Ep. 245: Coming Out at 52, Mean Gays, and Why I'm Done Reading Comments

Ep. 245: Coming Out at 52, Mean Gays, and Why I'm Done Reading Comments

Episode Notes: * David's coming-out episode remains one of the most talked-about on the show — and it's still changing lives. David came out to his family at 52 and hasn't looked back. * Sherry, one of Andrew's lifelong friends from Long Island, calls herself "the queen of gays" and is fully here for David living his truth. So is Kim. The whole crew showed up for him. * David is now dating someone with deep roots in Boston's gay social scene, which has opened up a whole new world for him — but it also highlighted something real: when you come out later in life, you missed decades of gay bar culture, queer friendships, and community, and navigating that for the first time at 52 is its own experience. * Zach's Club Cafe history is legendary. The $250 Uber ride home after one particularly chaotic night — including a very unfortunate moment on Route 90 West — is a tale for the ages. * The throuple breakup outside the bar, and the guy's absolute audacity to seek comfort from Zach minutes after being cold to him inside, is a masterclass in what not to do. * Zach's podcast advisor gave him a note this week: stop reading comments. Stop clapping back in public. The show is growing, people are recognizing him, and one clip out of context can become a whole thing. Zach is working on it. * He will, however, always step in when someone posts something harmful about a guest from a marginalized community. That line doesn't move. * Provincetown update: Crown & Anchor has been sold and redone. Governor Bradford's situation is still evolving. Lots of change happening in P-Town. Zach is going in August for a short stay and is now actually excited about it. * If you've never been to Provincetown and you're part of the LGBTQ+ community — go. Budget accordingly. Tea dance alone is worth it The Gay Bit drops every Friday on Everything & Anything…and a Bit Gay. New guest episode Sunday. Podcast song by SIXFOOT 5: https://www.sixfoot5prod.com [https://www.sixfoot5prod.com]  Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977  [https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977 ] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ [https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Ep. 244: Sex Therapist Dr. Lee Phillips on Open Relationships, Comedy & Gay Dating

Dr. Lee Phillips has built a wildly unique career sitting at the intersection of clinical expertise and comedy. With a doctorate in psychology, a master's in social work, and a growing social media following fueled by his razor-sharp takes on gay dating and public confrontations, Dr. Lee is a voice the LGBTQ+ community didn't know it needed — until now. In this episode, Zach and Dr. Lee cover: * How Dr. Lee went from a kid in Chesapeake, Virginia dreaming of Broadway to becoming a licensed sex therapist and viral comedian in New York City * What ethical non-monogamy (ENM) actually means — and the very real jealousy that can hit even a therapist when his husband downloads Scruff first * Why some couples thrive in open relationships while others absolutely do not — and the red flags to watch for * The "intimacy desire paradox" and the sweatpants phase: what happens to desire in long-term relationships and how couples can reclaim their erotic connection * Why Somerville, Massachusetts is apparently the polyamory capital of the United States (Zach has receipts) * The viral coffee shop reel that got 1.3 million views, caught the attention of A-list celebrities, and launched Dr. Lee's comedy career * Boston gays vs. New York gays vs. DC gays — an honest, hilarious breakdown * What it felt like to be recognized in a restaurant and a gym locker room for cursing someone out on camera * Two books in the works: an academic text on sex, disability, and chronic illness — and Queering Desire, a comedy-infused guide to queer sex, dating, and relationships * The comedians Dr. Lee admires most (Matteo Lane and Jessie Kersen get major shoutouts) * Salmon sperm microneedling, skincare obsessions, and why Dr. Lee's husband is now going through their face soap "like crazy" Whether you're in a monogamous relationship, an open one, or somewhere in between, this conversation will make you laugh, think, and probably text your partner something interesting. Follow Dr. Lee Phillips: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drleephillips/ [https://www.instagram.com/drleephillips/] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drleephillips5 [https://www.tiktok.com/@drleephillips5] Greenwich Village Comedy Club Pride Show: June 24 — https://www.greenwichvillagecomedyclub.com/ [https://www.greenwichvillagecomedyclub.com/] Podcast song by SIXFOOT 5: https://www.sixfoot5prod.com [https://www.sixfoot5prod.com]  Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977  [https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977 ] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ [https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Ep. 243: She's Been Talking to Spirits Since Birth | Psychic Medium Doreen Mary Bray

