Ep. 93 Fight or Flight: What Performed Confidence Is Actually Costing You

Ep. 93 Fight or Flight: What Performed Confidence Is Actually Costing You

She had two choices in that meeting, and she chose the one that let her carry it all the way home. Pop off, or shrink. That's the trap most high-functioning women have been living in for years, and it has nothing to do with confidence. It has everything to do with a nervous system that learned somewhere along the way that taking up space isn't safe. If you've ever sat in a room knowing you were the most qualified person in it and still said nothing, this episode is for you. This week, Dr. Tanya breaks down the real difference between performed confidence and regulated confidence, why your credentials have never been the problem, and leads a live somatic practice to help you locate where performed confidence lives in your body. In this episode: * The two responses your nervous system reaches for when your competence feels threatened * Why the most regulated person in the room is always the most powerful one * A guided body-based practice to start noticing your own pattern * This week's Mindset Medicine prescription Mentioned in this episode: The 3-Minute Nervous System Check-In at drtanyab.com Ready to stop managing how you appear and start actually feeling settled? Explore the Emotional ER Intensive → drtanyab.com/er Join the paid Substack for the weekly practice that goes deeper than the podcast → www.substack.com/@drtanyaberfield

Ep. 92 What Imposter Syndrome Actually Feels Like in Your Body (And How to Stop Letting It Run Your Life) with Jennifer Dragonette

If you have ever pulled back right when something wasworking, gotten sick the moment you pushed through your comfort zone, or told yourself you needed one more credential before you were ready, this episode is for you. Dr. Tanya Berfield sits down with Jennifer Dragonette,podcast authority architect and visibility strategist, for a conversation that goes places most imposter syndrome content never reaches. Not the mindset version. The body version. The throat that tightens. The sickness that shows upon cue. The retreat that looks responsible but is actually fear wearing a very convincing disguise. Jennifer has built a career helping women get visible andshe is one of the most honest voices in the room about how hard that is when your nervous system is still running a very old program. In this episode she and Dr. Tanya unpack where imposter syndrome actually lives in the body, why high-achieving women are wired to pull back right before the breakthrough, and what it actually takes to interrupt the pattern. They also pull an oracle card live. It lands exactly whereyou would expect it to. If you are a high-functioning woman who knows what she issupposed to do next and keeps finding reasons not to do it, press play. Connect with Jen: https://jenniferdragonette.com/home Jen's Substack: https://substack.com/@jenniferdragonette Tanya's Free Mind & Body Scan: www.DrTanyaB.com/reset Tanya's Substack: https://substack.com/@drtanyaberfield

Ep. 91 What Imposter Syndrome Actually Feels Like in the Body

You have been doing the work. Reading the books. Saying the affirmations. And you still feel it in your gut when you walk into certain rooms. That is because imposter syndrome is not living in your thoughts. It is living in your body. In this episode, Dr. Tanya Berfield opens June's Mindset Medicine series on imposter syndrome by naming what nobody else is saying, this is not a confidence problem, it is a disconnection problem. And if it is lodged somewhere, it can be moved. This episode covers: * The difference between the clinical diagnosis and the feeling most of us are actually carrying * Where imposter syndrome lives in the body and why affirmations alone will never move it * The nervous system tab you have been running without realizing it * A live EFT tapping sequence to begin releasing the story at the body level This is the Acknowledge phase of Mindset Medicine. We are not fixing anything today. We are just stopping pretending it is not there. Links mentioned: Emotional ER Intensive — one session, body-level work, your prescription: drtanyab.com/er Paid Substack — weekly somatic practices and deeper work between episodes, $11/month: substack.com/@drtanyaberfield Next episode: Jennifer Dragonette joins Dr. Tanya Berfield for a conversation on imposter syndrome — where it actually comes from, what it looks like when it runs the show, and what changes when you finally stop fighting yourself.

Ep. 90 Burnout, Creativity, and the Breath That Brings You Back with Rubina of Inner Design

What if the opposite of burnout is not rest, it isaliveness? In this episode, Dr. Tanya Berfield sits down with Rubina, founder of Inner Design, to talk about the quiet kind of burnout that creeps in when you are achieving everything and feeling nothing. They explore how creativity, not as talent or output, but as a regulating tool, can restore vitality andreconnect you to joy. They also dig into breath awareness, the difference between coping and regulation, and why you cannot mindset your way out of a body that believes it is under threat. If you have been checking every box and still feel disconnected from yourself, this one is for you. Find Rubina and her free five-minute nervous system reset attheinnerdesign.com. Ready to stop performing fine? The Emotional ER is open.Book your session before May 30 and save $50. Link: drtanyab.com/er Subscribe on Substack for weekly letters, somatic practices,and your personal prescription: substack.com/@drtanyaberfield

Ep. 89 The Story She Told Herself | Colleen Clifford on Shame, Sobriety, and Starting Over

Colleen Clifford spent 36 years working as a commercial fisherwoman, living at sea near Russia, Japan, and Alaska, and for most of that time she was also running from a story she told herself at 19 that she believed was a death sentence. In this episode, Colleen and I talk about the shame spiral that started with an STI diagnosis and a doctor who made it worse, the binge drinking that followed, losing her husband to alcohol related suicide, and the moment five years ago that finally scared her sober for good. We also talk about what happens when you spend decades hiding the very thing that turns out to be your superpower, and why telling the truth out loud, even on a podcast you are not sure you will share, is sometimes exactly where healing begins. Colleen's book drops July 28 and her Bali retreat is filling now. Find her and follow her journey at https://lifebeyondthebinge.com/ If this conversation is stirring something in you, that is not an accident. Come find me at substack.com/@drtanyaberfield for the deeper work between episodes.  And if you are ready to go all the way in, the Emotional ER Intensive is open now at drtanyab.com/er. Special May pricing ends at the end of the month.