EP 39: The 4-Burner Theory: Protect Your Peace by Turning Down the Heat

EP 39: The 4-Burner Theory: Protect Your Peace by Turning Down the Heat

Are you trying to keep every area of your life on high all at once? In this episode, Lori introduces the Four Burner Theory as a simple illustration for understanding why so many moms feel overwhelmed. You'll learn how this concept works alongside the Healthy Boundaries for Moms pillars—boundaries, organization, relationships, and time management—and why lowering your stress often begins with renegotiating your expectations, not your values. If you've been feeling like you're constantly behind, this episode will encourage you to let go of perfection, embrace the season you're in, and choose sustainable faithfulness over unrealistic expectations. 1. Which area of my life truly needs to be on "high" during this season? 2. What expectation can I simplify without compromising my values? 3. What expectation am I carrying that God never asked me to carry? RELATED EPISODES EP 35: When Loving Others Means Losing Yourself EP 36: The Midweek Reset: Enter Into Rest With These 3 Steps EP 37: The Hidden Cost of Being Available EP 38: The Midweek Reset: Want Less Stress This Week? RESOURCES & LINKS   Become a Healthy Boundaries for Moms Insider 🙌 Join the weekly newsletter for encouragement, practical strategies, boundaries support, organization tips, and Midweek Resets. Sign up for our Newsletter at: https://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com/connect [https://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com/connect] Join the Facebook Community: https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl [https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl] CONNECT WITH ME Website: www.healthyboundariesformoms.com [http://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com] Instagram: @healthyboundariesformoms TikTok: @healthyboundariesformoms Facebook Group: Healthy Boundaries for Moms👉 https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl Email: hello@healthyboundariesformoms.com PODCAST CREDITS Podcast: Healthy Boundaries for Moms with Lori Grimes Edited by William Grimes Music by JonasBlakewood from Pixabay

EP 38: The Midweek Reset: Want Less Stress This Week?

Feeling like you have to have everything figured out before you move forward? This Midweek Reset is a reminder that you don't need the perfect routine or the perfect plan—you simply need to take the next right step. Lori shares a personal example from her own week of adjusting her workout expectations and focusing on what was possible instead of what was perfect. You'll be encouraged to let go of the pressure to do everything and instead ask one simple question: What's the next right step? If you've been feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or discouraged, this short reset will help you refocus on faithfulness over perfection. QUESTIONS * What's non-negotiable for me today? * What's the next right step I can take instead of waiting for the perfect plan? * Where am I letting perfection keep me from being faithful? RELATED EPISODES EP 30: The Midweek Reset: Healthy Boundaries Are More Yes Than No EP 31: Why Boundaries Are the Missing Piece of Organization EP 35: When Loving Others Means Losing Yourself EP 37: The Hidden Cost of Being Available RESOURCES & LINKS   Become a Healthy Boundaries for Moms Insider 🙌 Join the weekly newsletter for encouragement, practical strategies, boundaries support, organization tips, and Midweek Resets. Sign up for our Newsletter at: https://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com/connect [https://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com/connect] Join the Facebook Community: https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl [https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl] CONNECT WITH ME Website: www.healthyboundariesformoms.com [http://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com] Instagram: @healthyboundariesformoms TikTok: @healthyboundariesformoms Facebook Group: Healthy Boundaries for Moms👉 https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl Email: hello@healthyboundariesformoms.com PODCAST CREDITS Podcast: Healthy Boundaries for Moms with Lori Grimes Edited by William Grimes Music by JonasBlakewood from Pixabay