Doreen Mary Bray is a psychic medium, herbalist, therapist, mystical guide, and spirit communicator who has been in contact with the spirit world since birth — literally since the moment she was delivered. In this episode, Doreen shares stories spanning decades of work: freeing earthbound spirits, performing exorcisms, healing through herbs, and teaching thousands of students to access deeper states of consciousness. She explains the fundamental difference between a soul (embodied), a spirit (bodiless), and a ghost (earthbound, unresolved), and walks through the 10-day process she believes the soul experiences after death — including how even those who committed great harm eventually move through a form of penance and release. Doreen recounts one of her most memorable experiences: dematerializing mid-meditation class, traveling to another time and place, inhabiting the body of a Jewish man teaching spiritual wisdom in Hebrew (a language she doesn't speak), and reappearing in her chair 20 minutes later — while her students searched the building for her. We also get into herbal healing, the karmic reasons we reincarnate, the soul groups we return to life after life, the 250,000+ inhabited planets she believes exist, and her core message: get out of your head and into your body. That's where truth lives. To work with Doreen — whether for healing, spirit communication, or her online and in-person classes — visit https://www.doreenmarybray.com/ [https://www.doreenmarybray.com/] Podcast song by SIXFOOT 5: https://www.sixfoot5prod.com [https://www.sixfoot5prod.com]  Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977  [https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977 ] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ [https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Ep. 242: This Is Everything: Who I Am and What This Show Is About

Episode: This Is Everything — Queer People Contain Multitudes Welcome to the first installment of This Is Everything — Zach's new weekly segment on Everything & Anything…and a Bit Gay that goes a little deeper, a little wider, and a lot more personal than the Friday A Bit Gay episodes. This week, Zach opens with a thesis he's been carrying for a long time: queer people contain multitudes. Not groundbreaking on the surface — but Zach argues the world hasn't actually caught up to it yet. We are not a demographic. We are not a checkbox on a marketing brief. And every June when brands slap a rainbow on their logo and then quietly walk it back by July, it's a reminder of exactly that. In this episode, Zach talks about: * The difference between A Bit Gay (campy, fun, Fridays) and This Is Everything (this new, deeper weekly segment) * Why queer people think about identity more than almost anyone else — and why that depth is a gift, not a burden * His own coming out story and what it meant to come out at 20, when so many kids today are out in junior high * The corporate Pride rollback — brands pulling merchandise and rainbow logos after political pressure * What Everything & Anything…and a Bit Gay actually is: not a news show, not a comedy show, not a gossip show — but a genuine, sometimes profound, sometimes ridiculous conversation about being alive right now, through a queer lens * Spirituality without religion: how so many queer people had their faith broken by institutions that told them God didn't love them, and why that journey of finding your own sacred is worth talking about * Consciousness, simulation theory, past lives, and what happens after we die — topics coming soon to the show * Pop culture (yes, the Housewives), trans rights, and the stories that shape how the world sees us * A direct message to new listeners: straight, queer, questioning, or just someone who loves a real conversation — you are welcome here Zach's promise: He'll always be honest, always be curious, and always show up as the real version of himself — not the polished, brand-managed one. Podcast song by SIXFOOT 5: https://www.sixfoot5prod.com [https://www.sixfoot5prod.com]  Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977  [https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977 ] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ [https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Ep. 241: Trapped Emotions Are Making You Sick — Dr. Bradley Nelson on the Emotion Code

Dr. Bradley Nelson — chiropractor, author, and founder of Discover Healing — joins Zach to reveal how trapped emotions silently sabotage our health, relationships, and ability to love. From crushing chest pain that vanished in seconds to a woman who found her childhood sweetheart living around the corner for eight years, Dr. Nelson shares remarkable stories that will completely change the way you think about your body. In this episode: * What the Emotion Code is and how it works * Why 93% of people have a "heart wall" — and don't know it * How a 9-year-old's clinical depression was resolved in 30 minutes * The science of cellular memory and heart transplant recipients who inherit their donor's cravings, memories, and even helped solve a murder * Why Einstein and Tesla's ideas about energy, frequency, and vibration are the future of medicine * Inherited trapped emotions — and how trauma passes down 20+ generations * The three books that teach you to do this work yourself Resources: * Dr. Bradley Nelson's website + free Heart Wall session: drbradleynelson.com [https://drbradleynelson.com/] * Find a certified practitioner worldwide: discoverhealing.com [https://discoverhealing.com/] * Books: The Emotion Code, The Heart Code, The Body Code — available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Audible  https://www.amazon.com/stores/Dr.-Bradley-Nelson/author/B0FNYPNSY9?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_1&qid=1781137653&sr=8-1&shoppingPortalEnabled=true&ccs_id=deaccce2-7c3d-4f0d-93bb-907e3e2ff00c [https://www.amazon.com/stores/Dr.-Bradley-Nelson/author/B0FNYPNSY9?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_1&qid=1781137653&sr=8-1&shoppingPortalEnabled=true&ccs_id=deaccce2-7c3d-4f0d-93bb-907e3e2ff00c] * The Body Code app — available on the App Store and Google Play https://apps.apple.com/us/app/the-body-code-system/id1495849195 [https://apps.apple.com/us/app/the-body-code-system/id1495849195] Everything & Anything…and a Bit Gay is hosted by Zach Randles-Friedman. New episodes weekly. Follow, subscribe, and leave a review wherever you listen. Podcast song by SIXFOOT 5: https://www.sixfoot5prod.com [https://www.sixfoot5prod.com]  Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977  [https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977 ] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ [https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.