an eating disorder for three and a half decades. She has been to treatment. She is still doing the work. And she is done pretending that what the culture is currently doing to women's bodies is anything other than what it actually is. This episode is about where we are right now. The thin ideal making its comeback. The way social media and GLP ones have collided into something that is being sold as wellness and is anything but. And what is actually happening in your brain when you absorb that messaging every single day without the tools to push back against it. We also get into why your therapist's suggestion to write positive body affirmations made you want to cry. And what to do instead when love feels too far away to reach, but you still need somewhere to start. You will walk away understanding the neuroscience behind why your inner critic runs the loops it runs, why positive affirmations do not work when your relationship with your body is that broken, and what body-neutral affirmations actually are and how to use them. This is not a body positivity episode. This is an honest one.

Nobody Tells You Perimenopause Can Make You Want to Drive Off a Bridge

This is the most vulnerable episode Sarai has ever recorded. And she almost did not hit record. In this episode, she gets completely honest about what perimenopause did to her mental health before she even knew what was happening. The intrusive thoughts that showed up quietly and stayed for six months. The trip to Barcelona, where she finally screamed her truth in a hotel room and got shut down for it. The panic attacks she had this week, not a year ago, this week, as a nervous system coach who teaches this stuff for a living. She also gets into the science. What actually happens to estrogen, progesterone, testosterone, and your GABA system during perimenopause, why almost a third of women develop panic attacks they have never had before, why women are two to five times more likely to develop a mood disorder during this transition, and why most of them are being handed antidepressants without anyone checking their hormones first. This episode is for the woman who thinks she is losing her mind. The one who cannot explain what is happening in her body. The one who has been suffering quietly because she does not have the language for it yet. Here it is. If you are experiencing thoughts of suicide or self-harm, please call or text 988. If you're ready to do the work with a community of women & a blueprint to get you the fuck out of dysregulation, check out Capacity Club https://saraispeer.com/capacity-club [https://saraispeer.com/capacity-club]