Ep 24 Why Am I Procrastinating? How Do I Stop Procrastinating?

Ep 24 Why Am I Procrastinating? How Do I Stop Procrastinating?

So why do you procrastinate? Is it because you're lazy? Or lack discipline? Because you're just bad with money, or scared of being seen, or not cut out for this whole business owner thing? No no no no no and no! None of that is true. I know because, for years I called myself a Procrastination Coach. Client after client came to me stuck. Not taking the actions that would move their business forward. And they couldn't explain why. I helped them find the reason and then get unstuck so they could reach their goals. What I found was that your subconscious mind, which has been mostly in charge since you were tiny, has been working hard to keep you safe, loved, and alive according to what you learned in the past. When you try to take an action now that threatens that old version of “safety,” even if it's an action you consciously want, your subconscious steps in and stops you. Until you change it. In this episode, I break down how procrastination can show up in each of the three areas I work with business owners on: Mindset, Visibility, and Profitability. I walk you through real examples, like the client who could speak to a room of 500 people but choked up the moment she tried to make an offer. Listen to the episode for more blocks that might be stopping you and how to surface them. Happy Tapping! —Nancy P.S. The short version: If you’ve been wondering why you just keep procrastinating, listen to this week’s episode of EFT Breakthroughs. TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 What Makes Nancy Linnerooth An Expert On Women Business Owners And Procrastination? 2:59 Avoiding Specific Actions - Avoiding Hiring, Public Speaking, Looking At Numbers 9:52 Procrastinating Because of Fear Of Failure Or Success 18:26 How Do I Stop Procrastinating? By Uncovering And Releasing Subconscious Beliefs IN THIS EPISODE: Q: Why am I procrastinating? A: You procrastinate because your subconscious is trying to protect you. You’ve internalized rules and beliefs and fears as you grew up to keep you safe, keep you loved and protected, and, at the most basic level, keep you alive. Your subconscious knows they work because you are alive now! So, when you try to take action to change your business or your life, you trigger one of those subconscious blocks that stops you. Q: How does procrastination show up? A: There are two main ways procrastination shows up: avoiding a specific action, or avoiding taking any action at all on a bigger project. Q: Why am I avoiding a specific action? A: If you have no trouble doing all the other things that you need to for your business but procrastinate on one specific action, your subconscious mind has an internalized fear that something bad will happen if you do that one thing. Q: Why am I procrastinating in general? A: Again, this is your subconscious mind saying that, to stay safe, loved and okay, you can’t move forward on that big project you’ve been wanting to do, up to and including starting a business. Q: How do I figure out what is causing me to procrastinate? A: The best way to figure out what is causing you to procrastinate here is to think about what would happen after you’ve taken the actions. That will give you clues as to what beliefs and fears you have internalized. Failing or succeeding could challenge your identity—how you see yourself subconsciously. You may have fears around how others will react if you succeed. You may have internalized rules on how much success you are allowed. Or you may have concerns about outgrowing someone, or even being disloyal to someone if you succeed. Q: Am I procrastinating because I’m lazy? Or because I’m not disciplined? Or because I lack willpower? A: No, you’re not lazy or undisciplined, and you don’t lack willpower. You’re just getting stopped by outdated programming in your subconscious you’re not even aware of. Q: Am I Procrastinating because I’m a bad business person? A: Not at all. You just internalized ways to act and be when you were younger. They no longer fit who you are now, so they are getting in the way of being the better business person you’re capable of being. Q: Am I Procrastinating because I’m stupid? A; No No No! Actually, procrastination is a brilliant way for your subconscious to keep you safe. If you don’t take that action, nothing will change. You’ll keep living the way you live now, and, since you’re alive now, that’s how to stay safe. (No matter how uncomfortable being stuck feels to you consciously.) Q: How do I stop procrastinating?! A: You have to get rid of your blocks—those outdated rules and fears and beliefs in your subconscious keeping you stuck. Update your mindset to what is true for you NOW. The best way I know of to do that is to use EFT on those blocks to release them. New to EFT? Here’s the short version. EFT, often called Tapping, is a simple but powerful technique that uses gentle tapping on specific acupressure points to calm your nervous system and create rapid shifts in the brain. (Yes, the science backs this up: cortisol levels drop, the amygdala downregulates, and you feel safer.) People around the world use EFT for everything from emotional healing and chronic pain to confidence, performance, and big goals. Here on EFT Breakthroughs we use Tapping a little differently. We go after the rules, beliefs, and fears running quietly in your subconscious—so taking action feels easier, cleaner, and faster. Start here: Get my free Procrastination Breakthrough Kit to learn the basics of Tapping and lower your resistance to action: https://unblockresults.com/get-nancys-procrastination-breakthrough-kit/ Don’t miss an episode: Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLX_S-75lHx8XxsR5tgnk3elfQTtrITFw2 Listen weekly on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/eft-breakthroughs/id1874039628 Let’s stay connected: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eftbreakthroughs/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/UnblockResults/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/unblock-results/ Website: http://unblockresults.com