EP 37: The Hidden Cost of Being Available

Have you ever reached the end of the day feeling exhausted, wondering where your time went, only to realize you've spent most of it responding to everyone else's needs? In this episode, Lori shares a personal lesson from her own summer. After realizing that her gym routine, park walks, bedtime, and daily rhythms were all being dictated by everyone else's schedule, she discovered that she didn't need more motivation—she needed to renegotiate her commitments for this season. You'll learn why vagueness can become a form of people-pleasing, why getting your commitments out of your head and onto paper brings clarity, and how three simple decisions can help you create healthy boundaries while still enjoying the flexibility of summer. This episode will encourage you to stop living by default and start living with intentionality. QUESTIONS * Where have I become too available at the expense of my own priorities? * Which commitments need to be kept, released, or renegotiated for this season? * What are my non-negotiables that help me stay healthy, grounded, and connected to God? RELATED EPISODES EP: 29: Healthy Boundaries 101: What They Are and What They Are Not EP 30: The Midweek Reset: Healthy Boundaries Are More Yes Than No EP 31: Why Boundaries Are the Missing Piece of Organization EP 35: When Loving Others Means Losing Yourself RESOURCES & LINKS   Become a Healthy Boundaries for Moms Insider 🙌 Join the weekly newsletter for encouragement, practical strategies, boundaries support, organization tips, and Midweek Resets. Sign up for our Newsletter at: https://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com/connect [https://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com/connect] Join the Facebook Community: https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl [https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl] CONNECT WITH ME Website: www.healthyboundariesformoms.com [http://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com] Instagram: @healthyboundariesformoms TikTok: @healthyboundariesformoms Facebook Group: Healthy Boundaries for Moms👉 https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl Email: hello@healthyboundariesformoms.com PODCAST CREDITS Podcast: Healthy Boundaries for Moms with Lori Grimes Edited by William Grimes Music by JonasBlakewood from Pixabay

EP 36: The Midweek Reset: Enter Into Rest With These 3 Steps

Last week we talked about how easy it is to lose ourselves by carrying responsibilities God never asked us to carry. But what happens after we recognize those unhealthy patterns? In this Midweek Reset, Lori explores how years of people-pleasing, over-functioning, and trying to manage everyone else's emotions can leave us living in "survival mode." She shares practical ways to begin slowing down, trusting God, and helping our minds and bodies experience the rest Jesus offers. If you've ever felt like your body can't relax—even when life finally slows down—this episode will encourage you to exchange striving for trust and exhaustion for God's peace. In This Episode * Why our bodies can stay in "survival mode" * How people-pleasing affects both our minds and our bodies * The connection between boundaries and peace * Why Jesus modeled rest for His followers * Three practical ways to begin experiencing God's peace again * Learning to replace control with trust QUESTIONS 1. Where in my life have I confused loving someone with carrying responsibilities that belong to them? 2. Have I slowly abandoned my own relationship with God, health, or calling while trying to take care of everyone else? 3. This week, what burden do I need to hand back to God instead of continuing to carry it myself? RELATED EPISODES EP: 29: Healthy Boundaries 101: What They Are and What They Are Not EP 30: The Midweek Reset: Healthy Boundaries Are More Yes Than No EP 31: Why Boundaries Are the Missing Piece of Organization EP 35: When Loving Others Means Losing Yourself RESOURCES & LINKS Purchase: I Choose Me Written By: Jennie Garth Amazon.com: I Choose Me: Chasing Joy, Finding Purpose & Embracing Reinvention (Audible Audio Edition): Jennie Garth, Jennie Garth, Harlequin Audio: Audible Books & Originals [https://www.amazon.com/Choose-Me-Chasing-Embracing-Reinvention/dp/B0FFBX1DF6/ref=sr_1_1?crid=8VBIHL286MLL&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.XYXpmvWi2ybvfQdyRMqbVRW9hf4hQgWfn2fYeHKFe6WSdU-ingH-IqQ5ZrtfeT41N4phIWIfyZC-acGz3bC3vdtlLXwI4sEOacffLTI1EFqI5ZhQISBCieaA5H5zDPKsDWELk2-SHkFTwlM-K-rLjLN_uMXp2Xnm5JVGQzfMKqN5nyo4RfQ_PCwuE_zYTNm_gEWcU9-zDGRXyAN25DGQV09EzK6AGhea3yDSqh3FkIU.JNcFGUIxOP5diQZPvVa1zVL3HB9SqiCqwPLRhDsbhbA&dib_tag=se&keywords=i+choose+me+book&qid=1782959144&sprefix=i+choose+me%2Caps%2C230&sr=8-1] Become a Healthy Boundaries for Moms Insider 🙌 Join the weekly newsletter for encouragement, practical strategies, boundaries support, organization tips, and Midweek Resets. Sign up for our Newsletter at: https://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com/connect [https://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com/connect] Join the Facebook Community: https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl [https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl] CONNECT WITH ME Website: www.healthyboundariesformoms.com [http://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com] Instagram: @healthyboundariesformoms TikTok: @healthyboundariesformoms Facebook Group: Healthy Boundaries for Moms👉 https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl Email: hello@healthyboundariesformoms.com PODCAST CREDITS Podcast: Healthy Boundaries for Moms with Lori Grimes Edited by William Grimes Music by JonasBlakewood from Pixabay

