If Only I Had...

Time Heals Nothing

We've all heard it, "Time heals all wounds."  We've all been told, "Hang in there, it’ll get better."  And you've also heard, "Just wait for time to take away your pain."  Or how about this one, "Just put on a happy smile. Grin and bear it."  Who says these kinds of things?  They are the ones who have not yet gone through the dark night of the soul; people who have not lost a spouse or a child or a parent... or a cherished, precious loved one.

If Only I Had...

Here are 21 statements I have heard from people whose loved one has died, and you may have heard some of these, too.  In fact, you may have even said some of them.  I certainly have.  They are common reactions within the grieving process.

More Ways to get Unstuck from Your Grief

Here’s some more ideas to help you move forward, to help you get unstuck in your grief. So, get a pen and paper or your journal and write these 6 things down.

Are You Stuck in Your Grief?

When you’re stuck in grief, you close yourself off from interactions in life that normally would be healthy for you. You’re so grieved, so full of sorrow that you close your world in. You start disengaging from life so as to control your world. But the more you disengage, the more you’ve cut off that life supply… and now you’re really, deeply stuck in grief.  Discover in this podcast how you can begin to become unstuck in your grief.

How to get out of that Awful Ditch of Grief

When we grieve, especially within those first absolutely awful six months to a year after our loved one has passed, we really do have a terrible tendency to turn within and avoid just about everything.  How do you and I get out of that awful ditch that’s right beside the track where Jesus is to pull us up so as to bring restoration and healing and reorganization and recovery into our painful grieving?  Discover how to do it in this podcast.