Ep 23 Too Good To Be True? Tapping On Imposter Syndrome And A Money Ceiling Block (Caitlin 9 - Finale)

- Part 9 of a 9 part episode arc featuring podcast guest Caitlin Doemner. Caitlin, a woman entrepreneur with extraordinary energy and talent, was being held back by her own self doubts. Sound like anyone you know? Listen to the story of how she overcame her own subconscious mental blocks to go from an all-time personal low to ramping-up a better-than-she-could-imagine entrepreneurial business...in only 3 months! - When I first started working with Caitlin, she was in a really tough place. She'd built businesses before. Successful ones. But the savings were gone, and she felt stuck doing work she didn't love just to keep the lights on. She was down. And she wasn't sure things could change. Three months and eight tapping sessions later, they did. This week's episode of EFT Breakthroughs is the final chapter of Caitlin's story. And it's a good one (if I do say so myself). Over the course of our work together, we uncovered and released some deeply held subconscious beliefs that were quietly running the show: • "Life can't be magical for me." • "I can't pay bills with my art." • "No one will pay me to play." • "No one is going to take care of me." • "It has to be perfect." • "If I have money coming in easily, I won't be motivated." • "I don't get to have what I want." At the time, it may have looked like we were jumping around from block to block, topic to topic. But looking back, every single one of those beliefs had to go for Caitlin to have the life and business she has now. What does she have now? She's doing work that feels like play and getting paid for it. Money is coming in easily, and she's more motivated than ever. Friends are showing up to support her. She has what she wants. It feels magical. In this episode, you'll hear Caitlin describe everything that's opened up for her. And because I can't help myself, we do a little more tapping to help her settle into her new business and the large amounts of money flowing her way. If you've been following Caitlin's transformation journey, you don't want to miss this one. If this is your first time, know that each episode stands on its own, so you can start with this episode. Let’s Tap! —Nancy TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 Overview - The Finale Of Caitlin's Arc! 02:00 Update - Things Are Better Than She Could Imagine (After Only 3 Months) 09:54 Can Caitlin Raise Her Money Ceiling - Can She Make $150,000 Per Day? 16:06 Tapping On - Who Am I To Think I Can Be The World's Best Experience Designer 28:53 Tapping On - I Am Already The World's Best Experience Designer 31:30 Results - No More Money Ceiling, No More Imposter Syndrome; Looking Ahead IN THIS EPISODE: Q: What Is Imposter Syndrome? A: Imposter Syndrome is a feeling someone has that they aren't capable of doing something in spite of evidence to the contrary. It is a type of mental block that affects many people at one time or another, especially women entrepreneurs, and can prevent them from reaching their potential. Q: What Can Tapping Do To Stop Imposter Syndrome? A: In this episode we watch Nancy help Caitlin uncover her belief that she isn't able to do the experience design work she is already doing, and release her block, by tapping on her doubt and on the truth of what she is capable of. Q: What Is A Money Ceiling And Why Is It A Problem? A: A money ceiling is a belief, often formed in childhood or at an earlier stage in one's work life, that one isn't capable of earning (or keeping) more than a certain amount of money. Of course, there is no such rule in life (witness tha broad range of incomes, net worths, and reasons for the same). Even so many people, including women entrepreneurs, subconsciously hold such a belief, which inhibits their ability to earn what they could earn, especially when it comes time to set a price for their business offerings. Q: How Can Tapping Be Used To Raise A Money Ceiling? A: In this episode Nancy helps Caitlin identify the source of her money ceiling, namely her imposter syndrome (her belief that she isn't really capable of doing what she does for her clients). Then they eliminate her feelings of being an imposter and raise her money ceiling by tapping on her beliefs and the truth of what she is capable of. About Caitlin Caitlin Cogan Doemner is a founding partner of the Institute of Energetics, whose mission is to make energetic healing safe, credible and accessible to all. Previously, as CEO of VirtualCoachingSales.com, Caitlin built and led sales teams for renowned figures like Ali Brown and Deepak Chopra. With an impressive academic background from Oxford University and an MBA from Biola University, Caitlin's sales management company generated over $11M in new revenue within its first 8 years. She has published multiple books, including "The Unseen Sales Machine" and "Sell with Heart.” She spent 3 years exploring the world with her three children, taking them to all seven continents, and she is now completing her PhD in somatic psychology with an upcoming book called, “The Ecstatic Way,” which seeks to end emotional suffering. Find out more about Caitlin's work at Instituteofenergetics.org or reach out to her at Caitlin@virtualcoachingsales.com. New to EFT? Here’s the short version. EFT, often called Tapping, is a simple but powerful technique that uses gentle tapping on specific acupressure points to calm your nervous system and create rapid shifts in the brain. (Yes, the science backs this up: cortisol levels drop, the amygdala downregulates, and you feel safer.) People around the world use EFT for everything from emotional healing and chronic pain to confidence, performance, and big goals. Here on EFT Breakthroughs we use Tapping a little differently. We go after the rules, beliefs, and fears running quietly in your subconscious—so taking action feels easier, cleaner, and faster. Start here: Get my free Procrastination Breakthrough Kit to learn the basics of Tapping and lower your resistance to action: https://unblockresults.com/get-nancys-procrastination-breakthrough-kit/ Don’t miss an episode: Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLX_S-75lHx8XxsR5tgnk3elfQTtrITFw2 Listen weekly on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/eft-breakthroughs/id1874039628 Let’s stay connected: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eftbreakthroughs/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/UnblockResults/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/unblock-results/ Website: http://unblockresults.com