EP 35: When Loving Others Means Losing Yourself

In this episode, Lori shares a personal part of her own boundary journey and reflects on insights she gained while reading I Choose Me by Jennie Garth. She explores the difference between codependence and healthy interdependence, explains the concept of self-abandonment through a biblical lens, and unpacks what Galatians 6 teaches about carrying one another's burdens without taking responsibility for someone else's life. If you've ever struggled with people-pleasing, trying to fix others, or feeling responsible for everyone else's happiness, this episode offers hope and practical encouragement to help you become deeply rooted in Christ while loving others without losing yourself. In This Episode * My personal journey with codependency and people-pleasing * The difference between codependence and healthy interdependence * The powerful illustration of tangled vines versus healthy trees * What self-abandonment looks like in everyday life * How these same patterns can show up in motherhood * The biblical difference between carrying someone's burden and carrying someone's load * Why healthy boundaries allow us to love people without losing ourselves * Three questions to help identify unhealthy responsibility QUESTIONS 1. Where in my life have I confused loving someone with carrying responsibilities that belong to them? 2. Have I slowly abandoned my own relationship with God, health, or calling while trying to take care of everyone else? 3. This week, what burden do I need to hand back to God instead of continuing to carry it myself? RELATED EPISODES EP: 29: Healthy Boundaries 101: What They Are and What They Are Not EP 30: The Midweek Reset: Healthy Boundaries Are More Yes Than No EP 31: Why Boundaries Are the Missing Piece of Organization RESOURCES & LINKS Purchase: I Choose Me Written By: Jennie Garth Amazon.com: I Choose Me: Chasing Joy, Finding Purpose & Embracing Reinvention (Audible Audio Edition): Jennie Garth, Jennie Garth, Harlequin Audio: Audible Books & Originals [https://www.amazon.com/Choose-Me-Chasing-Embracing-Reinvention/dp/B0FFBX1DF6/ref=sr_1_1?crid=8VBIHL286MLL&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.XYXpmvWi2ybvfQdyRMqbVRW9hf4hQgWfn2fYeHKFe6WSdU-ingH-IqQ5ZrtfeT41N4phIWIfyZC-acGz3bC3vdtlLXwI4sEOacffLTI1EFqI5ZhQISBCieaA5H5zDPKsDWELk2-SHkFTwlM-K-rLjLN_uMXp2Xnm5JVGQzfMKqN5nyo4RfQ_PCwuE_zYTNm_gEWcU9-zDGRXyAN25DGQV09EzK6AGhea3yDSqh3FkIU.JNcFGUIxOP5diQZPvVa1zVL3HB9SqiCqwPLRhDsbhbA&dib_tag=se&keywords=i+choose+me+book&qid=1782959144&sprefix=i+choose+me%2Caps%2C230&sr=8-1] Become a Healthy Boundaries for Moms Insider 🙌 Join the weekly newsletter for encouragement, practical strategies, boundaries support, organization tips, and Midweek Resets. Sign up for our Newsletter at: https://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com/connect [https://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com/connect] Join the Facebook Community: https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl [https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl] CONNECT WITH ME Website: www.healthyboundariesformoms.com [http://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com] Instagram: @healthyboundariesformoms TikTok: @healthyboundariesformoms Facebook Group: Healthy Boundaries for Moms👉 https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl Email: hello@healthyboundariesformoms.com PODCAST CREDITS Podcast: Healthy Boundaries for Moms with Lori Grimes Edited by William Grimes Music by JonasBlakewood from Pixabay