Ep 22 How Does A Poor Money Mindset Get Started -And How To Fix It (Caitlin 8)

Eight episodes in, and Caitlin's story just keeps getting better. When I first introduced you to her, she had filed for bankruptcy. Today, she says she's living the entrepreneur's dream. (I love that so much.) This week's episode is all about money. Specifically, two beliefs that were keeping Caitlin from holding onto it. Before I get into those, I'm sharing something I call the Daily Financial Miracle. No tapping required. Just a simple daily practice to call in money. (It’s like a fun game!) Then Caitlin and I go deep. The first block we uncovered isn't one I’ve heard before. She was afraid that if she held onto money, she'd become like her mother, who hoarded it out of fear, always bracing for disaster and limiting what was possible. That fear had roots. When Caitlin was twelve, her mother would restrict how much money she had access to. It kept her from doing the things she wanted to do. And her subconscious filed away that saving money means shrinking your life. So every time Caitlin started to build up any reserves, something in her pushed the money away. Not because she was bad with money. Because some part of her was trying to protect her. Then we found a second fear underneath the first: that if money came in easily without her having to work for it, she'd lose her drive. That her life would go flat. That she'd stop growing. We tapped on all of it. And what Caitlin discovered is that she doesn't actually need money drama to live a full, adventurous life. She just thought she did. That's the thing about subconscious beliefs. They're not the truth. They're just the story we told ourselves in the past. And stories can change. Watch Episode 8 here → link Let’s Tap! —Nancy P.S. If Caitlin's story is stirring something in you, that's worth paying attention to. Start by tapping along with this episode. About Caitlin Caitlin Cogan Doemner is a founding partner of the Institute of Energetics, whose mission is to make energetic healing safe, credible and accessible to all. Previously, as CEO of VirtualCoachingSales.com, Caitlin built and led sales teams for renowned figures like Ali Brown and Deepak Chopra. With an impressive academic background from Oxford University and an MBA from Biola University, Caitlin's sales management company generated over $11M in new revenue within its first 8 years. She has published multiple books, including "The Unseen Sales Machine" and "Sell with Heart.” She spent 3 years exploring the world with her three children, taking them to all seven continents, and she is now completing her PhD in somatic psychology with an upcoming book called, “The Ecstatic Way,” which seeks to end emotional suffering. Find out more about Caitlin's work at Instituteofenergetics.org or reach out to her at Caitlin@virtualcoachingsales.com. IN THIS EPISODE: Q: What is a money mindset? A: A money mindset is one way of putting a label on the beliefs, rules, and fears we have about money, including those we have internalized and are not even consciously aware of. Our money mindset affects our ability to make money, use money, and keep money. Q: How does a poor money mindset start? A: Money mindsets are frequently created during childhood when we observe how our parents use money, talk about it and what it means to them, and deliver rewards, punishments, hopes, and fears to their children surrounding money and its meaning. It can also be affected later in life by going through an experience which affects your financial situation, like a divorce. Q: How can a money mindset be changed? A: Quite often learning, logic and/or even new experiences aren’t enough to change a money mindset. Business owners may need to use a solution like Tapping to uncover and change their money mindset. TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Overview 02:00 Caitlin Gives Us Her Update After 8 Sessions With Nancy 06:24 Hunting For Remaining Potential Blocks 12:03 Tapping On - If I Hold On To Money I'll Hoard It Like Mom 15:10 Calling Up Caitlin's 12-year-old Self - Money Used To Punish 25:48 Checking For Progress - Another Block Removed New to EFT? Here’s the short version. EFT, often called Tapping, is a simple but powerful technique that uses gentle tapping on specific acupressure points to calm your nervous system and create rapid shifts in the brain. (Yes, the science backs this up: cortisol levels drop, the amygdala downregulates, and you feel safer.) People around the world use EFT for everything from emotional healing and chronic pain to confidence, performance, and big goals. Here on EFT Breakthroughs we use Tapping a little differently. We go after the rules, beliefs, and fears running quietly in your subconscious—so taking action feels easier, cleaner, and faster. Start here: Get my free Procrastination Breakthrough Kit to learn the basics of Tapping and lower your resistance to action: https://unblockresults.com/get-nancys-procrastination-breakthrough-kit/ Don’t miss an episode: Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLX_S-75lHx8XxsR5tgnk3elfQTtrITFw2 Listen weekly on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/eft-breakthroughs/id1874039628 Let’s stay connected: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eftbreakthroughs/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/UnblockResults/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/unblock-results/ Website: http://unblockresults.com

Ep 21 This Belief Stops Women From Getting What They Want

I knew we'd hit something real when Caitlin stopped mid-session to show me her shoes. Orange and pink. Bright and bold. The kind you'd pick if you actually believed you got to have what you wanted. Which is exactly what we'd been working on. This is episode 7 of Caitlin's journey — a series I've been sharing with you that follows one woman's path from bankruptcy to living the entrepreneur's dream. (You don't need the earlier episodes to follow this one. It stands completely on its own.) The block we uncovered this week was "I don't get to have what I want." It’s a subconscious rule that stops many women business owners cold. They don’t pursue the right opportunities. They don’t raise their rates. They don’t delegate so they can have time for themselves. And they don’t realize they don’t do those things because of this block. When we followed Caitlin's version of this rule back, it took us to two places. First, to an 8-year-old girl watching her mom choose steaks over the tennis shoes she'd been hoping for. A small moment to an adult, maybe, but one that can really impact a child. Then further back. To age 4, where we found a little girl who had already stopped asking altogether because she was too afraid to be disappointed. We went back and gave both of those girls what they needed. And it was fun! More importantly, it worked. The belief that she doesn’t get to have what she wants lost it’s power over Caitlin. Be sure to tap along with this episode if you've ever caught yourself shrinking a desire before it even had a chance. Let’s Tap! —Nancy P.S. The shoe moment is one of my favorite things that has ever happened in a session. Don't miss it. About Caitlin Caitlin Cogan Doemner is a founding partner of the Institute of Energetics, whose mission is to make energetic healing safe, credible and accessible to all. Previously, as CEO of VirtualCoachingSales.com, Caitlin built and led sales teams for renowned figures like Ali Brown and Deepak Chopra. With an impressive academic background from Oxford University and an MBA from Biola University, Caitlin's sales management company generated over $11M in new revenue within its first 8 years. She has published multiple books, including "The Unseen Sales Machine" and "Sell with Heart.” She spent 3 years exploring the world with her three children, taking them to all seven continents, and she is now completing her PhD in somatic psychology with an upcoming book called, “The Ecstatic Way,” which seeks to end emotional suffering. Find out more about Caitlin's work at Instituteofenergetics.org or reach out to her at Caitlin@virtualcoachingsales.com. IN THIS EPISODE: Q: Why can't I get my business where I want it to go? A: One of the obstacles many women face in their business is an internalized belief that, no matter what they do, they can't get what they want. Q: Where does this feeling come from? A: For many people this feeling started in childhood or early in their career and remains to this day. Q: What can I do to change this? A: A powerful way to change deeply held beliefs that are holding you back is using Tapping (EFT) as Nancy demonstrates on this podcast. TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction and Update From Caitlin 04:20 Re-Rating Blocks Not Addressed Yet 07:21 Tapping On - I Don't Get To Have What I Want 12:00 Calling Up Caitlin's 8-year-old Self - Wanting To Feel Worthy 15:35 Caitlin Shows Us Her Shoes! 20:57 Calling Up Caitlin's 4-year-old Self - Seeking Connection 31:11 Results New to EFT? Here’s the short version. EFT, often called Tapping, is a simple but powerful technique that uses gentle tapping on specific acupressure points to calm your nervous system and create rapid shifts in the brain. (Yes, the science backs this up: cortisol levels drop, the amygdala downregulates, and you feel safer.) People around the world use EFT for everything from emotional healing and chronic pain to confidence, performance, and big goals. Here on EFT Breakthroughs we use Tapping a little differently. We go after the rules, beliefs, and fears running quietly in your subconscious—so taking action feels easier, cleaner, and faster. Start here: Get my free Procrastination Breakthrough Kit to learn the basics of Tapping and lower your resistance to action: https://unblockresults.com/get-nancys-procrastination-breakthrough-kit/ Don’t miss an episode: Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLX_S-75lHx8XxsR5tgnk3elfQTtrITFw2 Listen weekly on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/eft-breakthroughs/id1874039628 Let’s stay connected: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eftbreakthroughs/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/UnblockResults/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/unblock-results/ Website: http://unblockresults.com

Ep 20 Why Do We Tap On The Negative?

"If I tap on something negative, won't I tap that negativity IN?" That’s one of the most common questions I hear from people who are new to EFT. This week's solo episode is my answer. The short version: no. The longer version is why tapping on the negative isn't just okay, it's actually where you need to start. We're all told to think positive, speak positive, be positive. And I don't entirely disagree. Research does show that optimists are more likely to succeed, and the words you speak to yourself matter. A lot. But becoming an optimist doesn't happen just by repeating positive affirmations. Not when there's already a negative belief internalized in your subconscious that conflicts with what you're trying to say. So how do you get your subconscious to lower its guard? You find and acknowledge the negative message while tapping. That’s the way to get your logic and reason and wisdom to reach your subconscious and release old rules and beliefs. Only then will you have space in your subconscious for those positive affirmations to actually take root. In this week's episode I explain why this works. and why starting with the negative isn't a detour. It's the path. Enjoy the show —Nancy TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 Overview: Why We Tap On Negativity 02:00 Why Your Past And Your Subconscious Undermine Your Mindset 04:00 Why Your Affirmations Fail When They Trigger Negative Subconscious Messages 06:00 How Tapping Allows Positive Affirmations To Take Root New to EFT? Here’s the short version. EFT, often called Tapping, is a simple but powerful technique that uses gentle tapping on specific acupressure points to calm your nervous system and create rapid shifts in the brain. (Yes, the science backs this up: cortisol levels drop, the amygdala downregulates, and you feel safer.) People around the world use EFT for everything from emotional healing and chronic pain to confidence, performance, and big goals. Here on EFT Breakthroughs we use Tapping a little differently. We go after the rules, beliefs, and fears running quietly in your subconscious—so taking action feels easier, cleaner, and faster. Start here: Get my free Procrastination Breakthrough Kit to learn the basics of Tapping and lower your resistance to action: https://unblockresults.com/get-nancys-procrastination-breakthrough-kit/ Don’t miss an episode: Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLX_S-75lHx8XxsR5tgnk3elfQTtrITFw2 Listen weekly on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/eft-breakthroughs/id1874039628 Let’s stay connected: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eftbreakthroughs/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/UnblockResults/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/unblock-results/ Website: http://unblockresults.com